AIBU to tell him to pack his bags and tell him to f*** off with his chatroom scummy mummy?

[babyno5]

Long story short-this week I have discovered my partner of 14 years and father of my children has formed an online relationship (yep he's declaring undying live for her even tho she's 24 years his junior and he's never actually met her!). I have spent the week calmly gathering evidence but tomorrow morning I intend sending him a series of texts. First one telling home to collect his bags followed by the evidence I have gathered.
My sister thinks I'm being unreasonable as he hasn't actually slept with her!! Personally I find no this worse and more of a betrayal

Of course this is very hurtful. But no way is it the same as real-life affair.

I agree. Whereas I don't believe the OP is unreasonable for ending the relationship, I struggle to see how so many are equating a fantasy over the Internet with someone never met or spoken to, with a real life sexual and emotional affair with an actual person...

Update
Well 5 days after posting I find myself writing something I never imagined I would.
We have spoken for hours and hours and hours. Cried rivers on both parts. Told each other things we never had before. Upshot is we have agreed we are going to work bloody hard to save our relationship. It was in poor shape before his "online affair" so it will take a lot of work on both parts. Doing this for us, not the children.
I'm not sure why but I feel very proud of myself-think maybe at the ripe old age of 47 I might actually be a grown up now!
I know this won't be easy but I felt overwhelmed by the feelings of grief and it made me realise just how I still loved him.
Thanks all for advice and support last week xx

I wish you the best. But please don't try to do this on your own. Please seek counseling, both of you.

Thank you for the update. I really hope you succeed. Best wishes to you and your family.

Really? He has to sleep with her for you to feel betrayed and want him out?

Counselling is definitely a must for us. It's a marathon not a sprint 😀. Told him grand gestures will be frowned upon too! x

Been there. This is why I hate men. I will never ever ever ever everrrrr be with another man again. Staying single until the day I die. Men are cheating b**tards!!!!!!!

Men are cheating btards!!!!!!!

No they all really aren't. Just like women aren't all virtuous.

I'm sure there's a few exceptions to the rule Piglet. I don't doubt it in fact.

I just will never ever trust another man again. Clearly the only men attracted to me, fall under the category I describe above

Why would you need to work bloody hard to save it??
See you on your next cheated on post. .

Winteriscomingneedmorewood

Why would you need to work bloody hard to save it??
See you on your next cheated on post. .

Maybe because she thinks it's worth it?!

Nice hand hold there!!!!

OP I hope you & DH can work through this

Good luck OP, might be an idea to try some couples counselling to work through stuff.

usualGubbins

Wonder what he'll do if/when he finds out the woman of his dreams is a 55 year old labourer from Sheffield?

What's wrong with 55 year old laborers from Sheffield?

Thanks Winter!
We've got to 14 years before he's strayed so if we can work through it and get another 14 (good) years then to me that's worth it. We've both been at fault leading up to this and both think it's worth the hard work to try to make it work. If it doesn't then at least I know we tried. I know I've been a nightmare especially these past 7 years-2 breakdowns primarily caused by prioritising work. I'm happy to reassess my priorities and I believe he is too.
I'm sorry for those of you who have been hurt too in the past. Wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. Thank you for all the good wishes-def feeling the love xx

Well done OP

My DF had an affair with someone from work when he was 50ish, my DM forgave him and they had the best marriage ever until he passed away last year 35 years later.

Good luck OP-another saying counselling will help. There's a great liberation in being truthful with each other x