Am I lazy?

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Feeling a bit upset. I am currently off on maternity with a 2 week old EBF baby. DS 1 started reception this week and just coming to terms with school run. I literally drop off at school, home, then breastfeed in 3 hour stretches! Husband was grumpy with my this morning and when he finally told me why he said it is because I am inconsiderate because I didn't empty the tumble dryer and do the washing yesterday. He told me that he is doing more now he is off and he's not happy with it. He also called me lazy when I said I would start doing the shop online instead of going to aldi (I have done a food shop in person but left baby with my mum). I have a home cooked dinner on the table for him every night when he walks in and I do all the getting ready for school etc. He basically was annoyed as I went out yesterday to buy some new breast feeding friendly clothes (and jeans as had split my maternity ones ) and then had work colleagues over after school to see baby (their request and I did have to tidy the house for them). Feeling really blue now and he's not answering my messages either.

Glad to hear he's apologised op. That's a start at least.

Time to nip it in the bud though. I think a serious sit down to discuss situation is in order. Why is your DH not doing any school runs or cooking? I can only assume he works exceptionally long hours? In which case does he pitch in on weekends and if not why not?

It makes me feel quite sad knowing you even thought for a minute that he was right. He isn't and don't you forget it. The cakes thing in particular is the height of selfishness. He needs to get into the real world.

Best of luck with everything

I think some men can't bear not being centre of attention anymore when there's a newborn around tbh. Asking for home-made cake when you've a 2 week old baby is truly pathetic. Tell him to buy some Jaffa cakes! Good luck and congratulations on new baby!

I'm really glad he has apologised, but if he comes out with any more of that shit please tell him he's being an inconsiderate are and to fuck off for himself. Stand up for yourself girl or he'll get in the habit of twattery.

Sounds like he's the biggest DC of all!