To not go on a date with someone who works in a shop

[therealbridgetjones]

A friend of mine is trying to set me up with a friend of hers. I don't know much about him other than he is my age and works in a shop. He lives at home with his parents (early thirties).

I'm in my late twenties. I'm intelligent, have a career, earn above average and have my own house. I've lived away from my parents for about ten years and am completely independent.

I've worked in retail and to be honest it made me work bloody hard at university because I didn't want to end up back there!

My friend seems shocked and calls me snobby because I don't want to go on a date with her friend. She thinks I'm a gold digger but this couldn't be further from the truth! Her argument is that it's about the person and not their ambitions etc but surely this is a part of a person? I'm attracted to intelligence, ambition and independence.

So AIBU to not consider a date with this person?

Whattodo, you date who you want due to your criteria and let others do the same.

I won't be dating or asking anyone for their number; I'm already happily married to my childhood sweetheart.

Why do so many of you feel the need join in?

People answering a question on AIBU? Oh the horror!

Good for you. Stop telling singletons what to do then.

This is so funny...

Good for you. Stop telling singletons what to do then.

I haven't told anyone what to do.

Women: don't have standards! You're terribly rude if you won't date someone who you think you have nothing in common with!

FFS! It's all a bit "know your limits" isn't it?

hairymaryquitecontrary Gone back to making things up again, then?

Being so provocative and then repeatedly bleating about how funny it all is, is what marks you out as deliberately goady silver.

Provocative? Seriously, there is nothing controversial here.

hairymaryquitecontrary Gone back to making things up again, then?

Nah, I'm leaving that to you. You're so good at it.

Women: don't have standards! You're terribly rude if you won't date someone who you think you have nothing in common with!

Can you seriously not see the difference between "I have a dating wish list based on compatibility" and "I work hard and want the same in a partner therefore I won't date a shop worker"?

Or the difference between thinking something and posting it on AIBU?

Have no idea what you're talking about serf. Maybe its people like you that can't understand that others have their own criteria on who they want to date, or not.
Yes I do find it funny when others are so judgemental that they can't accept that.
I also think that people who call others "goady" are the actual nasties.
But there again that is only my perspective on things.

Provocative? Seriously, there is nothing controversial here.

I think it was pretty controversial when you tried to imply that whatever job I do is beneath working in a shop (which you've already implied you think is beneath a person anyway).

I don't think you're managing to understand my posts silver if that's your honest grasp of what I've said.

I'll repeat for your benefit;

Can you seriously not see the difference between "I have a dating wish list based on compatibility" and "I work hard and want the same in a partner therefore I won't date a shop worker"?

I will also leave you to eat each other as usual.

Yes that might help restore order and goodwill quickly. Thanks.

Can you seriously not see the difference between "I have a dating wish list based on compatibility" and "I work hard and want the same in a partner therefore I won't date a shop worker

Oh I see what you did! You missed some words off to make it look like you had a good point. Sneaky!
I work hard and want the same in a partner therefore I won't date a shop worker....who works part time and lives with his parents
Fixed that for you.

My son works in a supermarket as he can't get a job in the really competitive field he studied at university. He did choose to experience living with others rather than with mum at the expense of having less money.

He is intelligent and he and his friends spend hours talking politics, philosophy, religion and music and also trying to fix the world.

My advice is don't judge a book by his cover. Can you meet socially with friends rather than just the two of you going on a date. You may be pleasantly surprised.

Yes, that is exactly what I said serf. No I will not date a bloke of 30 that lives with his mother and works in a shop. To me that smacks of going nowhere, I personally have been a bit more of a go getter and want the same. That is my perrogative. I also stated that people that call others goady are the nasty ones on here.

Which (important) words so you think I missed hairy?

that post says it all serf, its goady very goady

Pretty sure this thread will end up in Daily Mail.

Convoluted i was just about to post the same.

Would it actually hurt you to be nice?

You've seen retail employees come onto the thread and express hurt. Lots of them. Don't you get it?

Which (important) words so you think I missed hairy?

The ones I added on to your quote, in handy italics and all for you to see more clearly? You know, the ones that make all the difference?

work hard and want the same in a partner therefore I won't date a shop worker...who works part time and lives with his parents

Bolded that for you, since making it completely obvious the first time didn't help you.