To by upset that my husband pressured me to give him a handjob

[onecrazycook]

This morning my husband wanted sex. I've been feeling under the weather this week and just was not in the mood. It's super rare that I turn him down, but I'm just not feeling it today.

He basically got really huffy about it and demanded I give him a handjob instead, which I was also obviously not in the mood for. I said no, but this caused to to accuse my of not loving him and "not wanting to do husband and wife things" and I ended up doing it to save the argument. When it was over I was in tears and he can't understand why I was upset.

I've just let it blow over because I don't want to fight with him.

AIBU?

Maybe you should show him this thread OP? Show him how appallingly he's treated you.

Agree your expectations of men are sadly low yorkshire

How did your conversation go OP? Hope you're ok

Justaboy wanking alongside an ill woman while whispering sweet nothings in her ear is equally as vile as demanding a handjob if she didn't want it. Saying nice things does not cancel out a sexual assault.

Jesus bloody Christ you don't have to take that literally! Its the principle, shes not interested as shes not too well, he's frustrated and should just relieve the pressure on himself and that shouldn't take long be that in bed shower wherever!. Asking for her to do a hand job is bloody daft of him he should know better.

Hope you're ok Op.

My husband did something similar a while ago. We are still together, but it made me see him in a different light and my feeling changed towards him.

When I stopped and thought about our sex life, I realised there had been a fair bit of coerced over the years. I've tried to get past it as we have DC's but once you understand the mentality behind it's a total passion killer. The mentality extends into other areas of our life too sadly. Pretty common apparently.

Sounds like my bf tbh