To think if a boy hits my daughter then yes it is different to if a girl does

[ouchthathurtsabit]

Preparing to be flamed as this is a controversial issue.

I'm a mum of a girl and 2 boys. My daughter came home with a red mark on her face saying that a boy- known for hurting others- had punched her in the face because she had gone in front of him in the queue. The boy was spoken to and it was dealt with. The children are 8 and in year 3.

So I spoke to the teacher and said I was glad it was dealt with and that I was sure my daughter would be fine but it would probably be helpful for this boy to know that it's unacceptable to hurt or hit anyone but that hitting a girl in the face is really not acceptable.

The teacher then had a massive rant at me saying that there is absolutely no difference and that's a very dangerous thing to be teaching children and it would not be an appropriate thing to say in school.

Whist I do understand what she was tryouts g to say, I do try and explain to my boys that In our society, no matter what age you are, if you hit a female then it is completely unacceptable and that no matter what a girl does or says to you then if you respond with physical violence then it's not acceptable. Males are generally bigger and stronger. Am I completely wrong in thinking at 8 years old this could be mentioned? Because I don't know! I know if one of my boys hit a girl in the face I would be a tiny bit more mortified than if it was a girl

We have continually said that all violence is wrong as the absolute default starting point. This is what @Gotta said:

By the reasoning of some posters on this issue, a girl child hitting a boy would be nothing to be that concerned about?

Nobody has suggested or implied that this is the case and Gotta has been unable to substantiate her comments, in a similar fashion to some of the spurious stats quoted by @Boney, who has sought to deflect the paucity of her arguments onto @Walking. All good fun really!

If all violence is wrong why do we need to say anymore?

Marinade

I see that even though you don't want to engage you are still throwing rubbish around.

Walkingdead11

I see that you are still ignoring information or twisting it to make your point.

60/40 is not 50/50. unless you have poor math skills.

@Boney, you throw out those stats and then label my comments as rubbish... Right.... Got it...

Marinade

Good to know that you have "got" something.

@Boney - yes.... my life and intellect have now changed immeasurably since I have been able to avail myself of your ahem 'knowledge'...

Marinade

Good to know.

@Boney Well there must be a first time for everything I guess.... By the way where did you get those stats from?? Just in case I need to quote the source of my new found wisdom..

Marinade

your intellect may have gone up but your comprehension skills are lacking.

Marinade why do you need stats about reported adult crimes when this is about an 8 year old? You do realise that a. not all crimes are reported so the figures won't be accurate anyway and b. the age of criminal responsibility is 10 so wouldn't even be relevant to an 8 year old.

If the stats aren't crime stats then they are just made up because what goes on behind closed doors isn't known unless someone reports it.

@Boney, am I missing something? I refer to a previous post (copied below) where you seemed to imply that DV had a 60/40 split but are now back tracking to argue that 40% reflects a minority? And my comprehension skills are lacking? God what a powerhouse of intellect you are!!

Bony

Sorry but 😂😂😂 YOU did just that by suggesting dv had 60/40 split....please own your shit

Threads move on granny

Quite often a thread about one situation starts a theme of another

Some posters believe their is a valid link others dont

walking can talk about what she likes...its up to other posters to ignore that if they want to

I know you know this, just felt it was worth repeating

Look at that their instead of there

Deradful

Well for fucks sake I have indeed seen the light!!! It was sooooo simple all along.......all we have to do to stop abuse, rape, sexual assault, murder, torture and all the other nasties is to teach our privellaged sons that equality of hitting is all that matters and all the other stuff will just magically disappear and we can hold hands round the camp fire singing cum by yar (sorry dont know how to spell it).....

Fucking hell

Dreadful

I give up

Im going to read...i used to do that once upon a time

Kumbaya my Lord, kumbaya,

Feeling helpful

Marinade

I think Bony got the 60/40 stat from 'womenareallbitchcunts.org' ??

In my house...not that it's important...no one is supposed to hit anyone

But the big one is in more trouble if they hit the two smaller ones

The medium one is in more trouble if they hit the small one

Whats funny is the small one is going to be bigger than both the big one and the medium one

But now they are older they only play fight

Rufustherenegadereindeer1

Thanks!! 😊

@Boney's obviously operating on a different level to the rest of us obtuse and intellectually challenged minions... A level where stats on central issues such as DV incidences are seemingly twisted to support an ideological argument that appears to be based on ignoring the fundamental reality of male / female violence.

If you find Boneys posts too difficult I recommend Grannytomine's posts.

Or even just this one. 12 words in total

If all violence is wrong why do we need to say anymore?


No offence intended to you Grannytomine but perhaps your brevity will assist comprehension.

From Page 1, there has been unanimous agreement that all violence should be strongly discouraged.

Hands up anyone who tells their boys or girls to go out into the world and smack people? Anyone?

All I am saying is, that I want my son to have a certain kind of integrity when it comes to girls / women because of the obvious inherent differences between male and female. An extra awareness, if you like.

I have an extra awareness about certain people and I have principles that guide my behaviour as a result.

Shoot me now!

Oh its you again Lass...... Lovely to hear from you... So lets get this right.... All violence is wrong and that is ALL we need to say? Gosh, here's me thinking we live in world that the perpetrators of violence in a domestic sense are mainly men and the vast majority of victims are women and so violence is disproportionately meted out to women? Sorry where is anyone's comprehension lacking or are you just getting stuck in for the sake of being rude?

Marinade Marinade Marinade

You silly billy.......it's 60/40!!! Which is not too short of 50/50.....all violence between males and females is equal!!!! The prisons are full of women rapists, murderers etc............oh wait..................🤔