@lasswiththedelicatehair
Yes I fully understand the concept of self defence which was my point. A PP poster said a girl should be punished for using violence against sexual assault.
Lots of posters are also saying if a boy is attacked by a boy they should not defend themselves physically.
Loads and loads of posters are saying all violence is wrong and by saying otherwise sends the message it is ok to hit boys.
My argument is, you are now saying 'well actually, now you come to mention it, SOME violence IS ok if it's self defence'
BUT, when many of us have said that is the only circumstance we tell our sons it is acceptable to hit, when they are under personal attack, we are being told that we are sending the message it is ok to hit girls by default.
Absolute horseshit.
I have raised 3 children. NONE of whom are violent, have instigated violence or are confused in any way about the fact hitting is wrong. In no way is my son more likely to instigate toward a boy than a girl. The message is loud and clear.
NEVER instigate violence. Hitting is wrong.
If you are under physical attack and are in danger from someone of equal stature and power then you have the right to defend yourself physically. Absolutely.
But son, you need to understand that as when you become a grown up you will be much stronger and more physically powerful than the majority of women. Therefore, as a society we look at violence against women from men in the same way as if you get hit by a year 3 boy do you understand?
"Yes mum, I know never to defend myself against someone smaller than weaker than me by fighting back"
That's right.
Job done. No confused kids in my house.
Kids don't live in a vacuum. They have all grown up witnessing sexual harassment, cat calling, etc and also notice it doesn't happen when daddy is with mummy. If you think boys don't learn early power imbalances between men and women then you are extremely naive.
8 is a bloody good age to address this.