To be fed up of Instamums 2

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Yes, Asbo. Made my heart sink a bit really. I can see how the arrangement is beneficial to both of them (although the IGr doesn't have a massive following), but why dress it up as a competition? A shame.
I guess it would be hard to prove that it wasn't a complete coincidence so nothing would be done about it.

Abso* sorry!

On another note, I discovered someone last night I follow that I presumed was a personal account, actually has a business account and "promotes" for followers. Doesn't bother me as such, but wish they'd be a little more transparent on that (and think from having 15k followers but only ever 3-500 likes on on each post they've paid for followers too) The thing is, some of these people I follow clearly have self esteem issues, and I can see from conversations with a few like this, that SM takes over their life. Ive seen some purposely record conversations with their phones in their hands seemingly innocent, and then posting on stories, as their "fans" watch it. It just shows a whole weirdness to social media full stop.

FOD and MOD off to a charity trip has been handled a lot better this last week. I liked both of their posts about it. MOD tagged charitytrip as a hashtag. There does seem a small business involved as well, but I have a huge amount of respect for both of them for how they've seemingly changed their posts recently. They're back to the guys I started following for a reason.

Everyone has probably gone now and I'm talking to no one but FOD crafts his ads very well. Renault are paying him to showcase their family wagons (whatever the model), clearly have given them a car. He wraps up the ads in a video about his girls Thinking he is 'uncool', and the convo takes place in the car. It's brilliant. He does #ad which is the only way I would have known it was an ad. If I had a gazillion kids seeing a video like that would have piqued my interest about the car.

Haven't rtft (sorry, it's very long!) however there's an instamum that really grates. She's called The Young Mummy on Insta, think her name is Sophie Cachia. She's Insta famous from posting photos of her kids/belly/husband and being 'honest' about parenting. The thing that annoys me is her ' I'm so normal, this me bearing all' when really no love, you're not normal. Most mums aren't married to footballers, don't get their hair and makeup done professionally every other day, aren't friends with well known models. Every so often she'll throw in a swear word or talk about her kids shit and be like #mumlife. She's made a career out of it. When she was trying for her second baby she crapped on about how difficult ttc is and her fertility struggles (trying to relate again see). She got pregnant quickly and quite frankly her bloody 'fertility struggles' were non existent and just more attention seeking bullshit. She's had 2 bloody kids (naturally, no intervention) in the time frame that I'm still trying.

Fuck that was cathartic.

I feel like MOD and FOD have taken note and have enjoyed their posts and stories - much more natural

@eatabagofdicks this is exactly what my insta famous sister is like. Given I've had two miscarriages in 4 months, her banging on about her on existent struggle to conceive makes me want to smash my phone. Unfortunately I tried to unfollow her, she noticed and the mother of all family arguments ensued. Her SM life is so much more important to her than RL, to the extent that she is all "oh hey babe hope everything is ok" on SM but can find the time to even text to ask if I'm ok. It's what annoys me so much, the fake niceness and solidarity with their "mum tribe" but zero actual care for the real people in their lives!

eatabagofdicks that's interesting, I like her! She's very honest and upfront. I believe her hubby is actually unemployed.. he had a very short lived footy career not making the AFL (or very brief if he did, he's only 26) and she's been the main bread winner since, he stays home with the kids . I commend her for being as successful as she is- she ain't no WAG.

eatabagofdicks actually I think he does still play in a professional district league but not national.

Leeeleeee MOD &FOD and Motherpukka have been gifted Renault Cars for 1 year. They have cameras in them for the year. In my opinion the car is not really big enough for a 4 kid family with twins as they need double buggies or 2 travel cots when they travel, therefore the boot is too small and they have to have 3 kids in the middle and 1 in the rear with half the rear row used as storage. Not great for the kid in the back or the kid in the centre of twins! But anyway at some point they must've been open about this as I definitely remember reading about it.

FOD needs to use paragraphs in his ads posts, they're painful to read.

He's dyslexic though, which means his posts have frequent typos and also no formatting x

I didn't know he's dyslexic. He's does a great job. I like it, it's like a long flowing speech bubble.

It's pretty hard for a dyslexic to read, though.

@Leeeleeee I think what bugs me though is her honesty (to me anyway) doesn't come across as genuine. I think I'd prefer if she just said 'I'm super lucky to get invited to certain events, know famous people, get my hair and make up done regularly, got pregnant easily'. But instead she tries to behave like her life is just like the average person, and it's not. The fact that her husband is well known has opened doors for her, and fair enough, why shouldn't it? But don't act like your just unknowns being average and living a common life.
I really like women like Megan Gale on instagram (Australian model who Sophie knows) she's never full of shit. There was some article that came out ages ago saying how she'd had these struggles conceiving at 40 blah blah (this was for her first child). And she actually came out and said 'no, I conceived easily and was incredibly lucky. I would never want to marginalise the struggles that some women have trying to conceive.'

@StillMissV sorry about your miscarriages. I had one a while ago and it's awful.
That would drive me crazy!! She sounds like a peach!
There's a SM mum that I love, Part Time Working Mummy. She posts a lot of stuff about her kids etc but I find her really genuine and she does loads of work for domestic violence. She's raised a lot of funds.

If the Renault ads are going to go on for a year I don't know why they don't appear as sponsored ad's in the feed like other ad's so you have the opportunity to turn them off??

hashtag1890 because it's influencer marketing.

Ahh ok didn't even know that was a thing. Goes back to the main problem then that these things are being fed to us as a genuine lifestyle as part of their normal feed but sometimes its advertising. #ad at the bottom mixed in with a load of other hashtags looks like it's trying to be hidden to me.

To be fair to FOD as well, it can be difficult to paragraph on Instagram, it seems to have its own rules and formatting,it changes mine constantly!!

Saw today that Susie Verrill is now going to be hash tagging #ipaidforthis because "if there's one thing to be learnt from this whole mumsnet thing it's that we need more honesty"! Oh wow, THANKS, Susie, for pointing out what we were all banging on about 2 weeks ago while you were calling us (and some of your followers" bitches

So do we now presume that she hasn't paid for everything else? Should she be hashtagging advert or freebie as well? Or is the disclaimer that it's paid for on this occasion enough?

And yes. Love that she's given it enough time to think about

@bubbleanimal this made me laugh 😂 now they are all hash tagging we will see what they are getting . Pity they couldn't have been as Up front in the beginning

SV just isn't getting this, is she.

Re the interesting comment about the trip; I work in voluntary/charity sector comms and I though it was interesting that a charity partnered with them.