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Lost my best friend over my period!!

283 replies

Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 11:57

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

OP posts:
ethelfleda · 27/08/2017 19:11

YANBU! Miserable witch!

SunshineLollipopsRainbows25 · 27/08/2017 19:18

what a bitch, she should have let you even if she walked in front and you held it behind not actually touching your bum! she sounds like a nob

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 27/08/2017 19:29

Good chat with my friend about it she was told a completely different version lol! I was shocked! I pulled out my text as proof as it's been "read" ( WhatsApp) can't believe her cheek!! My friend thinks it's out of order of her and we both agreed we would both help out a lady in need :)

OP posts:
ScissorBow · 27/08/2017 19:54

I love the way other posters are telling the OP how her periods start based on theirs. Because we're not all individuals or anything Hmm

OP as you've seen others would have come to your aid so your friend was bang out of order. Also if you didn't come back the least she could have done is phoned or messaged you to see if you're OK/coming back.

Well rid of that friendship.

ScissorBow · 27/08/2017 19:55

What story was she told @Forheavenssake ?

JustMe77 · 27/08/2017 19:57

I kind of had something similar many years ago except i was on a big night out at a super club with a group of friends and someone must have spilt blackcurrant or red wine on a seat before we went and sat down. I was wearing white sateen trousers and it took a few minutes for me to realise it i was absorbing said liquid. Luckily it was the end of the night, unluckily however as everyone was pouring out the club my friends decide not to walk behind me as agreed and shout loudly to all that could hear that id got my period and leaked Blush. Luckily i had a jacket which i wrapped round my waist and shivered the miserable journey home in a crop top at 6 in the morning.
I didnt wrap it round my waist and shove it between my legs so it was fine....im sure you wouldnt have either if you had her precious jacket.

DarthLipgloss · 27/08/2017 20:07

I have a bit of a crush on him...dont know if it's reciprocated....ill let you know how we get on

flumpybear · 27/08/2017 20:08

I take it you've got a copper coil as I know from friends they give you heavy and slightly random periods

Your friend was plain nasty - who the hell does that to a mate?! She needs to get her priorities straight

Carriecakes80 · 27/08/2017 20:21

You poor bugger....This happened to my mate in a club, she had to be wearing the whitest of white jeans, and as we sat in our booth she started to cry....she whispered what had happened and I had to think fast as she was mortified...I went and ordered a blackcurrent Rum, came back, started pretending to fight with her, then threw it over her lap....she was so grateful.
We got up, still pretending to argue, me following her really close behind in case anyone could see the back, and we left without anyone even looking twice lol.

YANBU, I am so sorry you found out this cow wasn't a mate...I wouldn't care how expensive my coat was, I would never let anyone go through that, :-( xxxxxxx

GwenStaceyRocks · 27/08/2017 20:24

tbh it all sounds very dramatic and I've been in a similar situation twice. Why couldn't you use your own jacket? Why did you walk out instead of going to the bathroom?

44PumpLane · 27/08/2017 20:28

Gwen
I assume OP didn't have a jacket..... and what do you propose she do in the bathroom? Remove her trousers and knickers, give them a good wash in the sink while naked from the waist down and then stand them under the hand dryer?

Plus, have you ever tried to get period blood out of trousers- they need to go straight in the wash!

Gemini69 · 27/08/2017 20:30

Gwen read the OP's post Hmm

GwenStaceyRocks · 27/08/2017 20:34

44 YY I have had to get period blood out of trousers (see the start of my post). It's why I wouldn't ask for a friend's jacket - which is more likely to need dry cleaned rather than washed.
What I would have done in the toilets is checked to see how noticeable it actually was, if the worst of it could be dabbed out, etc. It's hardly controversial to suggest going to the toilet if you're leaking and if the OP felt the need to strip naked then she could have used the disabled toilet for privacy.

peepoo · 27/08/2017 20:42

This thread has been an eye opener. I didn't even know other people spotted before a period! That's never happened to me. Op (sorry if this has been resolved, I haven't RTFT) she's a dick and I too would offer my coat/jacket!!

Lovingit81 · 27/08/2017 20:46

Unforgivable OP. Poor you Flowers

LML83 · 27/08/2017 21:05

I think your friend may be so self centered she doesn't even know how wrong she was or why you would leave!

better off without her OP

strawberrisc · 27/08/2017 21:06

As I was scrolling through I noticed another poster saying what I was going to say - that it's really unusual for her to act so out of character after 19 years of friendship!

The only other thing that occurred to me, especially as she's STILL pissed off and telling people you abandoned her was this. Was she really drunk? She might only recall the part where you abandoned her. If you'd posted this thread before texting her I'd be advising you to text her to ask how she could let you do the humiliating walk of shame.

user1489675144 · 27/08/2017 21:06

Wow poor you.

She is not a friend at all. Move on she is selfish and spend no more time with her or even thinking about her.

socubatevira · 27/08/2017 21:23

She's s cunt, not a friend. A cunt.

jessebuni · 27/08/2017 22:23

You aren't insane. Honestly...I can't believe a friend would act that way.

If one of my good friends of family members were in your situation then I would do anything I could to help without a second thought. If i saw a stranger in that situation I would also help though if my clothes were my best ones then I might hesitate but I'd probably still do it because really let's face it, if it were us in OPs place we'd want someone to help us. Nearly any woman I know would try to help if they could. It's very odd, I mean your friend's jacket aside, it's just odd that she didn't seem to be willing to offer any kind of help at all.

AuldHeathen · 27/08/2017 22:32

Generous conclusion: friend is a bit hard of thinking and failed to realise how bad it was. Both OP and friend sitting down after all, and in a booth. But, nah, no friend would leave you in the lurch like that. Though it seems several people on MN don't understand how bad a heavy period can be. Hope you are ok, OP.

38cody · 28/08/2017 00:02

Depends on the jacket- if it was cream silk any stain would be hard to get out. A dark colour and she was BVU

No - it doesn't depend - no matter what - I would help any woman
In that situation let alone s friend!

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 28/08/2017 00:26

I assume OP didn't have a jacket.....

She didn't mention if she had or not.

Abbylee · 28/08/2017 01:32

Even if the coat was cashmere, she could have gone home for you. There is seldom just one answer. I did the same in 5th grade! More shame decades later.

HelenaDove · 28/08/2017 03:16

My last period came suddenly with a gush but in my case i wear TENA due to an overactive bladder so im not usually caught out.

I sometimes carry a denim jacket with me this time of year in case it gets a bit nippy and i would happily have loaned you that OP to tie round your waist ............no biggie.

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