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Lost my best friend over my period!!

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Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 11:57

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

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Loreleigh · 28/08/2017 16:52

You shouldn't have had to ask her - she should've offered. A real friend would have tried to spare you any further embarrassment - at the very least accepted your offer to clean any marks left on a borrowed item. I feel for you - hope you are OK and that you have better nights out with better friends in future. I'd sooner have lost a good coat than a friend and am gobsmacked that another woman would behave so badly towards you and to not care about your feelings or you having to negotiate your way through a busy pub etc. The diplomatic response is probably to try and forget about it and move on - the other is to tell her what a bitch she was! Just as a side note...I once spotted a woman on the high street that had a rather obvious and presumably unnoticed 'leak' - others looked and looked away, saying nothing...I approached her calmly, told her, and walked with her like a human shield to the nearest loo and gave her sanitaryware I had on me - she was upset but appreciated not being left to wander with it getting worse and more noticeable.

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 29/08/2017 11:09

Hi all
Though ild let you in on this mornings text!
" you left me there ! I had to get a taxi home.it was an accident no need for dramas.my cardi was expensive and would of been destroyed!. I have not texted as you seem angry so let it lay."
Omg ! DESTROYED??
She a idiot! I replied
Blood is not acid! Take care
Iv washed my hands with her she's mad because I said she could stay at mine but she had to get a taxi home ! Selfish cow
Can't believe iv known this person all this time and only just realised how odd and selfish she is !!!
Lesson learnt.underestimate no one!

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Veterinari · 29/08/2017 11:28

I would spell out to her that she left you to do a humiliating walk covered in blood across a crowded pub, because she values her jacket over your friendship.

After making her priorities quite clear, and leaving you in the lurch, why exactly did she think she would still be entitled to a free bed for the night?

5BlueHydrangea · 29/08/2017 11:39

So why didn't she leave the pub with you in the first place??

Ladymadness · 29/08/2017 11:42

She's a selfish cow op who needs enemy's when you've got friends like her

JulietNeverMetRomeo · 29/08/2017 11:46

She is a nasty piece of work, unfortunately she lacks compassion or insight and sounds like a massive drama queen. You are better off without her.

Aeroflotgirl · 29/08/2017 11:49

Why don't you spell it out to her, she sounds really thick. Its not your blooming cardi love, its your lack of care, compassion, you did nothing to try and help. You were happy for me to sit there humiliated, just so your alright jack. That is not a good friend.

Saysomething88 · 29/08/2017 11:50

Show her this thread

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Forheavenssake · 29/08/2017 12:04

I'm going to post her the link to the thread I think I feel like then she can see how much I valued her and how little she thought of me (us)

Would it be a little spiteful? And childish ? Dunno. My other friend said jus block her

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PyongyangKipperbang · 29/08/2017 12:13

I wouldnt bother. It wont make a blind bit of difference because either a) she is so selfish and self obsessed that she wont countenance the idea that she might be wrong or b) she knows she is in the wrong and is being defensive to try and justify shitty behaviour by shifting the blame onto you.

Either way, it wont change her attitude or her belief that its you who are the problem. Block and forget.

AlpacaPicnic · 29/08/2017 12:23

Hmmm, so I deduce she was hanging out with you because you live conveniently close to the pub and she needed somewhere to stay.
Double decker cunt bus.

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Forheavenssake · 29/08/2017 12:26

Well we planned the night before hand, she asked to stay so she didn't need to get taxi etc which of course is fine and we are close to the pub. I don't know what the hell her problem is but I'm done il no longer have contact if she had come and spoken to me or even replied days ago when I texted things would be different but I'm done

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Forheavenssake · 29/08/2017 12:26

Double decker cunt bus !!!
Omg I'm using this lol x

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SapphireStrange · 29/08/2017 13:07

Oh, sack her off. She's not worth your texts, or the effort of sending her the thread.

You need nicer friends.

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Forheavenssake · 29/08/2017 13:08

Agree.

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Straycatblue · 29/08/2017 19:52

She genuinely seems to lack insight about how this situation was embarrassing and how her not helping you was so hurtful & shocking.

At least her reply shows there is no ambiguity about what happened and her lack of remorse tells you all you need to know about the friendship.

Theimpossiblegirl · 29/08/2017 20:07

Not that it even matters, but you wouldn't have got blood on it, you weren't planning on sitting on it, just using it to cover yourself while you walked home.
Your ex-friend is a selfish cow.

1900LB · 30/08/2017 09:27

I would send her it! You haven't bad mouthed her at all, and everyone agrees she was being a bad friend

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Forheavenssake · 30/08/2017 09:42

I sent it to my other friend lol she said she wanted to send it too.

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Gemini69 · 30/08/2017 15:19

your friend is poison lovely.. stay happy Flowers

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Forheavenssake · 30/08/2017 15:37

Thanks Gemini x

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TheMaddHugger · 01/09/2017 11:32

(((((((Hugs)))))))))) Forheavenssake🌺🌸🌼🌸🌺

morningconstitutional2017 · 01/09/2017 19:03

In those bad old days before I hit the menopause I kept a note in my diary of when the next one was due, by counting up say 26-28 days after the first day of the last period. This is pretty accurate unless you're unluckily unpredictable.

I think it only failed me perhaps three times in maybe forty years which isn't so bad. Like a good girl guide it helps to 'be prepared' if it's at all possible. Accidents will happen though - we're not machines after all.

SomeOtherFuckers · 01/09/2017 19:06

Fuck her ... fuck her entirely

iMogster · 13/09/2017 19:29

If I had a black jacket I would have lent it to you, chances are nothings getting on it. For any friend, not just a best friend!

If it was a white silk jacket, I would have said stay in the ladies toilets and give me your keys. I would have then gone down the road and got clean knickers, trousers and sanitary stuff and some wipes and a plastic bag for the dirty clothes. Then I would have asked you if you wanted to stay in pub or head home early and have wine and chats at yours.

The fact she then bad mouths you to other friends and complains about taxi home is astonishing. Double decker cunt bus!