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Lost my best friend over my period!!

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Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 11:57

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

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HelenaDove · 28/08/2017 03:23

Ive had the sneezing thing too.

GetOutOfMYGarden · 28/08/2017 04:22

YANBU OP. She had the opportunity to loan you the coat instead of the jacket, she could have run to yours and grabbed something, she could have walked immediately behind you.

It's not the jacket. She's just a knob.

vikingprincess81 · 28/08/2017 06:10

I approached a young lady (around 20) in the street when she was wearing white jeans and had obviously had a flood. She was mortified as it had just happened and she was trying to get home, whipped off my scarf, she tied it round her waist, I checked it was all good from the back, and off she went. Never saw her or the scarf again (she did thank me profusely and offered to pay for it which I refused) and I'd do it again, and would hope others would do the same for me not that I'd ever chance wearing white jeans because I'd spill stuff on them can't fathom a 'friend' not helping you out. Sounds like she's still snarky - is there anything else going on there?

Rebecca563 · 28/08/2017 06:39

YANBU!!!! A friend would've offered! Christ, if it had happened to me I'd have given you the sodding coat and bought a new one if I was that bothered about it touching you. Do not contact this woman, she is not a friend to you and clearly doesn't see you as one! Very sorry you found out this way :(

SunshineLollipopsRainbows25 · 28/08/2017 09:11

when I was a teenager I fell asleep on my boyfriends couch leaning on his chest (this was his parents house) I woke up turned out I'd dribbled all on chest and bled through my jeans onto the couch... omg the horror!! hope that story makes you feel better 😄

Rebecca563 · 28/08/2017 09:32

Asked my friend about this just now and she said the same! Not only that but she would - and HAS! - helped like this for a complete stranger never mind a friend.

Can't believe anyone would have let you feel that way

SomeBerryJam · 28/08/2017 09:37

That's awful. I'd have given you my jacket, even if I didn't know you. It's a horrible thing to happen. She's no friend. She's a materialistic bitch, but not a friend.

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Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 10:10

Morning
Nope she was not drunk we had a drink then food then drink was a nice night overall.
We was sat down in booth when I felt it, said to her oh shit !
She sat next to me had a look with me lol ( as you do) I said omg is it at the back?
She said yes.
I said Can I please borrow jacket ( I had no coat/jacket.
She said what for?
I said just wanna tie it round me whilst I quickly pop back
She said very sternly NO!
I said please mate my tops not long enough to give any cover
She said no again that it's new
I said please, i only need To tie it if the worst happens il wash it you'll have it back tomorrow I said it's early so il get washed quickly then we can carry on etc
She said no it's expensive so I got up finished my drink said thanks a lot
And walked out. Went home.
The leak was bad enough to be very noticed as I unfortunately had on skinny beige high waisted trousers with a cropped to so no length on top either I didn't take coat as I live so close.
Gutted tbh
Oh well.

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Salva · 28/08/2017 11:11

I can't believe she didn't offer to walk you home, check if you were ok or anything. What did she expect you to do? She actually told you she could see it, what a cow.
Was she out last night?

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 11:14

She was out but I did not see her it was Saturday I met with a friend

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Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 11:15

She posted on Facebook a quote and picture of two hands holding
" true friends are friends forever" something stupid like that !
I want to comment " not if the river runs red !" Grin but I shouldn't lol

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Salva · 28/08/2017 11:16

Haha you should! But I wouldn't either...
Karma will get her

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 11:18

Karma is my religion:)

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Roomster101 · 28/08/2017 11:20

She sounds really selfish. I think that most people would have let you borrow the jacket even if they first stated that you needed to make sure you gave it back clean and/or bought a new one. It is possible that you have a history that would suggest to her that she may not get it back clean which would make her reluctant but her outright refusal suggests she is no friend.

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Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 11:22

Absolutely not she knows me well and knows how I love things decent clean and tidy I would never ruin it and hand it back lol! Just not me I would of bought her new (if marked) and washed (if not marked)

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Aeroflotgirl · 28/08/2017 11:45

Forheavens your best off without her. She sounds very cold and uncaring, leave aside her jacket, fair enough she might not want to use it, but to not help you, or call to see if your ok, speaks volumes. I would delete her from FAcebook. You never know, similar might happen to her, when she has to rely on the kindness of a friend. Like others have said, there are other options that she could have helped you with, but she sat there and let you be humiliated, and placed the blame on you. Who needs enemies, when you have 'friends' like this!

Shemozzle · 28/08/2017 11:45

Wow, what a bitch! I'd be tempted to be brave and shame her on Facebook. You can choose who doesn't view it so only mutual friends see it. Then delete her. Don't make it easy for this Bitch and uncomfortable for you. I too would have given my jacket to a stranger in this situation.

Aeroflotgirl · 28/08/2017 11:46

Oh and comment on her Facebook, not 'not if you have to rely on the kindness of a friend".

morningconstitutional2017 · 28/08/2017 12:01

That was mean and selfish of her. If you were my friend I'd offer to go to a nearby shop, buy sanpro, pants and trousers, walk behind you to get to the ladies and generally help in any way I could.

It's a bit late now but for next time I'd maybe at least wear a mini towel for around four/five days beforehand to be on the safe side.

We shouldn't feel embarrassed about something that's completely natural but the 'big red patch' at the back of the trousers/skirt is something which we all dread, don't we?

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 28/08/2017 12:08

Absolutely

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bemusedmoose · 28/08/2017 12:53

Leave her to her crappy jacket! What a horrible person. I would have offered my jacket straight away or offered to dash home and get you something. What an utter bitch.

KirstyLaura · 28/08/2017 13:17

Aw i'm so sorry for you Forheavensake, that was a truly vicious way for her to have behaved. She is obviously more materialistic than compassionate, never mind that you were supposed to be her close friend. I always try to look at the positive when people let you down, at least you know now. Well rid of her I think Flowers

Elland · 28/08/2017 13:48

I would give my jacket to a stranger if that happened, YANBU

GinnyWreckin · 28/08/2017 14:05

My grandmother once put her mink coat around a man who had been injured in a Raod traffic accident. End of coat, but kept the man alive.
Her words were: "it's only a coat".

I think a black jacket from MnS would have done the trick for you: it's not like you were going to stuff it into your knickers and use it as sanpro.

I wonder did your friend understand, as I can't imagine anyone being deliberately cruel and unpleasant.

I hope you are putting your side about to counter her "poor me abondoned in a pub" victim story.

The copper coil can make your periods very heavy indeed, if they don't settle down, maybe think about getting an IUD like Mirena?

GinnyWreckin · 28/08/2017 14:06

Alpaca, that is some dress! Grin