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Lost my best friend over my period!!

283 replies

Forheavenssake · 26/08/2017 11:57

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

OP posts:
Changeschangechangeagain · 27/08/2017 18:00

And Tampons used via swimming do not prevent hideous mishaps at the pool!

My friend froze and was very embarrassed. It was a strange man that passed me his towel. Mortified.

Whinesalot · 27/08/2017 18:00

Well that's one way to sort the wheat from the chaff.

TheProdigalRhubarb · 27/08/2017 18:00

I thought that, too, ancientmarinader; reminded me of the guy who kept hold of his pint when fleeing the Borough Market bombing. True Brit behaviour, OP Smile

MsMommie · 27/08/2017 18:03

I wouldn't let my friend be humiliated like that, no matter how much my coat cost.
I would have lent it to a stranger too.
Your 'friend' isn't much of a friend OP x

Angelreid14 · 27/08/2017 18:09

What a bitch you are well out of it!

Katherine2626 · 27/08/2017 18:11

That's not the behaviour of a friend - you needed help in a situation that you found embarrassing, and she let you down through being unreasonable and selfish. She's no loss.

Mumandteacher123 · 27/08/2017 18:14

Coted'Azur just because it happened to 1 person does not make it not normal. It's happened to me lots of times and I've been told by medically trained people that it's nothing to worry about and I'm ok

Kc1009 · 27/08/2017 18:24

Well that's just put me off having a coil fitted. Hmm

Roversandrhodes · 27/08/2017 18:26

She's a bitch!

Salva · 27/08/2017 18:29

Kc
They do slow down the longer it's been in - in general.

pinkstripeycat · 27/08/2017 18:36

Your friend was mean. I had a heavy period at school when I was 15 and my "best friend" had spare knickers with her but wouldn't let me use them so I had to throw mine away and go commando the the whole day. Now lack of underwear wouldn't bother me but at 15 it did

Serialweightwatcher · 27/08/2017 18:39

When the cost of a jacket in such circumstances is worth more to someone that 19 years of friendship, that's your answer - terribly mean of her to be so bloody selfish

Alidoll · 27/08/2017 18:41

She's no friend. Even if she didn't want to get her jacket covered, she could have at least offered to nip to your house and bring back a pair of trousers etc so you could have changed in the toilets or said something discreetly to the bar staff so they could have brought over a bar towel or something.

I'd not contact her. If she gets in touch say how upset you were but expect the friendship to end at that point anyway.

BlueberryPuffin · 27/08/2017 18:41

LTB!

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 27/08/2017 18:43

Hi all.
Yes I absolutely finished my drink as that was my round was only a larger lemonade:)

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JemmyBloocher · 27/08/2017 18:45

I would've helped a complete stranger, let alone my best friend. If her jacket was that special (clearly not. It was M&S), then maybe another item of clothing. Regardless, her behaviour was disgusting. I am so sorry. Move on and find another friend. She has been an abysmal human being.

Kc1009 · 27/08/2017 18:45

Thanks salva Sadly I've been having the depo injection for 4 years, I've put in two stone and been told for other reasons they want to use the coil instead. I'm absolutely stressing over it.

Sayyouwill · 27/08/2017 18:45

@Forheavenssake did you speak to her last night?

user1476641978 · 27/08/2017 18:49

I don't care how much any item of clothing costed I would never let that happen to a friend. What on earth. I reckon she's avoiding you because she knows she was a shit and can't face you.

Questioningeverything · 27/08/2017 18:53

I can't believe how nasty a supposed friend can actually be! What happened last night op? I'd be binning her off openly, she's no friend at all to act that way then lie about you.

Even having the same social circle, she's the villain in this, nobody will blame you for wanting nothing to do with her.

Also... pp, can't remember who, but are you actually serious in thinking that there's no difference between light trousers (clearly fitted) and stained beyond saving them to a dark jacket that would be used as a modesty shield and therefore not even touching her?! I think you need to have a word with yourself if so

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/08/2017 18:53

You poor thing - so called friend was a cow and you're a million miles better off without her.
Happened to me aeons ago - I was at work, wearing WHITE trousers and only noticed immediately after I'd been talking to two male colleagues! They must have noticed but were too polite/embarrassed to say anything. Had to get out somehow - had nothing to cover myself with - go home, change, and come back - luckily not far and I had the car - and somehow come back as if nothing had happened.
Talk about mortified!

Tazzy67 · 27/08/2017 18:59

Not a nice friend, better off without her

Original poster
Forheavenssake · 27/08/2017 19:04

nope have not seen her or heard anything.

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kastiekastie · 27/08/2017 19:06

Cor that is mean! I would offer straightaway. I don't think borrowing one from lost property would be fair though, technically theft as without permission - and there was another option. To the lady who gave her scarf to the lady with the brown stain, that is very noble and I used to do things like that for strangers but stopped when I became increasingly aware that they never asked for an address to return things or offer any money. I don't know whether I would have accepted it or not but I know one sided stuff pees me right off. So do mean people mind you.

Flybye · 27/08/2017 19:07

She sounds like a double-decker cunt-bus

Cracking insult that Grin

OP. I hope you had a good night and the double decker cunt bus didn't cause an atmosphere Smile