Lost my best friend over my period!!

[Forheavenssake]

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

Wasn't the jacket black? So even if somehow she managed to stain it while walking out the pub with it tied around her waist (not holding it between her legs to stem the flow) it would definitely not show up after a wash. Your 'friend' was nasty. And is now making you out to be the bad one. Must've been awful for you.

Gemini69

Nope. Didn't have the energy to be socialising last weekend after working the Friday night from hell. I was merely pointing out the irony of so many people posting how easy it is to get blood out of clothes (which it usually is, for most clothes), then the OP saying the trousers were ruined. I find it easier to imagine jacket fabric that would be ruined that trouser fabric. And as I said in my first post, if it had been me, I would have risked the jacket.

My lovely male colleague managed to let me know discreetly that id flooded, lent me his massive hoody to cover up, drove me to Asda to buy new pants and while I was cleaning myself up back at work went to the canteen and bought me chips and galaxy.. so no you anbu

Darth, if you're both single.... MARRY THAT MAN.

OP your "friend" is a selfish cow. I would have and have helped out friends in the same position. I even washed my friend's white linen skirt out in some pub toilets once while she waited in the cubicle.

This is just awful behaviour from your friend

This is the sort of thing I would do to help a stranger, let alone a friend! Bloody hell

For most of my life I had cramps and spotting before the floodgates opened. Last two periods I've had I've sneezed and suddenly I've had a major leak. No warning.

ALL WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT AND HAVE DIFFERENT PERIODS.

@DarthLipgloss I'm with @Venusflytwat here... what a man!

Yanbu what a bitch.

Crikey I'd lend my bff anything in thus situation! Bloody hell

ffs all the snide doubting about the period flow !

It's sad that 19 years of friendship has gone down the drain. Your "friend" could have gone to your home and gotten you a change of clothes if she has OCD and was so worried about getting her precious jacket wet/ruined. And not to detail the thread but who wears a coat and a jacket?

Op, if you ever do forgive your friend - and I don't think you should - you could buy her this dress for her birthday...

Haven’t RTFT

She sounds like a double-decker cunt-bus.

You’re well rid

She sounds like a double-decker cunt-bus.

This gave me an enormous giggle.

Worst friend ever.

How did last night go?

A good friend of mine once rescued me from a train station toilet where I was miscarrying and drove me home. She didn't even ask me to sit on a carrier bag, although i did. Your friend is not a friend. Move on without her.x.

She's not a friend. Don't feel bad or sad. 💐💐💐 I feel sad when I hear about things like this. I don't really have any friends & would never behave like this.

Appalling - that would be unkind from a complete stranger, but 'friend' - WHAT? - Well you know her priorities now...

I haven't read the whole thread.
She doesn't sound like a friend at all, not just because of the refusal to lend you her jacket but also the lying to mutual friends.
Am I the only one that finds it sad that a grown woman feels embarrassed for bleeding. Something that most adult women do.
Onwards and upwards OP, you don't need people like that :)

It baffles me when women who don't have heavy periods disbelieve women's symptoms of their periods that do have an extremely heavy flow.
My flow has always been to the extreme end of the scale as has my dm's and dgm's, it seems to run in our family. As a teen I would constantly leak no matter what protection I would use, it was awful. I would wake up in the mornings and would have blood all the way up my back and my bed would look like a crime scene. Some women do have extremely heavy flows which come from nowhere with absolutely no signs at all, thankfully mine has started to slow now I'm close to 30.
It must be great to have flows which follow what it used to say in science books at school "lose an egg cup full of blood during the menstrual cycle" I bloody wish, I would be on for around 10 days losing loads more than that daily!

Really sorry this happened to you op, your friend was cruel.

I think a friend would help you out no matter what. Perhaps she's not such a great friend after all. My friend of 20 yrs doesn't speak to me now and I still don't really know why. Ghosting people really seems to be a thing these days 😞

I get special period pants with special lining so any leaks don't make much of a mess and leak thru clothes. They are worth buying.

They are available from ebay via mainly Asian or US sellers. The Asian ones are better value but tend to be in smaller sizings.

My favourite bit is that you finished your drink before leaving.
Waste not, want not.

A Tampon holds around 5ml of blood, a super tampon about 10ml.

I regularly get clots over 50ml and flooding comes with them. I use a menstrual cup backed up with a maxi pad and can at times STILL get blood on my clothes.

I also take Tranexamic acid + mefenamic acid to try to control it.

Why are PP's not believing the OP. I lost more than 250ml in one day on my last period. An egg-cup is naice for those who have light periods. I've never had one like that.

ANY woman would usually help someone who had had a mishap, whether walking immediately behind her, with a handbag over the front. Or lending something to tie round a waist. Your "friend" is a cow.