Lost my best friend over my period!!

[Forheavenssake]

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

I too would lend my coat or cardi to a stranger in this situation.
She is no friend.

What a cow !
I would have gave you my jacket , walked home with you and probably popped to the shop for a bottle of wine whilst you had a wash if you were too embarrassed to go out again.
She isn't a friend op

Lots of people with bodily fluid issues about at the minute???

I dunno.. live and let be i suppose, won't be Doing her many favours in the future believe me!
I'm out meeting another friend tonight so il explain it to her I'm sure she's heard her sob story of being left in a bar alone.

I've had this happen and it is mortifying. Luckily my colleagues were a lot kinder that your so called friend. I would honestly have given my jacket to any woman in this situation, regardless of the cost or if I knew them or not. She is fully aware of how horrid she has been as she won't even own up to her selfishness. This is unforgivable, please don't give her the time of day in future.

So just seen she's apparently out tonight also. GREAT! awkward

for you forheavenssake.

Enjoy your night out, and if you meet your friend, the one with the precious jacket, do show her this thread. I too, would have lent you my jacket in the circumstances.

She sometimes uses this site herself
A part of me would like her to see this but I also wouldn't want her to think I was being sly and talking about her and her ways, if I see her which is more than likely il just act like nothing happened but I will keep her at arms length from now on

She's showed you that she isn't a very nice person and a shit friend.

By turning this whole thing on you, and telling people you abandoned her proves the same thing. She's really not nice at all.

OP - "i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs"

If this actually happened (blood flowing down your legs, late in the day, with no spotting earlier), see a doctor.

It's not normal. Happened to 1 person I know and she needed a hysterectomy.

Cote.
I have always been heavy and recently had coil fitted was told that until it settled down I would bleed very heavy and painful.
Not down leg just all in middle if you know what I mean. Trousers ruined so gutted but was clearly visible at back and front of crotch area was not very pleasant

OP you seem rational & understandably displeased. Sorry she's treated you this way

Yes of course but I don't know exactly when it started I only noticed when I felt really wet( sorry)
I don't usually spot either tbh that's usually at the end for me ,

A few doubting Thomas's here today, it's getting very boring. If you don't believe an Op, report. Stop trying to be clever and drop unsubtle hints through a thread.

Sorry Op.

Friend needs to have it explained to her that when we say "women need to learn to say no" that does NOT mean to helping friend in desperate straits.

I think she has misunderstood how friendship works.

Cote, it doesn't take a lot of blood to actually leak through your clothes. I don't have any medical problems and I have had a bad leak where it has soaked through my tampon and left a large stain on my trousers before I have had time to do anything about it. It doesn't mean you're losing pints of blood, seriously.

I think wearing light clothing made it looks worse too red on beige stands out. Oh believe me it's not a fake post I'm not a sad lady with too much time on my hands lol!

Cote
OP was told her new contraception might make her bleed heavier than usual, it just came earlier than usual. It doesnt take much to show on trousers.
Hysterectomy! Stop scaremongering.

I could bleed for Britain without any spotting whatsoever and I wasnt regular either so stop saying its not possible.

CoteDAzur you're presuming everyone has the same period every time, I've flooded before with no warning, no spotting bloody embarrassing, ruined a white chair at a hairdressers oh I wanted the ground to swallow me up that day. It wasn't till I felt wet that I realised it had started 3 days early and I had to try and dig the wet ones out my bag to wipe up the mess.

I'm sure there is no medical issue with me ( hope not anyway )

Yeah well I have had a coil & know what that's like, too

Because each woman's experience with contraception is of course identical.

Even a bit of spotting can leak through and show, especially if you are wearing light colour trousers like the op. Everybody is different, just because it does not happen to you, does not mean it won't to somebody else.

Is she germ phobic at all? See i have really bad OCD about bodily waste, and whilst menstrual blood isnt dirty germwise by itself, it comes from the genital area where there are germs on the skin it can wash off with it when it leaks. As such i wouldnt have been able to give you my jacket, as even when washed it would still feel "contaminated" to me. Any chance at all it was that?

Only other mild excuses i can think of is it was dry clean only material, it was virtually brand new, or it was expensive and she didnt want to risk ruining it.
Before i got my implant i would leak like crazy and stained so many underwear, trousers, towels, even dark coured ones.

"I have had a bad leak where it has soaked through my tampon and left a large stain on my trousers before I have had time to do anything about it."

I have, too.

The fact that you already had a tampon inside means that this was not the first time you realized your period was coming.