Lost my best friend over my period!!

[Forheavenssake]

Some one please tell me I'm not insane!! As the title says I actually lost my close friend over my period last weekend!!
Last weekend I met with my friend who i have known 19 years! In weathersspoons.
I was wearing beige trousers and it was coming up to 10pm and getting very busy as it's on a bar stretch pubs everywhere.
And to my absolute horror i leaked all over myself! I was not due until four days later so didn't expect this at all and no bodily warning signs no cramping, any way we see sat down at this time in one of the booths, my friend was wearing a red dress with a jacket AND bought her coat.
I quickly told friend I just leaked and my crotch was now bright red ( the shame ) and could I please use her jacket to just tie around my waist casually just to get home to change/ wash
She said NO!
I said please, il wash it if anything gets on it and give it right back the next day! I was pretty much begging her !
She refused and said no she paid to much money for it and didn't want it ruined!
I was so bloody upset I got up said " cheers mate" drank my drink and left!
Humiliation as I walked out the busy place with red all in between my legs ( don't know if anyone noticed) it's was ALOT of blood :(
I understand she didn't want to get blood on it but I just wanted it to cover my bum to quickly run out, I live down the road!! I would of washed etc and come back, I'm really upset ild never let her or anyone of my friends feel the way I did that night. I texted her two days ago but have no reply. What the hell is her problem! Was I unreasonable to ask to quickly use her jacket ?

Why would this thread be a wind up? Must be women with regular as clock work periods! I've flooded on a good few occasions, thanks to irregular periods, PMDD and mirena coil. Worst was my induction day at college, sat on chair and woosh. As quick as that. Thankfully had a jumper on and waited till everyone else left before tying it round my waist and rushing home. It happens.

OP, even if my coat had cost a small fortune I would have given it to you. She's no mate.

What a horrible, horrible woman. And definitely not a friend.

You don't want to lose her? Why ever not?!

You don't 'have' her in the first place. She's not your friend.

Bin her.

(Amazing how many of these scenarios involve an 'oldest and best friend'. I reckon there are a lot of folk out there with people they automatically think of as a 'best' friend simply because they've been there the longest - and they don't ever really evaluate the friendship any more, until something happens where it becomes obvious that the friend isn't worth having).

Move on op!

If you lived down the road could you have given her keys to go and get you clothes and then changed in the toilets?

It sounds horrible of her.

You deserve better, OP. Fuck her. I'd give my coat/some help to anyone in this situation too, friend or stranger – clearly everyone on here would!

If I don't hear from her soon I most certainly will be moving on from it.
It really is out of character the last time I had similar was 10 years ago but to be fair we were teenagers then so no point in dragging up old wounds.
I would give my coat/jacket to a lady in need. I wouldn't think twice either

The more you are posting, the worse she sounds. She is telling your friends that you left her, but failed to mention why! So she expected you to sit there like that, uncomfortable, covered in your own blood, for her sake, without doing anything to comfort and help you. Now she is gossiping to friends. Love you would be better if you did loose her, sorry it took you 19 years to discover that she is not a good friend.

YANBU. Move on, she is no friend

Even if there was a really good reason for her not to give you her coat, could she not have offered to run home quickly for you (you say you were near home) and grab you a coat or even change of clothes? I think just a blank no was pretty selfish of her. Sorry you went through this - one reason why i rarely wear anything other than black on my lower half.

If the jacket was white and worth thousands of pounds and was giving to her by her late mother on her deathbed or something, I could see why she wouldn't want to risk it getting stained. But, even then I'd have expected her to offer to help you in some other way (any of the many suggestions other posters have come up with). At the very least, I'd have expected her to walk home with you so you didn't have to face the humiliation alone.

She sounds like a complete and utter bitch.

A real friend would have helped you, if she didnt want to sacrifice her jacket she could have got something off the staff for you.
Hell, I would do that for a stranger.

Feel free to tell her that hundreds (I'm sure this thread is just getting started) of complete strangers from many different cultures and places across the globe were 100% prepared to offer you (or any woman) their sympathy, coats and 'above & beyond' assistance in this situation.

Hundreds. Complete strangers. Every time.

Nuff said.

Nice to know there are decent friendly people out there

My friend did a similar thing to me, and in my case I had to walk nearly half a mile in broad daylight before I could change. It made me reassess my friendships. I think you need to ditch her fast - no friend does this to another.

THe living so close that she could have fetched stuff puts a different slant on it, doesn't it?

It wasn't just a question of her jacket or nothing.

I mean handing over a nice item of clothing that someone might get period blood on wouldn't be my first choice-but if it's washable...

My former best friend (male -relevant!) got annoyed with me once when I got my period unexpectedly early while on a coach trip and needed to detour to find some tampons and new underwear instead of immediately going to the pub for lunch. He didn't understand why I couldn't 'hold it' until later or why I didn't know it was about to happen.

One firm conversation later... including a demonstration about tampons involving a glass of water... and he learned a lot more than he was expecting to about the female reproductive system and its quirks. It wasn't his fault that he was never taught about these things (his mother was a bad parent in many ways).

I sincerely hope that if your former friend ever finds herself in such a similar situation, then the people with her show her more kindness than she showed you.

I would have seen that situation the same as I would a traffic accident - use clothes to stem blood, act as tourniquets, cover up, whatever is necessary. A true friend and even some strangers would have literally given you the shirt off their back.

I have a few items of clothing (and M&S do to things that are very exp for me so less of the judginess on that. Not all of us can afford jackets in the hundreds or thousands) that I would only give to someone to get blood on if they were actually lying injured on the street or something not for getting period blood on.

That said, I would have done anything else including getting you a drink and going to your house (or mine if closer) to get you something to help cover/change etc.

Not caring is no friendship.

Iv gone out of my way when she's found her self a little stuck in odd or hard situations but I will never go out of my way again!

just agreeing, if I saw a woman in the toilets in distress for this reason, having been there, I would probably give a jacket to a complete stranger.

Your friend's selfishness is weird. She could have walked back to your house with you and got her jacket straight back.

Bin the bitch asap. I wouldn't leave a stranger in that situation nevermind one if my oldest friends! Unforgivable.

Agree with everyone else. I can't imagine not helping a friend in this situation.

She was a bitch but she's painting you as the villain?

I hope you set your friends straight on this.

The original 'friend' really is nothing of the sort. And as for the overprotective care of M&S clothing.... have you seen the abomination of badger-wank on sale in there of late?

Seriously. You probably wouldn't have got anything on it anyway, just round yr waist to get out of the pub. Quick body shower and a change, you could have been back within 15 mins. Horrid, horrid woman, and telling other friends you left her there! Please, I think you are worth way more than this friendship. If she tries to contact you ( with a massive bunch of flowers and a promise of some kind of empathy therapy) maybe talk to her to tell her quite how distressing you found this. If she's not answering your texts, and changing the story, chances are she knows she has monumentally fucked up and can't come back from it. I'm really sorry this has happened to you. Not yr fault though - best rid in the long run?