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neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 10:14

first ever thread but I wanted some opinions from the outside

neighbours came to me in early May to ask if they can use our drive for two weeks, they bought their DD a car for her birthday as a surprise.
fair enough I thought no problem

the car is still there.

we don't want to cause tension with the neighbours because we all have to live here

my DD is 14 month and has just started to toddle so would like front garden back to make safe ( weeding, gates) for her to play in and I can sit on the door step whenever she wabts to venture outside.

we managed to catch him last week and told him we want to do our garden for DD (can't use back garden, subsided and v unsafe) and asked if he had an idea of when he was planning to shift his car

two months!!! we were quite shocked because he was very matter of fact, no apology etc and dp said "it's kind of taking the piss" and neighbour shrugged it off. it's the end of October...

aibu to want my garden back before October so I can let my DD run loose in her own space whilst we may still have sunny weather/ light evenings??
part of me feels selfish because we don't drive so don't have a car therefore a "drive way" in the literal meaning isn't needed. but our garden IS the drive way.

I'm quite timid and have no idea how to go about this whole situation so I was hoping some mumsnet opinions might help me figure out what to doGrin

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4691IrradiatedHaggis · 26/08/2017 20:09

Letter. Through the door.
"Prior to our discussion, it seems nothing has really been remedied.
Circumstances have changed since I said you could use our garden as a driveway. It was only supposed to be two weeks and now is dragging into months.
If it isn't moved by the next weekend, I will have no option but to have it forcibly removed.
Here's hoping we can come to an amicable conclusion.

Regards,

Pissed of Neighbour of Cheeky Twat.

(or obviously inserting your real name lol)

GabsAlot · 26/08/2017 20:11

this gets weirdeer

theeyre definitly avoiding a debt or somthing i wouldnt be suprisd if u find out its registered to you soon

theres no reason for them not to use their own drive

4691IrradiatedHaggis · 26/08/2017 20:12

Forgot to add, make sure you follow through on said threat otherwise they'll know your tough stance with words means sod all. Smile

MrsMoastyToasty · 26/08/2017 20:14

Send them a note saying that your landlady is having several tonnes of topsoil delivered and if the car isn't moved it will be buried!

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:16

I never thought of debt or something like that! I hope not
suppose we'll see! if it's not gone tomorrow night I'll arrange for it to be moved. Monday could be the last day DP and I have together to do the garden properly as I have a job interview on Tuesday and if I get it, our shift patterns will be opposite.

I will obviously keep you all informed! didn't expect so many replies Grin

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RenterNomad · 26/08/2017 20:20

You see how effective it is to tell somebody something's going to happen? They've done exactly this with you. You tried to ask them to move it (as though they were doing you a favour), and in return they just said no, it'll have to wait till October.

Do you see that they told you what was going to happen with your home and garden (and, yes, as a tenant, that is your home and that is your garden. You are paying for them). They are not entitled to tell you. They may ask you, but you do not have to say no, and in the face of their arrogance, you need to go hard on them. They can't do anything to due you or call the police or whatever you're afraid will happen. They've already "fallen out" with you for challenging their wrongdoing, so that has alreafy happened!

As for the letting agents and LL who are also fobbing you off, when you're calling that tow truck, you should also send a letter with dated descriptions of your property's defects to the environmental health or private rentals department of your local council. Does the house even have a gas safety certificate?

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:25

we do have a safety certificate and boiler checked a month ago

we had a problem with bees living in the wall, which then brought moths to our attic which was all fixed quickly
I don't think the agents were aware of the chimney as the bit of paint left is blue, agent said it's not been blue for at least 4 years
I've recently stopped talking to or actual agent as she's useless and go through the lovely man who does our inspection as he seems to get things done quicker. according to next door LL is very tight with money so getting anything done that she doesn't have to is impossible.
the back garden is fixable. safe for an adult just slanted and unsafe for kids.
calling office on Monday for update on fireplace. that I have been very pushy with as obviously it's my DDs health at risk.

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:28

hope this works though I think it's posted upside down. this is what I mean about the chimney. you can vaguely see the tin foil poking out. black bits are muck that comes out in the wind. blue paint is where the old cardboard was and dp quickly taped it back up with a new piece until it gets fixed

neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months
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boringrobot · 26/08/2017 20:28

Sorry to change the subject about the car but surely if the garden in your rental property is experiencing subsidence, then you are not going to be able to maintain it and this is a very serious situation which could cause problems to the stability of the house!

I don't want to worry you but a relative had subsidence in her garden and huge cracks started appearing in the brickwork of her house and she had to have approx £25k worth of structural reinforcement to repair the damage.

I am worried you will get blamed for ignoring the subsidence. You should alert the landady/letting agent asap as this could be a bigger problem than the car.

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:28

ah it is the right way up!

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boringrobot · 26/08/2017 20:29

Also worried that the house may not be safe if the subsidence is causing so much sloping to the garden. You need to check if the house is structurally safe too.

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:30

they know about it. conservatory fell off a year 9r two ago appare toy and had to be rebuilt.
it's the area we are in it's well known for it.
it's by no means our forever home it's just for a couple of years whilst we save as it's close to dps family, park, shops etc

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:31

I am so sorry about the typos. downing a brew before dd wakes up again Grin

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ItsNachoCheese · 26/08/2017 20:34

If its not away by x date its getting towed...
Op i feel your pain i had the same situation with my ex friends stepdad. He kept making excuses as to why he couldnt move it until i told him if he didnt move it in the next 24hrs i was towing it out my drive. It wasnt taxed or mot'd so he would of had a costly trip to get his car back

ItsNachoCheese · 26/08/2017 20:35

I also didnt have a car at the time but my garden/driveway is still mine

astoundedgoat · 26/08/2017 20:45

Is the house managed by the agent or landlord? I am a landlord and I would not give permission for the arrangement your CFN thinks he has going on, and would take steps to "protect" (if that is the word) my tenants from this sort of nonsense.

Also pretty sure it violates your tenancy anyway. Ask your agent to help on Monday.

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 20:55

I'm not sure, I'm not allowed to contact land lady. I have to contact estate agent who writes to her, she writes back and they get in touch with me.
the only thing our contract says is not to sublet the land which we aren't, as we aren't taking payments for it (other than £10 his wife initially handed me and told me to "buy some nappies or something"

looking at my contract I'm not in breach of it I hope I'm not any way. even with it's problems it's our home and i would hate the 'LL to want us to leave.

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MrsOverTheRoad · 27/08/2017 00:19

Pastry you took cash for the use of the land....no matter what he said it was for. I'd get the bastard out immediately!

MrsOverTheRoad · 27/08/2017 00:20

I agree with knocking and knocking and knocking till' he answers.

gingergenius · 27/08/2017 00:26

Report it as abandoned. Has to be there for at least 3 weeks I think.

gingergenius · 27/08/2017 00:28

Even if it's not taxed, and declared as SORN, it still needs to be insured.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 01:54

is anyone awake????

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ChaChaChaCh4nges · 27/08/2017 01:55

I am, yes.

HistoriaTrixie · 27/08/2017 01:55

Something happen?

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 01:58

I'm shaking and I'm in tears
he's just banged on the door and woken DD
DP answered the door him and his wife are stood there going mad at him "your lovely fucking girlfriend has put a note through our door, come and fucking talk about it we had an agreement MATE"
DP told him to shut the fuck up and calm down cause dd is now beside herself
my hearts pounding I wish I'd never bothered

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