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neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months

565 replies

PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 10:14

first ever thread but I wanted some opinions from the outside

neighbours came to me in early May to ask if they can use our drive for two weeks, they bought their DD a car for her birthday as a surprise.
fair enough I thought no problem

the car is still there.

we don't want to cause tension with the neighbours because we all have to live here

my DD is 14 month and has just started to toddle so would like front garden back to make safe ( weeding, gates) for her to play in and I can sit on the door step whenever she wabts to venture outside.

we managed to catch him last week and told him we want to do our garden for DD (can't use back garden, subsided and v unsafe) and asked if he had an idea of when he was planning to shift his car

two months!!! we were quite shocked because he was very matter of fact, no apology etc and dp said "it's kind of taking the piss" and neighbour shrugged it off. it's the end of October...

aibu to want my garden back before October so I can let my DD run loose in her own space whilst we may still have sunny weather/ light evenings??
part of me feels selfish because we don't drive so don't have a car therefore a "drive way" in the literal meaning isn't needed. but our garden IS the drive way.

I'm quite timid and have no idea how to go about this whole situation so I was hoping some mumsnet opinions might help me figure out what to doGrin

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fannydaggerz · 26/08/2017 13:23

Tell him the car needs moving because you have gardening work to do.

PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 13:23

that's my next plan! will knock this eve, I will put a letter through. feel good that I went for it though Grin

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c3pu · 26/08/2017 13:49

Smash window, release handbrake, push into road.

Jobs a goodun.

KatharinaRosalie · 26/08/2017 13:56

What, they have their own empty drive and use yours?? WTF are they thinking? Why??

BakedBeans47 · 26/08/2017 14:02

Write and tell him he's got 7 days to get it moved or you'll be getting it scrapped and seeking to recover any costs incurred from him.

Cheeky fucker.

DudeHatesHisCarryOut · 26/08/2017 14:04

Shame you don't have links to a rugby team, they could carry the car from your drive to your neighbours'! Would love to see the look on their face when they cam home to find their car on their drive!

happypoobum · 26/08/2017 14:25

Why give them seven days? Asking for it to be removed by the morning is perfectly acceptable.

KatharinaRosalie · 26/08/2017 14:33

No need for deadlines. The car is working. The DD knows about it so they don't need to hide it. They have a fucking EMPTY DRIVE. Tell them to move it right this minute.

placemark123 · 26/08/2017 14:38

Can't believe he has his own empty drive!

Gemini69 · 26/08/2017 15:06

I cannot believe your DP thinks this is acceptable and to stay quiet to keep the peace ..

Shocking

LifeinColour · 26/08/2017 15:17

Good luck! Flowershope they are civil with you but go thinking they will be arsey so you're not taken unawares.. cheeky gits!

I would say that it has to be moved today.. October is too late as the sunshine will be over by then and you want to spend the band holiday and rest of the summer in the garden.. please can you move it now!

If you give them till Monday they won't do it and you'll have to knock on and speak to them again TELL THEM TO DO IT NOW!!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 26/08/2017 15:29

CFN indeed! Hope they answer the door later!

sonjadog · 26/08/2017 15:36

They don´t need a deadline. It´s a car. It´s designed to move. All they need to is get in it, drive off, park somewhere else.

user1485639128 · 26/08/2017 15:46

Hope it goes well. Be assertive

SirVixofVixHall · 26/08/2017 15:48

Agree with Sonjadog, they don't need a deadline. Also agree with pp that there may be a dodgy reason why they are so keen to keep the car in your drive, when they have room elsewhere. Don't ask for it to be moved, tell them it must be moved right away. They only need to get in it, and drive it out of your drive, that takes less than a minute. They don't need a notice period.

Ttbb · 26/08/2017 15:53

He's committing trespass. Tell him that if he doesn't move it by tomorrow you'll get it towed and he will foot the bill.

rainbowstardrops · 26/08/2017 15:59

He's using your driveway when he's got his own empty one just sitting there? Why???
Sounds very odd

AtHomeDadGlos · 26/08/2017 16:10

Fence it in. Affix a slide to the roof into a ball pool. Your front yard is now an awesome play park.

Otherwise give them a time limit (that evening or one day is sufficient), explain that if it's still you'll move it onto the road. Then get a tow truck or just smash the window and move it.

MoveOnTheCards · 26/08/2017 16:11

Agree this is even iffier if they could easily park it at their own place or on the road.

Be strong Pastry and get it shifted!

happypoobum · 26/08/2017 16:15

How about blocking it in with a penguin bollard? Grin

LinkPlease · 26/08/2017 16:20

What is it with MN and suggesting that a local rugby team can move cars? They don't do that

Another mumsnetter, who was heavily pregnant I believe, had an issue with CFN blocking her in on purpose and her brother and rugby mates came round and lifted the CFN's car so she could get out, iirc.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 26/08/2017 16:24

Ahhh - thanks for the explanation LinkPlease . I've been on MN a while but I missed that one. It's regularly posted as a suggestion so it must be like "cancel the cheque", "Is she on glue?" and so on Grin

Rachie1986 · 26/08/2017 16:33

What a pain. Well done for trying to sort it. Do report back when you manage to speak to him!

Rachie1986 · 26/08/2017 16:33

What a pain. Well done for trying to sort it. Do report back when you manage to speak to him!

Kintan · 26/08/2017 16:40

How do these CFN become so entitled that's what I'd like to know!