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Original poster

neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 10:14

first ever thread but I wanted some opinions from the outside

neighbours came to me in early May to ask if they can use our drive for two weeks, they bought their DD a car for her birthday as a surprise.
fair enough I thought no problem

the car is still there.

we don't want to cause tension with the neighbours because we all have to live here

my DD is 14 month and has just started to toddle so would like front garden back to make safe ( weeding, gates) for her to play in and I can sit on the door step whenever she wabts to venture outside.

we managed to catch him last week and told him we want to do our garden for DD (can't use back garden, subsided and v unsafe) and asked if he had an idea of when he was planning to shift his car

two months!!! we were quite shocked because he was very matter of fact, no apology etc and dp said "it's kind of taking the piss" and neighbour shrugged it off. it's the end of October...

aibu to want my garden back before October so I can let my DD run loose in her own space whilst we may still have sunny weather/ light evenings??
part of me feels selfish because we don't drive so don't have a car therefore a "drive way" in the literal meaning isn't needed. but our garden IS the drive way.

I'm quite timid and have no idea how to go about this whole situation so I was hoping some mumsnet opinions might help me figure out what to doGrin

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MrsCK · 27/08/2017 16:28

Have you phoned the police yet?

Neutrogena · 27/08/2017 16:32

For the same of your children, get some courage. You don't want your child to see you shat on all the time do you?

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 17:08

hi sorry just got home. car still here. doing the tea bath and bed malarky then will call 101 cause I'm not dealing with this shit. car not insured no and I've taken photos of it in case anything happens or whatever

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twattymctwatterson · 27/08/2017 17:21

Ffs op you should have called them at 2am. Your DP is really letting you down here btw

DiscoDiva70 · 27/08/2017 17:21

I would call 101 before you do tea/bath etc. You shouldn't leave it much longer to call.

Berthatydfil · 27/08/2017 17:22

Car not insured

Ahah so that's the issue.

user1485639128 · 27/08/2017 17:25

Just call them now.. it's seems like your putting it off. Don't understand why you didn't just call them as soon they became aggressive in the early hours.

peekyboo · 27/08/2017 17:26

You're putting it off long enough for your DH yo get home and persuade you to leave it again.

massi71 · 27/08/2017 17:29

OP because you have asked for advice and are seen to not be taking it I get the feeling that you may start to find this thread a little uncomfortable if people see you as a unwilling to confront these awful people.

I get that you don't want to cause friction or upset with neighbours. However you have drawn a line and given them an ultimatum of today to remove the car.

Two options now. Enforce it or remain fearful.

The latter is not a lesson to teach your DD.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 17:30

I'm putting it off because everything gives me anxiety. I hate calling and no matter who tells me I'm in the right I always have the little voice telling me I'm not. just serving up dds tea and will call then. never knew about this insurance thing, makes a little sense now. still didn't need a 2am shouting match though!

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Ontheboardwalk · 27/08/2017 17:39

Pastry I understand you feel anxious about phoning 101 but if you don't do anything and let them get away with their shocking behaviour then you are opening yourself up to many more drunken hammerings on your door in the middle of the night.

Please phone, I bet you'll feel so much better afterwards.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 17:41

phoning now dd is eating
will report back x

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QOD · 27/08/2017 17:46

🤞 you get it sorted

DamsonGin · 27/08/2017 17:46

👍

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 17:52

currently on hold

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DoctorDonnaNoble · 27/08/2017 17:53

Good luck OP. I know how hard things which seem simple to others can seem when you feel really anxious.

flumpybear · 27/08/2017 17:54

Well done - you're doing the right thing

CatsPurr · 27/08/2017 17:55

Lay it on thick OP, give all info and go you!

For all those criticising her DP, are all men meant to be super confident ready to do battle? Maybe he has anxiety and needs some sympathy. Just cos he's male doesn't mean he should sort it all.

Figgygal · 27/08/2017 17:58

What on earth were they trying to achieve last night I'd be trying to push the fucking thing off my property myself after that

Notreallyarsed · 27/08/2017 17:58

Well done OP, they sound like bullying scumbags. Their behaviour is intimidating and needs to be stopped!

hooochycoo · 27/08/2017 18:05

I 'm so sorry to read all this. You sound scared and without support. Definitely please tell the police that you are scared and this needs careful handling.

RubyGoat · 27/08/2017 18:11

Hope you get it sorted, OP. Unacceptable behaviour from the neighbours.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 18:12

I ended up crying to the lovely poor woman on the phone. turns it it's quite difficult to explain the situation on the phone. she's sending an officer round tonight yo speak properly to me, keep doors locked and is texting a reference number to me and told me to call 999 if they come back

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placemark123 · 27/08/2017 18:14

Go pastry! Well done, 100% the right move.

Notreallyarsed · 27/08/2017 18:15

I'm glad you got through to someone who listened and took you seriously. I hope it all goes well with the police and most importantly they get the car shifted and the NFN (nasty fucker neighbours) wind their necks in and back off, permanently!