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Original poster

neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months

565 replies

PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 10:14

first ever thread but I wanted some opinions from the outside

neighbours came to me in early May to ask if they can use our drive for two weeks, they bought their DD a car for her birthday as a surprise.
fair enough I thought no problem

the car is still there.

we don't want to cause tension with the neighbours because we all have to live here

my DD is 14 month and has just started to toddle so would like front garden back to make safe ( weeding, gates) for her to play in and I can sit on the door step whenever she wabts to venture outside.

we managed to catch him last week and told him we want to do our garden for DD (can't use back garden, subsided and v unsafe) and asked if he had an idea of when he was planning to shift his car

two months!!! we were quite shocked because he was very matter of fact, no apology etc and dp said "it's kind of taking the piss" and neighbour shrugged it off. it's the end of October...

aibu to want my garden back before October so I can let my DD run loose in her own space whilst we may still have sunny weather/ light evenings??
part of me feels selfish because we don't drive so don't have a car therefore a "drive way" in the literal meaning isn't needed. but our garden IS the drive way.

I'm quite timid and have no idea how to go about this whole situation so I was hoping some mumsnet opinions might help me figure out what to doGrin

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KatharinaRosalie · 27/08/2017 10:49

'Dear neighbours, I'm sure you're both terribly embarrassed about what happened last night. We will let it go just once, sometimes people have too much to drink, we understand. Are you sober enough to come pick the car up right now, or should we come back in 2 hours?'

ohtheholidays · 27/08/2017 11:00

That sounds like a plan Grin that or we could get someone who's good with cars to take it apart bit by bit and we could all carry the bits of the car over for them and stick it on they're drive and when they tried to complain you could say we thought we were doing them a favour being as it's obviously far to difficult and time consuming for them to move a sodding car from one side of the street to another. Wink

justilou1 · 27/08/2017 11:01

Oh Honey, You must be exhausted! Even though it sucks to be trapped at home, you are probably doing the right thing by staying there and refusing to let them think they are intimidating you. Hopefully they will come and get the bloody car!!!

Fairenuff · 27/08/2017 11:03

What did the police say OP?

BoneyBackJefferson · 27/08/2017 11:09

I don't know if its been mentioned but, if you damage the car you will be liable for them.

Original poster
PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 11:53

I wouldn't dream of damaging the car.
not called police yet as I'm worried it'll just make it all worse. everyone seems to think it will Blush

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JigglyTuff · 27/08/2017 11:55

You must call the police!

sebumfillaments · 27/08/2017 11:56

God almighty. OP you're really really going to have to get more assertive.

Ladymadness · 27/08/2017 11:57

Call the police op .
If you don't then the cfn will think that they can get away with such vile behaviour and will continue to try and bully you.
Iv had neighbours like this they are vile but soon shut up when officers turn up.

sebumfillaments · 27/08/2017 11:57

If you DONT call the police then your delightful neighbours will be even more sure that you are a total complete pushover.

Gemini69 · 27/08/2017 12:01

Op your Partner is a DICK... I'm sorry but he should have dealt with this not YOU... you have a bloody garden you cannot use because someone else's car is on it WTAF!? they are now threatening YOU!? and your DP is angry at YOU?! until it affected him.. of course...

CALL THE POLICE NOW .. nobody should be intimidated in their own property.. this is beyond ridiculous.. Flowers

PeaFaceMcgee · 27/08/2017 12:01

OMG, you absolutely need to call the police. Stand up for your little girl if nothing bloody else!

CatsPurr · 27/08/2017 12:01

They can't be that brave OP or they would have come over straight after the note and not needed to be drunk to confront you. Tap into your inner arsehole, be a pain to them! Let them know you won't be messed with.

Fairenuff · 27/08/2017 12:01

How will it make it worse Confused

Just tell police that you want to log the complaint in case there are any further problems. That's all. They won't come out as no crime has been committed.

Phone them now. They may also be able to advise regarding the car on your drive.

Willow2017 · 27/08/2017 12:03

Good gravy.
Call the police.
How long do you want that car on your drive?
Roll over on them being drunk and abusive at 2am and they know they can do whatever the hell they like and you won't do a thing.

Your house your drive you need to stand up for your right to enjoy it. And your dd s right not to be scared at 2am!

Gemini69 · 27/08/2017 12:09

insancerre brilliant lol

Sallystyle · 27/08/2017 12:09

Call the police. I know you are scared and that is understandable, but it needs to be done Thanks

flumpybear · 27/08/2017 12:15

OPyou really ought to get this incident down, they're clearly piss takers and bullies - leaving it late will assume you're not bothered but actually how dare they behave like
That around you and your young family

jellybeanteaparty · 27/08/2017 13:09

As posted by Fair... in your call to the Police explain the situation and that you would like advice and perhaps to have the late night swear visit noted in case further incidents happen. You can say you don't want them to pop over or do anything at the moment.

TeachesOfPeaches · 27/08/2017 13:15

What will you report to the police? Your neighbour came and shouted at you at 2am while they were drunk?

Not sure what pp mean by 'logging' the incident? The police will come round and you'll get a crime number. Surely just speak to your neighbours today about getting the car moved.

Elephant17 · 27/08/2017 13:18

Oh my god!!!!! What utter arse holes!!!

I hope they get their comeuppance!

Re losing your confidence since dc- it is fairly common, a huge life change which often results in using up all your energy on baby, leaving none for you to work on yourself, social life and 'me time' decreases and you almost start to forget how to conduct yourself in certain adult situations etc etc. I'm in the same boat. Not sure why poster earlier thought it odd, lots of people experience a drop in confidence in some areas after having a baby.

FlowersCake you teach those car dickheads a lesson!

Greenkit · 27/08/2017 13:19

TeachesOfPeaches

She can report the aggressive, abusive neighbours who refuse to remove their car from her drive after she has asked politely

NurseButtercup · 27/08/2017 13:19

I'm glad you've found you're anger! Don't let the bullies win and scare you, you've done nothing wrong.
It's too early for gin & wine plus you've got you're little girl so here's Cake & Flowers

DiscoDiva70 · 27/08/2017 13:25

Op
You need to report this incident, as many people have said, so should anything else ever happen in the future, the Police can charge them for harassment.

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