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Original poster

neighbours car has been in my garden for 3 months

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PastryOnMyMind · 26/08/2017 10:14

first ever thread but I wanted some opinions from the outside

neighbours came to me in early May to ask if they can use our drive for two weeks, they bought their DD a car for her birthday as a surprise.
fair enough I thought no problem

the car is still there.

we don't want to cause tension with the neighbours because we all have to live here

my DD is 14 month and has just started to toddle so would like front garden back to make safe ( weeding, gates) for her to play in and I can sit on the door step whenever she wabts to venture outside.

we managed to catch him last week and told him we want to do our garden for DD (can't use back garden, subsided and v unsafe) and asked if he had an idea of when he was planning to shift his car

two months!!! we were quite shocked because he was very matter of fact, no apology etc and dp said "it's kind of taking the piss" and neighbour shrugged it off. it's the end of October...

aibu to want my garden back before October so I can let my DD run loose in her own space whilst we may still have sunny weather/ light evenings??
part of me feels selfish because we don't drive so don't have a car therefore a "drive way" in the literal meaning isn't needed. but our garden IS the drive way.

I'm quite timid and have no idea how to go about this whole situation so I was hoping some mumsnet opinions might help me figure out what to doGrin

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insancerre · 27/08/2017 09:23

How long do you have left on your lease?
I would be tempted to move
Life is too short to put up with that shit
You deserve better

LemonRedwood · 27/08/2017 09:25

Tell the council that a car has been abandoned on your property.

www.gov.uk/report-abandoned-vehicle

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 09:30

it's month by month, can't afford to move and I've got an interview just round the corner this week for a job I've wanted for over a year.
I love my home I won't let them push us out and uproot my daughter. we've only been here since last October.
absolute bastards.
dp is also livid with them that they caused me such upset and woke DD etc etc he didn't want to leave me but needs must. he's taken my bank card by mistake though which is a bit of a pain in the arse. as now I'm stuck in the area.

I didn't think people actually acted like that!!!

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 27/08/2017 09:33

Sorry OP but your DP is useless. It's in no way your fault, you hd he right to ask for the car to be removes after two weeks (if I read it right it was how far away their DD's birthday was).
I wiuld definitely log it with 101.

JigglyTuff · 27/08/2017 09:34

Pastry - I'm so sorry you're going through this - what a horrible and frightening experience. Do call the police for advice

And you've included both your DP's name and your DD's in your last couple of posts so you might want to ask MN to edit them out.

Wenchelda · 27/08/2017 09:36

How horrible op - I've not commented on this thread yet but have been following from the start. I also would've been terrified at 2am but glad you have found your anger and strength now. Hope you get it sorted.

I also just wanted to say that you've mentioned both your partners and your daughters names in your recent posts - I think you can report your own posts and MNHQ can remove names so it's not identifying in anyway x

ptumbi · 27/08/2017 09:36

I'm so glad that you are livid, not cowed.

These people are bullies and entitled graspers, and they don't like other people facing them down in it. The garden is yours not theirs, and they can fuck the car off it.

chickenowner · 27/08/2017 09:37

Was just about to point out that you've included your DPs and DDs names - but someone else already has!

Also, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. What a horrible thing to wake up to in the middle of the night.

I agree that you should tell the police about them, particularly in case it happens again.

Hope you're OK today. Flowers

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 09:40

dp was trying his best to not aggravate two potentially intoxicated morons, DD was already awake scared of the voices and tones and banging. he was understandably stressed after and I was losing it, he's now just angry at them and is telling me to leave it to him to fix, but I don't think that any amount of talking will solve it so am still contacting 101 for a log number as he's not home all day.
he really is lovely. just situations where there's a lot of stress send him funny until he processes it. he just wants a quiet life for us all

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C0untDucku1a · 27/08/2017 09:40

Have you ohoned 101? I also agree you probably should move. The house sounds dangerous.

BoffinMum · 27/08/2017 09:41

OP, there's good advice on here for you but I am old and wise, have been a tenant, and I have also been a landlord a long time.

Given the dodgy repairs, back garden and horrid neighbours this won't end well until you move. I know you are trying to save but put this off if it's affecting your wellbeing and peace of mind.

FWIW your landlord can't let you a dangerous garden in these circumstancess so needs to see to remedying that.

The property next to my rental house put up unsecured scaffolding without permission which spread across into our garden, and there was a risk my tenant's little girl might have climbed it and hurt herself. It was there 6 months before I found out and I went ape at the agents for not dealing with the situation (they inspect the property every three months!) you don't muck about with child safety as a landlord.

You can do better than this.

Unmunsnetty

WowserBowser · 27/08/2017 09:43

I hate fucking neighbours! They are such unreasonable bellends. I'm having problems with mine. It's awful but you have to be brave and front it out. You've done nothing wrong.

You may want to ask MN to edit out your partner and Daughter's names if you have used their real ones.

C0untDucku1a · 27/08/2017 09:43

How has hd tKdn your bank card by mistake? Was he using it?

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 09:44

oh bollocks!
have reported it thanks for pointing it out. I need a brew Brew
we really couldn't afford to move even if we wanted to, just getting by as I'm not back at work yet. hopefully the coming weeks will work in my favour after this circus

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BoffinMum · 27/08/2017 09:46

PS I am nearly 50 and assertive by anyone's standards but I would have been pretty alarmed by drunken nutters waking up my household at 2am. However I doubt they would dare to do anything other than shout at you, especially in the cold light of day. If they do, don't respond and just keep a log.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 09:46

our cards look the same just grabbed it off the fridge not realising his was in his pocket as he was rushing, shares a lift with a colleague so no turning round to bring it home.

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insancerre · 27/08/2017 09:47

Look on right move for properties to rent nearby
Your neighbours are not going g to get better, you are possibly looking at years of stress if you stay

BoffinMum · 27/08/2017 09:49

Go into to the managing agents and confide in the most sympathetic member of staff about the driveway issue and also safety fears, and ask for help working out a way of moving on. You might find they pull something out of the hat. You would be surprised how much capability they have when they choose to do something.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 09:52

yes here's one agent there who does our inspection and is so so lovely. I'm going to talk to him on Monday.
it's shit she. you try to do someone a favour and it back fires at you like this makes me never want to do favours again

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Notreallyarsed · 27/08/2017 09:55

A side note about the cards, if you have internet banking it should be easy enough to shift money about so you can still get out today OP. DP and I do it.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 27/08/2017 09:58

That's good your DP is seeimg sense. It's easier when both of you are on the same page.

Like a poster said before - you wrote your DP's and DD's names.

Iwantamarshmallow · 27/08/2017 09:59

Unfortunately you can only report it as abandoned if it is not taxed and on public land. If a car is parked on private land there is little the authorities will do. I would contact a solicitor or the cab before you have it towed away because there are legal implications to doing so.

ohtheholidays · 27/08/2017 10:40

I'm glad your feeling better this morning Pastry and I'm sorry you being so kind has been turned around by those 2 moronic shitheads.

Stick to your guns and report the fuckers and never ever do anything for them ever again.

It's times like this that I wish there was a group of us MN's based all over the place that would go and kick arse deal with dickheads like this so other MN's weren't left feeling upset or scared when they've done nothing wrong.

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PastryOnMyMind · 27/08/2017 10:43

maybe we could create a human gate across my drive Grin

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FrogFairy · 27/08/2017 10:47

If you have no money could MIL come and get you or visit for a few hours so you are not alone?

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