To be fed up of Instamums

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I followed a few of the more well-known Instamums but got weary of the constant daily barrage of brand endorsements. I can't relate to people on £100k a year in Farrow & Ball houses. I just can't. So I had to unfollow em all, every one. AIBU to feel a bit miffed that these people are using the idea of sisterhood to make money? They're not our friends, they're just there to sell us stuff that we probably don't need anyway.

Imagine how awful the people you mention here must be feeling by your comments, the pages further back are unbelievable linking MODs house, commenting on how many days/shifts she works a week, looking up the American woman's family wealth! This is so horrible and is a clear example why mumsnet gets such a bad name.

Yes there are some very valid points on here and I think it's really important to discuss but really some of you should be ashamed of yourselves, these women and men are humans, people with feelings you have no idea how they're feeling right now. I can only see positivity from their feeds and the ones you mention don't sugar coat parenthood far from it, they show the real deal.

The real deal? Seriously?

Seriously lolling at the real deal.

The real deal? Really? You truly believe that their every day lives are what they show?

It's all a bit nuts. If you point the camera on your phone at yourself and talk your inner mind ramblings into Instagram stories for several hours a day other people may talk about it 🤷🏼‍♀️ If you plaster ads everywhere people will have an opinion. Overall the comments about the people themselves have been very positive, ok being described as annoying might not be your preferred description, but it's not like vile or rude etc.

Also, the ease at which a mumsnetter found the house on right move, or the American posters wealth, shows how easy it is for others to do it. Others with less good intentions tbh.

So it's the real deal to pimp your kids out for money? To blag free holidays and not mention the fact they are free? To live a parallel white washed life on Instagram where everyone blows smoke up your arse and any criticism is dismissed as trolling? This is seriously what you call authentic?

Is that you Susie? At less be upfront

Mod told Instagram her house was up for sale. If you put into google her user name and house for sale it comes up. Lovely house.

Hello, Mother Pukka here. I suppose the main thing is child safety as many of you have mentioned and it's a valid point. The answer is I don't know; I have no idea about the effect on my kids, which isn't great. All I do know is the minute they hit school, neither will be on our Instagram and that my previous job wouldn't allow me to be around them much so in the 'what's less shit' stakes, this seems mildly better. In terms of ads etc. I think the media has changed so much in the last few years and it's never been made clear to the consumer that magazine ads have simply been transferred to people on social media. People pay for magazines and then flick through ads whereas no one pays for Instagram so a well placed ad here and there As for 'Poo Pukka' being added to the brand pillars, I'm fairly backed up after having Eve but give us time. I used to work for Mumsnet and always found an answer somewhere.

I personally love Susie Verrill - I find her posts witty and lighthearted. She had her DS2 the same week I had DD2 and so I can relate to her newborn life insta stories.

I don't much like ads from anyone on Instagram, especially the ones jumping on the johnson's bandwagon, but dya know what - we've all got to make a living. So fair enough. I just choose to scroll past.

Hello Anna, good to see you here.

I'd much rather see these families than the highly edited ones.
The point is apart from the genuinely valid and interesting points about #ad (although I did just find myself counting the midwife's one and she's done 10 this year) some of your comments are so vile and you have no idea how these people are feeling right now.

The irony is, for all of you who follow these accounts you are all responsible for their success, you helped them build their brands hence why they're so successful now.

I also had no idea who Susie Verrill was until this thread.

Scarily, precisely TWO whole people have said they agree with my post upthread, and it made me feel a bit smuggy faced for a millisecond, before I caught myself being weird. Which is obviously crazy of me to feel even slightly self-important. There's something terrifying about the feeling you get when someone says "you, you've got it!" And you lap it right up with a big grin on your face. I can imagine then, these insta "mummas" cringe who start out probably with all the best intentions of just sharing what it's like to be a parent in their particular circumstances, then get seduced by 100,000 followers saying "ohhh I just love seeing your gorrrrguss posts, you're an inspiration", or "you're the perfect family!" Perhaps they get carried away with all the adoration and praise and forget why they started the whole thing in the first place. I don't think Susie can have read the whole thread, having watched her video, but generalising is never good, from either side. Cesspit and "no positive threads" is a really unkind and unfair assessment and certainly a sweeping generalisation of MN and I'm sure can be roundly disputed by the millions of parents that have found words of comfort, humour, and support on these pages - myself included. Nobody generalised about any of them, and everyone had clear, fair, and specific reasons as to what they did and didn't like about the various accounts/members of the instaparenting community. There's no need for boiling piss, thanks!! the biscuit is for the watching insta gang - sorry it's not a hand crafted biscuit from planet organic or an artisanal bakers. It's from Asda! Ha!

some of your comments are so vile

Which ones?

Just had a look at some of these after this thread. I'm so nosy and am loving it! It's obviously second nature to these people to be on their phone posting away. Love seeing it tbh. Keep it coming.

I'd much rather see these families than the highly edited ones.

Seriously?

I can only see positivity from their feeds

That's because MOD tends to delete the posts where she's bullying other users.

motherpukka

All I do know is the minute they hit school, neither will be on our Instagram

Is a stance I think a lot here can agree on. But other instagrammers dont follow that same concept, with much older children featuring, which is a risk obviously.

I don't follow you, so don't know much of your posts - but flexible working, and working which enables you to see more of your children should never be sniffed at.

Do you agree though, that advertising should be clear? And not acted as if it's everyday life?

Er.... they put themselves and their kids out there

Don't come all outraged when people discuss them further! That house is all over her bloody insta page..... you can see the house security, backdoor set up, where each kids room is.....

allaboardtheallergybus you count 10 because that is what we are saying - so many posts aren't tagged as ads, when they should be identified as such.

MotherPukka: think you're great. Love seeing normal breastfeeding and sibling relationships. Fabulous Instagram.

But more than anything, opinion is, as you all say, everything. That's it. My boob got called a skanky manky titty last week. It is a bit skanky.

motherpukka as you're here - I stopped following you after that post about Mae's new school which you described as shabby/stabby. I found that incredibly offensive. I grew up in the part of London you now live in. Many of my peers who would actually love their child to go to the stabby/shabby school there wouldn't stand a cat in hell's chance of even affording a bedsit there now.

It's posts like that one where I think "no - I cannot relate to these people at all."?