Sister never offers

[10greenapples]

I know I'm probably being U but I thought i would ask anyway to see whats normal in other families. I am a single mum to 4. I recently fell out with my mum who would offer to have my kids all the time to give me a break (usually the oldest 2 but occasionally 3, not the baby as she's bf) anyway since falling out with her she hasn't seen my children, so I literally haven't had a break in over 2 months. My sister has literally not once offered to help out. Despite me saying how tired I am. How I don't get any time to myself etc. aibu in thinking she could offer. I use to have her son all the time as a baby/young child.

I'm really sorry that you're exhausted and of course, looking after small children is knackering. But YABU if you expect your sister to offer childcare, particularly to four children. I don't lack sympathy with you and yes, it would be nice if she offered, but nobody is obliged to take care of your children just because you are related to them.

My sister NEVER offered to have my two and I really didn't expect her to. She made a decision not to have children herself. Her DP had a few with other women and she had her hands full managing the 'blended family'.

So, please do take responsibility for your actions. Am I going to be berated to suggest that I suspect the OP doesn't work?

Tin hat at the ready..

@hillingdon

So, please do take responsibility for your actions. Am I going to be berated to suggest that I suspect the OP doesn't work?

I very much doubt it.

Maybe OP can clarify?