Friend smells.. wwyd?

[Jamylollypop88]

i have to get advice on how to tell my friend please.i don't want to be mean or sounds mean or upset her how but how on earth do you talk to someone about their personal hygiene? This has always been a issue on my part il admit because I'm the one with the issue but I have to talk her. She's never been much of a bather will happily go days with out washing and yes openly admits this. I'm not the only one who has noticed.
Right .. few weeks ago we went for a few drinks together after a few i popped to the loo and she followed me in and popped in cubicle next to me, she called me into the cubicle to zip her dress back up and omg I nearly vomited!
This sounds so mean but I had to hold my breath! 100percent no word of a lie! The smell of what can only be described as fish (old fish)was horrendous I can't even explain!
I got out side the bar and I vomited every where with the smell still in my nose sad I don't have any sensitivity to bad smells but it was unlike anything I have ever smelt. I need to tell her sad what the hell do I say?? WWUD? Repeat thread as may get better advice on here.

[Jamylollypop88]

I think he's a mixture of bv and not washing to be honest she's very healthy and married I'm sure her hubby has noticed it but why would he not say anything ?
I'm definitely going to talk to her she's a good friend so I feel like I can but it's just how to go about telling her. I'm going to say
" luv I think I'm a little concerned about a smell and I'm worried about it as iv noticed it on several occasions " and go from there I just hope she don't get offended.
I would definitely want someone to tell me !! But then again I wash everyday and bath every other day. I'm not a hygiene freak but I know it's important to keep clean for many reasons

[IloveBanff]

She's married!

[Jamylollypop88]

Yes

[IDoDaChaCha]

IloveBanff maybe her DP is a 'fish for tea' kinda guy bleurgh

[Glowinginthedark]

I'd message her, might seem the wimps way but at least she won't be mortified at you saying it to her face! It's a lot kinder to let her know though, think we'd all want someone to tell us.

[LexieLulu]

Have you not texted her yet? I would have thought, if it was bothering you enough to write a post about it, you'd be proactive and resolve it?

[TalkinBoutNuthin]

Oh goodness, if you're going out with her on Saturday you need to tell her before you go!

[SleepOhHowIMissYou]

Can you send her an anonymous note? Mention BV. Might be less embarrassing for you both and still leaves you the option to address it in person if the note makes no difference. Also she might mention the note and you can back it up then perhaps.

[Jamylollypop88]

I can see how the note would be a good idea but I don't know if ild do that tbh seems odd and could really upset her getting an anonymous note telling her she smells

[MrsJamesAspey]

Next time you're in the toilets with her, spray loads of body spray over yourself and then offer the spray to her. If she says no thanks I don't need it, then say oh I think you do and start spraying her.

[Jamylollypop88]

So she's popping over soon as she wants to see outfits for sat (something we do before going out together lol) I'm going to have a good talk with her during this fun task :) wish me luck

[IloveBanff]

I can't fathom how her husband can't stand it (or why).

[TalkinBoutNuthin]

Good luck Jam. It won't be pleasant but it needs to be done. You don't want all your clothes to smell if she wants to try them on!

[LexieLulu]

Good luck x

[jamylollypop88]

I did it :(

[Jedimum1]

Ooooh... What happened?

[IloveBanff]

Is that all you're going to say?

[Youcanttaketheskyfromme]

I take it she was upset ?

I imagine she will be but in time she will be grateful. It must be hard to hear.

[jamylollypop88]

She questioned wether I was just too sensitive and what exactly the smell was. I just told he I'd noticed it a few times I got a little lost for words so was cut short but she left after a awkward ten mins I just feel bad now but I told her so I feel like it's off my shoulders.
I got a text an hour ago she asked me if I still wanted to meet up I said of course I did and she said ok " just jumping in the shower talk later lmao"" that was her jokey sarcasm in her text but I feel like she's taken it on the chin

[IloveBanff]

Doesn't sound as if she took you seriously at all. Especially if the shower comment was jokey sarcasm. It seems nothing will change.

[IloveBanff]

Maybe you should have told her exactly why you vomited last time.

[maddiemookins16mum]

I love the smell of Imperial Leather.

[Youcanttaketheskyfromme]

Id just text her back saying you're gals she's taking it on board and send her some helpful links about BV ..

[Jedimum1]

Did you mention that maybe it could be BV? Not just that she didn't shower? I think that was the important bit, she might have something...

People often joke about something when they feel awkward, anxious or scared. She might have taken it on board and is just making a joke to let OP know she wasn't angry. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

If you haven't replied yet and haven't had the chance to mention BV, maybe you could reply with "LMAO, didn't mean it like that but more like it can be some infection or something"?

[jamylollypop88]

I replied " ok see you tomorrow hope I haven't upset you I'm just concerned that all" she's ok as it seems posted on Facebook that she couldn't wait to go out tomorrow so...
I won't mention it was the smell that made me vomit as I feel that will upset her I'm sure it'll be devastating to hear that. But I feel like I can approach the subject now so if I still notice the smell I'm going to say to her again that I'm still noticing it.