Friend smells.. wwyd?

[Jamylollypop88]

i have to get advice on how to tell my friend please.i don't want to be mean or sounds mean or upset her how but how on earth do you talk to someone about their personal hygiene? This has always been a issue on my part il admit because I'm the one with the issue but I have to talk her. She's never been much of a bather will happily go days with out washing and yes openly admits this. I'm not the only one who has noticed.
Right .. few weeks ago we went for a few drinks together after a few i popped to the loo and she followed me in and popped in cubicle next to me, she called me into the cubicle to zip her dress back up and omg I nearly vomited!
This sounds so mean but I had to hold my breath! 100percent no word of a lie! The smell of what can only be described as fish (old fish)was horrendous I can't even explain!
I got out side the bar and I vomited every where with the smell still in my nose sad I don't have any sensitivity to bad smells but it was unlike anything I have ever smelt. I need to tell her sad what the hell do I say?? WWUD? Repeat thread as may get better advice on here.

[KittysMyName]

Did you go out again OP? Did she smell better? Was she ok with you, would be sad if your friendship suffered because of it. You're very brave, not sure I'd be able to say anything!

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Get those trotters washed immediately.

[YouRat]

my dcousin is like this. I've never been able to tell her. she has got better recently. I suspect her dh has been telling her to wash more often.
Your friends fishy smell is her fanjo not being washed and her probably having some sort of infection down there. If she smells this bad im surprised noone else has said something to her.

[BeachyKeen]

How did it go? Was she fresher?

[LexieLulu]

How was she this weekend? Better?

[mummmy2017]

Mitchems is in a green bottle in Boots. it's brilliant, the roll on can be used and last way more than a day's use.
Maybe you could buy one and when your in the loo offer her some of yours, if she thinks you worry about BO as well it may make her get one herself.

[artiface]

I will hold my hand up to say I've not read the whole thread, but the 'fish' thing can be a sign of a UTI, even with no other current symptoms. Is it possible the smell in the cubicle was the aftermath of her having a wee? Maybe a suggestion that she speaks to her GP would be a place to start

[Tighnabruaich]

There's definitely a way to do it - breezy, chatty, but no-nonsense. I remember jogging over to a friend's house after a whole day out in the sun. I took my trainers off in her hallway, and she said 'oh, Tighna, your feet stink - get those trotters washed immediately!' And I wasn't offended at all, just ran upstairs to her bathroom, got clean and came back down again (in clean bare feet) and she gave me a pair of socks to wear, and the offending trainers were left outside her back door. if you are close there's a way to get the message across.

[jamylollypop88]

I replied " ok see you tomorrow hope I haven't upset you I'm just concerned that all" she's ok as it seems posted on Facebook that she couldn't wait to go out tomorrow so...
I won't mention it was the smell that made me vomit as I feel that will upset her I'm sure it'll be devastating to hear that. But I feel like I can approach the subject now so if I still notice the smell I'm going to say to her again that I'm still noticing it.

[Jedimum1]

Did you mention that maybe it could be BV? Not just that she didn't shower? I think that was the important bit, she might have something...

People often joke about something when they feel awkward, anxious or scared. She might have taken it on board and is just making a joke to let OP know she wasn't angry. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

If you haven't replied yet and haven't had the chance to mention BV, maybe you could reply with "LMAO, didn't mean it like that but more like it can be some infection or something"?

[Youcanttaketheskyfromme]

Id just text her back saying you're gals she's taking it on board and send her some helpful links about BV ..

[maddiemookins16mum]

I love the smell of Imperial Leather.

[IloveBanff]

Maybe you should have told her exactly why you vomited last time.

[IloveBanff]

Doesn't sound as if she took you seriously at all. Especially if the shower comment was jokey sarcasm. It seems nothing will change.

[jamylollypop88]

She questioned wether I was just too sensitive and what exactly the smell was. I just told he I'd noticed it a few times I got a little lost for words so was cut short but she left after a awkward ten mins I just feel bad now but I told her so I feel like it's off my shoulders.
I got a text an hour ago she asked me if I still wanted to meet up I said of course I did and she said ok " just jumping in the shower talk later lmao"" that was her jokey sarcasm in her text but I feel like she's taken it on the chin

[Youcanttaketheskyfromme]

I take it she was upset ?

I imagine she will be but in time she will be grateful. It must be hard to hear.

[IloveBanff]

Is that all you're going to say?

[Jedimum1]

Ooooh... What happened?

[jamylollypop88]

I did it :(

[LexieLulu]

Good luck x

[TalkinBoutNuthin]

Good luck Jam. It won't be pleasant but it needs to be done. You don't want all your clothes to smell if she wants to try them on!

[IloveBanff]

I can't fathom how her husband can't stand it (or why).

[Jamylollypop88]

So she's popping over soon as she wants to see outfits for sat (something we do before going out together lol) I'm going to have a good talk with her during this fun task :) wish me luck

[MrsJamesAspey]

Next time you're in the toilets with her, spray loads of body spray over yourself and then offer the spray to her. If she says no thanks I don't need it, then say oh I think you do and start spraying her.

[Jamylollypop88]

I can see how the note would be a good idea but I don't know if ild do that tbh seems odd and could really upset her getting an anonymous note telling her she smells