Friend smells.. wwyd?

[Jamylollypop88]

i have to get advice on how to tell my friend please.i don't want to be mean or sounds mean or upset her how but how on earth do you talk to someone about their personal hygiene? This has always been a issue on my part il admit because I'm the one with the issue but I have to talk her. She's never been much of a bather will happily go days with out washing and yes openly admits this. I'm not the only one who has noticed.
Right .. few weeks ago we went for a few drinks together after a few i popped to the loo and she followed me in and popped in cubicle next to me, she called me into the cubicle to zip her dress back up and omg I nearly vomited!
This sounds so mean but I had to hold my breath! 100percent no word of a lie! The smell of what can only be described as fish (old fish)was horrendous I can't even explain!
I got out side the bar and I vomited every where with the smell still in my nose sad I don't have any sensitivity to bad smells but it was unlike anything I have ever smelt. I need to tell her sad what the hell do I say?? WWUD? Repeat thread as may get better advice on here.

Could you text her and be excessively nice? Tell her that you don't want others talking about her on mumsnet. Say you don't want it to effect your friendship, and you're worried about her? Xx

What?! She's been smelly for five years?

This has been a problem for 5 YEARS and nobody has mentioned anything?

That's ridiculous.

There is no easy way to tell someone they stink and that their hygiene is bad. She'll feel upset or offended either way.

Just be as kind as you can and hopefully she'll take note.

Not washing for days on end is really gross and unless she's depressed, lazy and grim!

Never seen a playsuit with a skirt attached

Probably a culotte type dress...the bottom bit is like loose shorts?

Gotta Ah yes, could be.

I just couldn't picture it at all.

I dunno out of ideas so il just let it out as best I can.

Well if she's been smelly for five years and goes around saying she doesn't wash plus you have personally dropped hints as lots of other people must have and she has a sense of smell herself, she KNOWS!

You vomited?

Yes I vomited EVERYWHERE outside. I walked out the toilet and straight out to where people usually smoke and the fresh air just hit me (was not drunk only had one)
And the smell went to the back of my throat and I just doubled over and vomited. I honestly have to say it is by far the WORST odour I have ever smelt it's really no exaggeration. :(

I do believe you OP. The smell is horrific. I used to do certain job that involved being close to people with little clothing on (health and beauty nothing rude ) and we had a few whiffy people through lack of hygiene but ONE woman made me physically sick as she smelled so bad,unwashed foof, urine, feces, BO the lot. She was not ill, she was just lazy about hygiene. It also stunk out the room so nobody else could use it.

We refused to rebook her after that and we were ''always busy'' when she rang. It is unfair to go somewhere SO unclean and expect people to treat you/be around you.

Yes I vomited EVERYWHERE outside. I walked out the toilet and straight out to where people usually smoke and the fresh air just hit me (was not drunk only had one) And the smell went to the back of my throat and I just doubled over and vomited. I honestly have to say it is by far the WORST odour I have ever smelt it's really no exaggeration

Did your friend not wonder why you suddenly left to go outside and vomit everywhere?

I can't believe that your friend as been stinky for 5 years and nobody has mentioned anything! So much so that you had to vomit because her smell was so bad

OP, tell you friend before someone else does!

Does your friend work, OP? If so, I'm surprised no one has broached the subject with her there.

Does your friend live alone?

This is such a hard one.

I once had to tell a very close family member that they had bad breath. I was absolutely dreading it, but I noticed other people were noticing too, but not making the connection it was her breath. They'd just say things like "what's that smell? It's awful" and the family member was the only one who couldn't smell anything. So I felt I had to tell her and she actually took it well, considering. I started with "this is a bit awkward xxx, but I would want you to tell me...." I think she had just started using a cheap toothpaste and it clearly wasn't doing the job. I rarely notice anything now.

OP, I'd suggest you start with the same kind of opener as me. Simple, but effective. I really hope it goes well!

Ewwww. I didn't know she didn't actually wash. I thought she just may not have washed thoroughly or put deodorant on.
I'm almost throwing up my self. Thinking about the stench from her arse and foof. I mean fair doos noones is scented mine included but. Hers must be in a league of it's own
The dirty biach.
You can 4 blocks of soap for a pound.

Does anyone else read these and get so paranoid that they smell but nobody has dared tell them?!

If this is something noticed by other people too, then it is her issue, not yours. She may have a medical condition or just not be very hygienic but she needs to be told she smells. Years ago there was a girl in my class at school and she smelt strongly of gone off fish and she was picked on over it and I genuinely don't think she could smell it herself, but it used to turn my stomach if I had to sit next to her. It was so pungent. There's a condition called fish odour syndrome and I think it was likely this girl had that. Your friend is likely to be upset but she will be glad she's being told in a sensitive way.

If this is something noticed by other people too, then it is her issue, not yours. She may have a medical condition or just not be very hygienic but she needs to be told she smells. Years ago there was a girl in my class at school and she smelt strongly of gone off fish and she was picked on over it and I genuinely don't think she could smell it herself, but it used to turn my stomach if I had to sit next to her. It was so pungent. There's a condition called fish odour syndrome and I think it was likely this girl had that. Your friend is likely to be upset but she will be glad she's being told in a sensitive way.

This reminds me of a friend of a friend - she's stopped washing her hair & often smells sweaty too. Her hair looks dreadful but she swears the natural oils keep it clean.

I don't wash every day and certainly have never smelled that bad!
The smell you are describing sounds like BV ( a bacterial vaginal infection) rather than Body Odour ... as such she may be struggling to eradicate the issue.
I'd still tell her - if the smell goes away with washing then she needs to wash - if not she needs to see a doctor.

The "issue" with one's smell is that our noses get used to it over time and we don't notice until it's really really bad...

Shes got bv

@awwlookatmybabyspider
I'm in tears laughing at your comment!!!!

Look it's not BV you bunch of illiterate do gooders.
SHE HASNT WASHED IN 5 YEARS.

She told me she's washed makeup off after a night out and that's it.
Iv stayed with her in the past and didn't notice any washing activity it's just so hard to tell someone
Yes she noticed I threw up I said I was feeling unwell and I called it a night was mean I know but I couldn't carry on after I felt to sickly in my stomach