To have a 6:30am freestyle drumming party with three 6yos tomorrow morning?

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My newish neighbour is having a party. He's met us and knows we have three small children. He's also met the other neighbour in our group of houses, an older lady.

The two other houses here are empty - both families on holiday.

The music is crazy loud, the kids are already going nuts with the lack of sleep and older lady neighbour has just been round asking for our help getting the noise down. Not off, I get that it's 11:30 on a saturday, just down.

So DH goes round, already to be civilised, and gets told to 'fuck off.' The music is now louder. They're screaming.

The police won't be interested, we're rural. Revenge is on my mind and his bedroom overlooks my back garden. I'm sure I can fashion drums out of various bits of the kitchen and shed.

AIBU? They certainly are

Loving all the fantasy ideas! Laughing away at old shitty accordions on Ebay. And Carmina Burana. Why not both in combination?

On a practical note, you've made your point now and it looks like he gets it. While it would serve him right to be unable to get a nap today, in the interests of getting him to call it a score draw, I think I'd leave it as it is. Although, don't make any special effort to keep quiet. And if you do want to torture him a bit more, I'd say lawn mowing at about 2 rather than anything specifically kid related.

It's alright, we're out. I've made my point and I have an accordion to buy

I am bloody exhausted though, I really appreciate everyone's suggestions. It's kept me from being a right old snappy cow, we've actually had a lovely morning!

Is it a semi detached OP? Got any shelves that desperately need putting up on the shared wall today? Nothing like the dulcet tones of a drill reverberating through the brickwork!

Seriously tho, unless you actually want a neighbour feud in the interests of future harmony I'd leave the noise making for now and maybe once your dickhead neighbour has had time to recover from his hangover you and DH should pop over to tell him you hope he enjoyed his party but that you would appreciate it if he could a) warn you in future and b) keep the noise down after 11. You're sure he didn't mean to be so rude to DH so you'll overlook that this time, but be aware the parish council take a dim view on noise disturbance and so you hope there won't be a need for any further conversations about this topic.

To be honest although he does sound like a knob 12.20 isn't over doing it for a one off party. If it was a regular occurrence then that's different. I thought it was going to be like 04.00hrs or something!

Was it him who said fuck off or a guest? If it was a guest then the neighbour may not know. If it was the neighbour relations are going to be strained!

Think your being very petty.

Yes, OP, you should have just rolled over and apologised for your lack of neighbourly spirit when told to fuck off for asking if noise could be kept down to a level that would enable other people to sleep. Goodness me, whatever were you thinking of telling Mr Entitled that he should be a bit more considerate. The feelings and desires of the selfish count for far more than anyone else's and if us ordinary people annoy them they have every right to swear at us. Tut tut.

It would be lovely to have a Sunday morning playgroup sometimes OP? Just as and when, you know.

I love the concept of "revenge opera"

This thread is fantastic! Sharing your pain, OP, as I have an upstairs neighbour who likes to have random midweek parties (8 small children and several drunk adults banging around/shouting/singing until 2am) and a next door neighbour who decided that since I work nights over weekend, the correct time to start his porch extension was at 8am this morning, with no prior warning whatsoever.
I will be rereading this thread until I can put together a suitable revenge plan to tackle both neighbours at once! And obviously sending sympathy and commending your resilience

I don't think a party until midnight at the weekend is outrageous. But you can have one without failing to warn people about it, crazy loud music disturbing people in a house two gardens away and telling the neighbours to fuck off.

Neighbours of ours once had a loud party until 4am. Complete with karaoke, shrieking girls and hideous doof doof music.

Ignored the doorbell 5 times when people went over to request a reduction in noise.

The next morning the inhabitants of 3 surrounding houses went to the beach and paid other neighbours 14 year old son $50 to stand at the fence below their window with a leaf blower for 90 minutes

Tell me where you live. My two would be delighted to join in and DP has an amp he would be delighted to lend to a good cause.

Can I recommend pots and pans drumming? I'm sure there are 'create your own speaker/amplifier science projects' on the internet to help you match his decibel levels!

Am making notes from this thread as hv a inconsiderate new ndn who thought it was ok to play music/tv every night until 1am for a 3 nights in a row. After the 2nd night I asked politely to turn it down & she lost the plot / F off too type of thing. Am a single parent so was intimidated. On the 4th day we went out all day & left Classic FM full blast for the entire day. She has been better since ... Will remember Libitinas suggestion - Fab !!!!

You tube badger badger mushroom....theres a 10hr loop on there probably for this purpose

We had this till 4am recently. Also rural so no one likely to care. I have 2 VERY novice violin players and a just started drummer all under 8 - result !!! And we got practice out the way ever so early the next day.....

I would advocate caution. This guy is already behaving inappropriately and his reaction to your DH was not promising. Totally understand the urge to get your own back BUT does he then escalate matters further. If DH is capable of sorting him out with a cricket bat (if need arises) then perhaps it is worth pursuing. Otherwise, you may be best to pursue legal means and the council. BTW the drumming is going to count against you if you need to take further action - particularly if he records it / complains. I would recommend assuming the worst (i.e. he is HCP) and planning accordingly

You need to contact the anti-social behaviour team at your local council. They will deal with it. Don't retaliate with similar loud noise as neighbour can use this against you. 11.30 is unreasonable to have loud noise, there should be quiet between 11pm and 7am. They may also ask you to keep a noise diary. Good luck x

This is not a police matter, you need to call the Environment Department of your local council.

They will have a dedicated team or officer trained to deal with idiots like your neighbour.

They have considerable legal powers which include confiscating sound systems & fines. But normally a letter from them does the job.

Good luck.

Hate to say it but a parish council has absolutely no powers over anything like this.

The District council will have an environment depart or similar who could possibly act on noise nuisance but not at parish level.

Invite every child you know and also add lots of recorders - a child can peirce the brain of the living dead with one of those!! Let older lady know so she can join in too (issue all non partying adults with ear plugs)

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Bug your children whistles and play loud music in the background.
My neighbour gives her grandchildren whistles when they come round. They drive me insane. To be fair we're a family of 5 and probably definitely not the quietest of people! I've bought whistles for my kids but binned them after a week or so as I couldn't cope with it.