To have refused to remove our coats from free chair in the pub

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We were out earlier in a local pub for lunch. There was five of us sitting around a table, with our jackets, cardigans, elderly person's walking stick etc on the sixth chair.

A family of four came in and went to a table for four behind us. The daughter, aged about six, put her stuffed toy on one of the chairs and then kicked off that there was no seat for her.

Mother then came over to our table and asked us to move our stuff off the spare seat so her daughter could have it. We pointed out that there was a spare seat at their table and she said 'oh the giraffe is using that chair'. We replied that our coats etc were using our spare chair and she went off in a huff.

WWBU. Obviously, if the seat had genuinely been needed we would have moved all our stuff.

ITscurtains - did you need the highchair for an actual child though? Or for a stuffed toy?

The gall and entitlement of that mother 😳 She expected you to get up and move all your coats and canes somewhere else and interrupt your meal so mr giraffe could have his own seat. No. I'm usually very "can't we all just get along" but no. Fuck her.

Is it about time for a diagram?

I'd have been mortified to go begging for a chair for my child because her stuffed giraffe was plonked on hers.

I'd have been mortified to go begging for a chair for my child because her stuffed giraffe was plonked on hers.

You weren't using chair for its correct purpose

Have you ever been out with an old person who needs to be able to put their stick somewhere they can easily retrieve it? And their coat? It can take ages to get them comfortably settled and feeling confident. I wouldn't move a chair at my own table for a stuffed animal in those circumstances.

Yes. doubly morto!

Oh for fucks sake!
OP's party of 5 are there first. 'Their' 6th chair is being used to hold all their personal, needed items.
Cheeky Fucking Entitled Family of 4 (humans!) arrive and CHOOSE to use one of 'their' chairs to hold a (cunting) stuffed toy.
Child of CFEF then wants a chair of it's own.
CFEP parent then walks over to OP's party and requests the spare chair, ALREADY being used at their table, in the same manner.
OP refuses.
CFEF parent cops the hike.
TOUGH SHIT!!!
No OP, YcertainlyANBU. CFEF ABunbelievablyU!

I can't believe people think the OP should have moved all her tables stuff so a bloody stuffed giraffe could have it's own seat! If it had been for the other people to squeeze an extra person at their table fair enough but to pander to a child? Not a chance

Why should I give up my chair?

That giraffe had some neck.....

YANBU. Kids need to learn they can't always get their own way.

I'm not one for animal cruelty but stick the bloody giraffe in a handbag.

Weren't you doing the same thing as the child was?

No, because she wasn't expecting someone else to move all their stuff to accommodate a soft toy.

if I had asked you with the explaination that my DC have autism and role playing with the toy helps her manage her anxiety would you have been considerate and given us the chair?

Yes, but without your explanation how am I supposed to make that judgement? Your child (and you) might just be being entitled and unreasonable.

I think I must live in some sort of parallel universe - I can't believe people think the OP and her companions had less right to the chair at their table than a stuffed toy.

Yanbu - downright embarrassing!

Couldn't resist!

'I can't believe people think the OP should have moved all her tables stuff so a bloody stuffed giraffe could have it's own seat!'

They're probably parents of 'spirited' children themselves.

Can't burleaaaave there are people on this thread who think the OP and her group should have inconvenienced themselves during a meal to accommodate a stuffed toy.

Fuck me, that mother was an idiot.

I'd have told my kid that the giraffe was feeling a bit poorly or overwhelmed in pub and that he needed a cuddle throughout entire meal from said child. Play on their guilt and build empathy. Some people Have no imagination.

Print this off and keep it in your bag, incase you ever spot the giraffe family eyeing up your chair again...

You weren't using chair for its correct purpose

The correct purpose for a chair being somewhere a toy giraffe can sit ?

I bet that giraffe is the type to order lobster, neck four bottles of wine and say 'let's split the bill equally'

Hahaha. The mother was being a twat. How hard is it to say 'no' to the child?

Everyone knows when it comes to chairs for inanimate objects it's first come first served.

I seriously can't get over how many CF on here think OP should have given up the chair [sock]

Yes if I had been told that the child had some kind of anxiety issue or autism I would have willingly moved our stuff because in that situation their need was greater than ours.

But I cannot go through life inconveniencing myself and pandering to every self entitled parent and spoilt child on the off chance that the child has special needs and the parent didn't want to explain this. If you took that to extremes you would let anybody to anything 'just in case'.