To have refused to remove our coats from free chair in the pub

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We were out earlier in a local pub for lunch. There was five of us sitting around a table, with our jackets, cardigans, elderly person's walking stick etc on the sixth chair.

A family of four came in and went to a table for four behind us. The daughter, aged about six, put her stuffed toy on one of the chairs and then kicked off that there was no seat for her.

Mother then came over to our table and asked us to move our stuff off the spare seat so her daughter could have it. We pointed out that there was a spare seat at their table and she said 'oh the giraffe is using that chair'. We replied that our coats etc were using our spare chair and she went off in a huff.

WWBU. Obviously, if the seat had genuinely been needed we would have moved all our stuff.

Doubt parents of an autistic child would then go on to waste energy glaring at the op would they!?

Honestly, you sound horrible

Is there a poster called Honestly on this thread?

Otherwise, more specificity is needed

Butchy!!

YANBU.
There's no way I'd have pandered to the spoilt brat or her entitled mother. The mother needs parenting lessons if she thinks this is an acceptable way to raise a child.

FanjoForTheMammaries actually a little gutted as I was hoping you could answer questions about giraffe

Having experience of children with autism means you have experience only of those children with autism. Means nothing in the scheme of things, as it can vary so much.

I have 3dc with autism, ADHD &the eldest has social anxiety disorder, PDA, and elher dahnos syndrome plus other developmental disabilities and the twins will likely end up with other diagnosis in time.

We never plan anything like calling and booking because that backfires for children with PDA, silly to assume all parents with autism manage things the same way.

I said op was being reasonable. I just said I would likely give them it as I would allways have it at the back of my mind.

I have asked on a several occasions at our local coffee shop (very disability friendly) as one went through a stage of requesting a seat for her toy &her sister is obsessed with a particular pattern of seat. No one has ever seemed to mind, perhaps as I know many people locally and they know the struggles we have been through just getting my eldest to leave the house and how badly she panics if the littles go onto melt down. no one ever seems to mind and often it means I get an extra aquintence to give sympathetic looks our way on days it's all falling apart. Which is frequent. Even my primary aged child finds life so difficult she only attends school 3days a week and the twins just a couple of mornings and it's taken alot of work to get to this stage without the self harming or breaking my bones or dislocating my joints. My exhausted appearance and frequent injuries may also be why I find so many are sympathetic to us.y kids are very sweet, anxious, scared children from an outsider's pov so I think that may effect that also. One needing to hide under a table or being carried in the carrier, ear defenders on, sunglasses and hood up to block out the world isn't uncommon. Yet they hate to stay in, and become more and more anxious (and then violent) about getting out as of putting off the transision is harder than getting on with it however much it terrifies them. I guess it helps that the owner is a neighbour of ours though so they understand and have done fund raising within the coffee shop for a local charity that helps my eldest.

And if I asked and someone declined to swap chairs or give us the spare I would just be polite and stand. If that didn't cause them melting down.

And I'm hoping autistic childerbeast is an accidental typo and not a vicious ablist slur