To have refused to remove our coats from free chair in the pub

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We were out earlier in a local pub for lunch. There was five of us sitting around a table, with our jackets, cardigans, elderly person's walking stick etc on the sixth chair.

A family of four came in and went to a table for four behind us. The daughter, aged about six, put her stuffed toy on one of the chairs and then kicked off that there was no seat for her.

Mother then came over to our table and asked us to move our stuff off the spare seat so her daughter could have it. We pointed out that there was a spare seat at their table and she said 'oh the giraffe is using that chair'. We replied that our coats etc were using our spare chair and she went off in a huff.

WWBU. Obviously, if the seat had genuinely been needed we would have moved all our stuff.

What a twat!!

I think if you're asked for a chair you assess your own table's needs. Not asker's table's needs. If the latter were the case, surely we'd be entering ridiculous situations of considering unseating of a current sitter at your table to seat a more needy person at the asker's table.
In this case you were asked. You weren't using chair for its correct purpose. You should let the asker take it. and sit there chuntering and tutting about the seated giraffe for the rest of the meal as decent English people do

Wouldn't giraffe have been safer in a high chair?

You were right. It was not like that chair was being used for a person, then I would have given them the coat chair, if had extra people needing a chair. Giraffe could have been moved!

I would of given them the chair, it would of only taken 15 seconds to stick the stuff somewhere else.

If I was in the Mums positive I wouldn't of asked you but would take an unused chair from elsewhere.

Did Giraffe even eat or was he just planning on being a chair hogger

Doh! -must preview

You were there first. Yoyr stuff was on the chair first. Chair was at your table. It was being used for five people's belongings. You were mid meal.
Verdict: YANBU. Other parent is batshit, entitled and PFB.

There were 5 of you I'm guessing at a table for 6 , yes? So you have your 6 chairs to use as you wish.

They had 4 at a table for 4 ? So they had 4 chairs , they chose to use one for the giraffe.

If the Giraffe wasn't actually eating, he had no right to occupy a chair

I would of given them the chair, it would of only taken 15 seconds to stick the stuff somewhere else but why does their inaminate object take precedent? And guessing there was no where else for all the coats to go as they were using a chair.

Was it an Assistance Giraffe?
Otherwise, no animals allowed in cafe thank you

Giraffe probably would have preferred to prop up the bar

YANBU , you give up a chair for another person , not for somebody else's objects .

If you given them the chair, I guarantee that Mr Giraffe would have been sitting on child's knee within 2 minutes

This is a pet hate of mine. I was at a service station coffee shop looking for a high chair (the last had just been taken). After careful looking around d I saw one buried under a load of jackets etc. The people were very huffy when I asked for it and even said "there should be another one around" (there wasn't).

I think that it's potentially entitled to put your stuff on a chair anyway, then to behave in a way that shows that it's an inconvenience to take your stuff off because someone needs it ( for whatever reason) makes you look like complete twat.

Personally I think she was bonkers yo go looking for a spare chair....It would of been slighlty tolerable if she were asking for a spare empty chair.

But to expect people to move their belongings to pander to a 6 year old makes her bonkers.

I once had a woman come up to me and ask if my DS would give up his kiddie trolley, that had shopping in, as her DD now preferred the red handled on as opposed to her blue one

Itscurtainsforyou In what way did the other family "need" the OP's chair?

I think asking for the OP's chair was a tall order. They had quite a neck.

Curtains - did you also need the high chair for a toy giraffe?

This is a pet hate of mine. I was at a service station coffee shop looking for a high chair (the last had just been taken). After careful looking around d I saw one buried under a load of jackets etc. The people were very huffy when I asked for it and even said "there should be another one around" (there wasn't).

This is a different situation entirely and cannot be compared. In your case, there was only one high chair and you didn't have one you were already using for a stuffed toy.

In this case, they already had a chair their child could use and there were plenty of other chairs in the restaurant.

I think that it's potentially entitled to put your stuff on a chair anyway, then to behave in a way that shows that it's an inconvenience to take your stuff off because someone needs it ( for whatever reason) makes you look like complete twat.

They don't need it though, that's the thing. The only one that looks like a twat here is the parent whose kid is going to grow up with such entitlement they alienate everyone around them. The parent is doing the child no favours.

curtains which stuffed animal of yours urgently required this high chair?

Itscurtainsforyou I made it clear in my first post that we would have given up the spare seat if a person needed it.

But why should five adults be disturbed in order to pander to a child's unimportant whim? Why was that child's 'need' to have a seat for a toy more important than our 'need' to have somewhere to put coats and bags and an elderly person's walking stick?

You weren't using chair for its correct purpose.

Neither were they.