To update you on controlling weight-obsessed dad

[Petitefleurblanche]

This is a TAAT so please delete if not allowed, admin, but I posted yesterday about the fact that my dad has been critical of my weight all my life (to the point of being emotionally abusive and causing me to have an eating disorder) and is now demanding that I lose 2.5 stone by 18th November which is when we were due to fly abroad to meet family. He had also agreed to lend me the tuition fees for med school but only if I lose weight. I asked for that thread to be deleted in the end as I was worried that it would be too identifying (thank you admin for agreeing to delete it) but I just wanted to update you -

I am going to tell him tonight that I am now not going abroad with him and I no longer want the loan for med school. I'm going to find a way to study something (probably not medicine now) to improve mine and my baby's situation without his extremely conditional help. And that if he ever mentions my weight again I will not speak to him ever again. It ends now.

Thank you to everyone who responded kindly to the original thread.

PetitefleurBlanche - I read your other thread, and I'm so glad you have got this horrible man out of your life. I predict he will stilltry to control you because controlling people cannot stand it when they aren't calling the tune - so he will find some spurious reason to get back in contact. So stay strong and ignore him ! I can also guarantee if he wasn't obsessing about your weight, he'd find something else to berate you about.

If you want to lose some weight, do so for yourself because it is what you choose. And if you don't want to that's totally fine and your choice. It's no one's business but yours.

I had a very very controlling XH, - I have blossomed so much since we divorced, my confidence - everything is so much better. So look on this as the start of good things to come - onward and upwards

I'd advise keeping your DD away from him, he'll try to get her to side with him against you while undermining her and her body image.

I intend to Honey, I won't have him messing up her body image the way he did to me

I wish I had your courage Petite, you sound amazing.

Your father is a fucking nutcase.