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to be angry at DH? *Title edited by MNHQ*

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gertiegildergoesbananas · 16/08/2017 19:12

I work full time but had taken a day's leave today as it's been mega stressful recently (miscarriage and a LOT on at work) and I wanted to spend a day with my son.

Anyway, I went out this morning to run errands with DS who's 3 and had taken chicken out to defrost for dinner at about 11am.

Came back later, tried to tidy up and get house organised.

DH came in and started to prep dinner and chicken hasn't defrosted through! He's just walked out in a huff and has gone to get himself dinner and hasn't even asked if I'd like anything. He'll probably sit at McDonald's and come back quite content and I'll be starving and I'm bathing DS and will be putting him to bed. I know there will be a chorus of "oh but just text him!" But surely it's rude to just leave someone dinnerless.i realise in the grand scheme of things this is a non problem but it's just selfish.

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fluffiphlox · 16/08/2017 19:28

Does he have any redeeming qualities?

TheFaerieQueene · 16/08/2017 19:29

That kebab will give him a nasty case of the squits. I can just tell. Grin

Buck3t · 16/08/2017 19:30

That is crazy behaviour. Is this normal, it must be,you predicted as much. Pull him up on it if it bothers you.

Blazedandconfused · 16/08/2017 19:30

I am absolutely raging on your behalf. DH often puts his own belly first- but he is a bit thoughtless at times. Not a nasty spiteful cock.

Redsippycup · 16/08/2017 19:31

Eat his sodding kebab! I honestly can't understand this, and DP can be a complete knob at times...

Ginlovinglady · 16/08/2017 19:31

Sadly TheFaerieQueene
It won't and he will continue to do this over and over and over again
And I really hope the op doesn't put up with it, but usually we do put up with it. We don't want to rock the boat etc

It actually makes me feel so sad. Because it's so low level people don't think it's that bad

dollydaydream114 · 16/08/2017 19:31

What the actual fuck is wrong with him?

Is this sort of obnoxious behaviour normal for him? He sounds like an absolute shit. There are no circumstances in which this would be an acceptable reaction to something not defrosting. The normal thing to do would be to say "oh, not quite defrosted - never mind, is there anything else we could have? No worries if not, we can get a takeaway as a treat and have the chicken tomorrow." He is an ABSOLUTE ARSE.

EvansOvalPies · 16/08/2017 19:31

Order a most delicious takeaway to be delivered to you tonight, then cook the chicken tomorrow and just you and DS eat it. Your husband can go and get another kebab.

Bastard!

Aquamarine1029 · 16/08/2017 19:32

Wow. Your husband is a massive cunt. This can't be the only way he's a horrid person, surely. A normal, considerate person would never do this.

Starlighter · 16/08/2017 19:33

I'd grab that kebab and chuck it in the bin!

Or empty it into his sock drawer!

What a twatish thing to do. Is he normally so selfish??

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 16/08/2017 19:35

What is it with these awful men I am reading about lately? Why are some men so fucking vile? I am so sorry OP, you know you deserve more than this. He is indeed a cunt and I truly think your should LTB.

sparechange · 16/08/2017 19:37

I assume this is the last week you ever, ever ever cook anything for him again, ever

FunSizedNinja · 16/08/2017 19:37

My ex was exactly this. I would come home after a 14 hour shift and he would have emptied the contents of the slow cooker i had done at 5:30am. His response when I asked where my portion was? "Your problem not mine" and he would leave all the mess for me. Note he is the ex...

Shoxfordian · 16/08/2017 19:37

Is he usually this selfish?

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 16/08/2017 19:38

Is he a prick a lot?

I suspect the answer is yes

viques · 16/08/2017 19:40

Can you not contaminate the kebab by wiping it on the uncooked chicken. I suppose not, but heck I would be tempted.

Phone his mother and ask how she taught her son to be so antisocial so you can avoid making the same mistakes with your son.

Ginlovinglady · 16/08/2017 19:40

Don't let this go op. Stand up for yourself
It will be a slow drip drip if you don't

If he doesn't get the message he will continue to pull this shit continuously

His response was just vile

Nanny0gg · 16/08/2017 19:40

it's been mega stressful recently (miscarriage and a LOT on at work)

And he's had a strop because his dinner's not ready?

What a pig.

Flowers OP.

BabsGanoush · 16/08/2017 19:44

Why are you with this man?

RiseToday · 16/08/2017 19:45

I hope he gets fucking food poisoning.

15MinutesWithYou · 16/08/2017 19:45

Why would you put up with this? If my husband did this there would be actual murder.

honeysucklejasmine · 16/08/2017 19:46

Eugh, what a wanker.

Brittbugs80 · 16/08/2017 19:47

You say he started preparing the dinner, how? Is there any chance he was aware the chicken was still frozen and would have dealt with that when he got to the chicken prep part?

tamepanda · 16/08/2017 19:48

What a total prick! Don't cook for him until you stop angry about his selfish wankery!

GodIsDead · 16/08/2017 19:49

Un-fucking-believable!!!! Your husband is Cunt Of The Year. I would claw his bastard eyes out OP. Angry