to ask what's your biggest regret in life?

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That and have you regretted more things you didn't do or did do?

I have a difficult decision to make and I'm wondering if I make the wrong choice if it'll turn out to be my biggest regret in life. It just made me wonder, what's everyone else's regrets? And are they over things you regret doing or regret not doing?

Missing out on going to a Nirvana gig. I saved up for tickets to see them in Barcelona when I was on foreign exchange. 2 days before I slipped and pulled a muscle in my back. I gave the tickets to my friends instead who had a great time.

I wish I'd just taken painkillers and gone! It was one of their last gigs as well.

Stopping breast feeding my DC2 at 6 weeks. 3 years on and it really really pains me.

My wedding dress and the whole experience of buying it makes me sad.

It's not regret more of a what if??

My ex boyfriend asked me to marry him as he was being moved abroad and wanted me to go with him. As a scared only just 18yr old I said no and then callously dumped him by letter (over 20yrs ago)

Then went on holiday with friends and met my now husband of 19yrs. We have a good enough life. Not very exciting but 3 lovely healthy children and we do love each other. But always thought I'd have that big adventure and travel more and probably live abroad. I trained in a certain profession in order to help make it easier to get a visa to work and live abroad but dh chickened out and we opted to stay in the uk.

I do love my life but have those whistful moments of what if? However not sure being an army wife would have been for me.

I definitely regret not having more kids. We always said we were going to, but with twin boys we never really had chance. Plus, the first adoption process for our boys was so mentally exhausting it was something that was always on the back burner.

Still, it's not something I mope over. I'm incredibly lucky to have two amazing teenage sons who make me laugh and proud every single day, and I'm incredibly happy with DP and my career.

Long term often long distance relationship with a guy who future faked me for years in my 20s. Wish I'd had more confidence to go it alone

Not trying to get into medical school. Although I'm only mid 30s, I already feel the chance has slipped away.

I think I regret having children, I'm not that good at being a mum, mine are still young, I feel like I'm not giving them the best they deserve and that my regret later in life will be that I wasn't good enough for them.

Oh yes @Mayhemmumma, that's a good one - I regret my wedding dress and that I didn't spend longer looking for the right one.

I let my heart rule my head over a difficult decision recently. I made the wrong decision and there is no easy way to reverse it. I always thought I would more regret not doing something than trying and getting it wrong. But it was too big a risk and has backfired badly. And no I am not Theresa May

Not having a career to aim for or aspirations. I have quite a good job now but took me years to get and I always feel a could have done more. Wish I'd pushed myself and been driven when I was young and without ties.

Losing, what would have been my third child, to miscarriage.

I feel like I'm not a good enough mum either Hola. I find my young dc so draining. After a day of stressful work and then kids stress at Home, I know I should be reading parenting books but I am mentally drained and want to switch off from real life.

I regret quitting physics /astronomy / science. I also regret never kissing that guy when I was studying abroad.

Taking a year out from a career I'd trained at since I was 5 yrs old; had a scholarship to classical ballet school. Went through the school and had to take time out to deal with anorexia issues. I never went back. Always thought I would but didn't. My biggest regret as I miss it so, even many years later.

Choosing to be in a relationship with my STBXH for almost a decade. Should never have lasted beyond a few months, but ended up in a doomed marriage
However, if it wasnt for this, I wouldn't have a child. So to regret those years would mean regretting my child, who is the best thing to ever happen to me.
So I just have to put all those years down to experience and move on! Very difficult at times.

Staying with then bf when I discovered he intended cheating. Thought he'd matured into a better person, not sure now though.

Arsing around at uni and getting a 2:2, which not only affected my confidence but has also closed many doors is my biggest one.

I definitely regret things I didn't do rather than the ones I did. I took a year out before I went to uni and should have done a foundation course (poor A-level grades). Instead I had a year of sitting on the sofa and doing bugger all.

Not going to Australia on an 18-30 work visa is another one, and not having more sex when I was young.

So many, so many. Not working harder at school. Not putting my focus on building a career , instead having children too soon . Spending years as a SAHM bored out of my mind and isolated as a result. Having a shitty wedding . Not travelling enough, settling for less all the time because I was exhausted by life and afraid. Not sorting out a toxic relationship with my sister thirty years ago. Being induced too soon. Stopping bf at six weeks with first child... Not appreciating my in laws more and what they did for me. Isolating myself and cutting myself off for fear of being hurt. Wasting years being upset about my poisonous mother and her impact on my life. Not having had more sex when I was young. Getting into a devastatingly destructive relationship at 16 which ate years of my life and caused massive negative consequences.
Doing the wrong subject at Uni. Not working harder at friendships, getting bored with people and places and moving on constantly. Getting fat, getting thin, getting fat. Allowing one of my children to just sit around and waste their life to the point where it can't be reversed. Not being a better mother in all sorts of ways. Probably getting married at all, though it's been positive in many ways. This is all very depressing.

Getting married.

I regret almost everything that happened in my life to date.

Selling my house and not buying another one and just wasting what little profit we made.
I'm now in no position to buy a house ever again and it makes me so angry that I got off the housing ladder when I did.

Sending my DDs to a childminder who turned out to be abusive, police and SS were involved etc., obviously its not my fault as such, but I still blame myself in some way.

Not divorcing H when kids were very young.

I don't regret the big things but the little things.

Like the first reply, I regret not seeing No a Simone - tickets were £90 and I just couldn't justify it.

I regret missing Ewan McGregor in Guys and Dolls.

I regret not seeing the last The Wall tour by Pink Floyd.

I regret not seeing Queen while Freddie Mercury was alive.

I think I would beat myself up too much if I regretted the really big things in life.

Not standing up to bullies at work (twice!). On both occasions I just left which is what they wanted so they could get my job. I like to think I'd deal with them better now as I'm older and "wiser" but I'll never know as I've given up work to bring up children.
On the bright side, both lost their jobs/were sacked not long after they pushed me out. Karma!