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AIBU?

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Original poster

to hide the flipping condiments?

150 replies

winobaglady · 15/08/2017 21:53

Every. Flickin. Meal,
I dish up in the kitchen and before tasting he grinds pepper over whatever I've cooked.
I don't cook every night, but when I do AIBU in expecting him to taste it first?
His parents are the same when they visit. Dish up, straight onto the salt and pepper. AIBU to think it's rude?

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bigchris · 15/08/2017 21:55

I don't think it's rude at all !

Flybye · 15/08/2017 21:55

I do it. Even if it's the most expensive dish ever, I'd still add salt and pepper
heathen

bigchris · 15/08/2017 21:55

Why do we have salt and pepper pots if we can't use them !

YellowLawn · 15/08/2017 21:56

yabu to call salt/pepper condiments...
but yanbu, my parents are the same. it's annoying and unhealthy.
we don't have salt/pepper on the table.

AnathemaPulsifer · 15/08/2017 21:57

It's bad manners to add more seasoning before even tasting it.

user1457213512 · 15/08/2017 21:57

Strange thing to be offended/upset about really. I always had pepper to food as I find a lot of people's cooking rather bland (although I don't add salt ever, just pepper).

Original poster
winobaglady · 15/08/2017 21:57

Ha ha, do you not taste the food first? What if there was already salt and pepper in it?

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Friedsprout · 15/08/2017 21:58

It's rude, and implies that you food is tasteless!

Fluffyears · 15/08/2017 21:58

Why is it rude? I know what foods I like salt and pepper on. I hate people who say 'oh you salted that without tasting first!' Fuck off it's my food!

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 15/08/2017 21:59

It's called autocondimenting. YANBU.

SpottedGingham · 15/08/2017 22:00

I tend to taste the food before seasoning. It's annoying to cook a meal, (which I taste regularly) to have someone just grind pepper or salt all over it. Taste, then season.
I am a trained chef which might explain it. Grin

Mumof56 · 15/08/2017 22:01

I do it. I love pepper.

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 15/08/2017 22:02

It's rude. I flipped at my dad once and he's tasted before salting ever since.

Taste it people - it may not need anything.

Fluffyears · 15/08/2017 22:04

I had pork loin and chips for dinner. I like salt on meat and chips so salted straight away.

imnottoofussed · 15/08/2017 22:05

It would be ruder if they just left your meal and went and got something else to eat out of the fridge Wink or if they tasted it and then added salt/pepper/sauce, you clearly know then that they don't like the taste of it!

CheshireChat · 15/08/2017 22:05

Put loads of pepper/ chilli on his portion and let him burn his tongue?

I wouldn't mind if it were the odd meal that got this treatment, but all of them?!

OuchLegoHurts · 15/08/2017 22:05

Only someone with little to no tastebuds could add seasoning to something before testing to see what how much (if any) it needs! Do it by all means, but don't try to justify it as it makes no sense!

Original poster
winobaglady · 15/08/2017 22:07

Don't get me wrong, I love a good shaking of salt on some chips but I always taste first.
After all, how does he know I haven't used salt and pepper in the cooking (ok, so I don't but still...).
I confess, I made him an omelette earlier and put a health serving of pepper into it. He did ask, when eating having peppered it, if I put pepper in too. WIBU? (slightly lighthearted, but taught him a lesson)

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dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2017 22:08

It isn't rude and it doesn't imply food is tasteless. Everyone has different taste buds so what's perfect for you isn't perfect for everyone. If someone likes pepper, who cares if they want to add it to their food? Let them have their meal how they want it, not how you want it.

Girty999 · 15/08/2017 22:09

I don't like the salting, my dad just drowns everything and it's so bad for him, my DH sometimes wrecks what I cook (in my opinion) by drowning it in brown sauce, I made cottage pice, put loads of lovely flavour into it and was actually proud and he just spotted sauce all over!!!

ClaudiaWankleman · 15/08/2017 22:10

So you don't put salt or pepper in your food? It must be so bland. YABU to expect him to taste unseasoned food before adding. He already knows what to expect!

Davros · 15/08/2017 22:11

YANBU expecting food to be tasted before extra seasoning is added. But YABU bit to season while you cook

mommybunny · 15/08/2017 22:11

It would definitely be more polite to taste first before adding seasoning, though I don't really notice if people season my food before tasting it.

NellieUnkles · 15/08/2017 22:11

My mil does this. Without tasting. Every single time we've eaten together for the past 24 years. Weirdly, it's not even that she likes salty food and obviously she can't know that 24 years worth of meals are underseasoned she thinks it's 'mannerly'.

YellowLawn · 15/08/2017 22:20

So you don't put salt or pepper in your food? it must be so bland

salt and pepper are bland imo.
other herbs/spices are so much more flavourful.