to hide the flipping condiments?

[winobaglady]

Every. Flickin. Meal,
I dish up in the kitchen and before tasting he grinds pepper over whatever I've cooked.
I don't cook every night, but when I do AIBU in expecting him to taste it first?
His parents are the same when they visit. Dish up, straight onto the salt and pepper. AIBU to think it's rude?

I love pepper, and add it before tasting.
But I do it to my own cooking too as I don't season it to my taste but to suit others

I do this. DH never seasons anything when he cooks. Without tasting I always add salt. It always needs it. I have never made a mistake. Maybe after all this time they also know how you cook and that it needs salt?

If you don't add seasoning while cooking, presumably he's worked out over the time you've been together that he'll need something?
If it's wrong, why do waiters at Italian restaurants offer black pepper before you start?

Would you rather he tested it, them finding it too bland, added condiments? Is that less rude.
And you don't add s &p when you cook, he must know that by now, so adds it himself.

I flipped at my dad once and he's tasted before salting ever since

You flipped at your dad for adding salt and pepper to his dinner?
Seems a bit controlling.

I tell DH that I have already seasoned that but he still adds more. He adds that same amount whether I season while cooking or not - I've tested

When they ate at home with us or when we went to a restaurant, DMIL used to salt her meal and salt DFIL's as well before they tasted their food. One thing to potentially ruin your own meal, but a bit cheeky to do it to someone else's.

I always salt potatoes, and always put pepper on carrots.

Other than that I go with the flavour, some foods don't need help.

YABU. He's obviously eaten enough of your cooking to know he'd prefer it seasoned.

Do you season your own plate?

This drove me fucking INSANE when I got together with DH. Every meal, from sandwiches to curry would be salted to hell before even tasting it. I asked him if my cooking was shit and he said, no of course not. So I told him no more salt until he at least tries it first to see if it's needed! Now salt is hardly used, except on chips of course!

We once had an acquaintance of DFs who used to pop round whenever we were cooking and expect to be fed. He wasn't a good friend or anything, they were just in the same pheasant shoot and he was a greedy fucker. He annoyed the hell out of DM and I. He would tip the salt upside down for what felt like minutes and would pepper the hell out of the meals before even tasting them. DM was not impressed. One day she made a meal for DF that was rather peppery by nature. He walked in and actually served himself a bowlful straight from the pot! She told him not to put any salt or pepper on it (as she always did) and he ignored her, peppered it to hell as usual then went bright red, coughing and spluttering telling her it was far too peppery. She told him if he wasn't so fucking rude and ignorant he would have enjoyed the meal she had actually made for her DH. She then started putting dinner on hold, hiding pans of food in the microwave and oven if he turned up at meal times. She'd pretend he'd missed the meal.

YANBU, Ugh I hate this...it's really rude and actually makes my stomach churn when I see people do it, it seems a really "bad habit". If he considers your food will automatically need it from years of trying it, as some people here suggests, perhaps he needs to start cooking his own meals and not being so blatantly disrespectful of your efforts.

Why is it disrespectful? Op doesn't add salt and pepper and he likes pepper I like chilli sauce on my food but dp would never add it. I don't have to taste every meal for years to see if it's the one time he decided to add chilli sauce, which he hates.

I taste before adding salt but always add pepper before tasting. I've never met a meal too peppery for me

YABU. It's not at all rude.

Yabu. He knows you don't use salt and pepper so he doesn't need to taste it first. Dh cooks without salt so he adds it for me when he dishes up, otherwise I would add it without tasting.

@YellowLawn
"yabu to call salt/pepper condiments..."

Eh, what do you call them?

YABU

I add pepper to food without tasting, not because i think the food is not to my taste, but because i actually like pepper.
I put it on chilli and curry too.

Salt on the other hand i reserve for plain chips, veg, rice and eggs (poached or fried). Everything elses gets tasted first. Nothing rude about, just personal preference.

I never salt my food but adore pepper. Use loads of it. And always put it in before tasting.

But if you don't season it of course he's going to put it on

YANBU OP, I hate this mindless addition of salt and pepper.

Salt and pepper are seasoning, condiments are mint sauce etc. In my house anyway!

YANBU.

Ridiculous to assume that food isn't seasoned to your taste without even trying it.

If someone did this to me I'd just keep upping the amount of seasoning I put on their food every time they did it.

I would be more offended if they seasoned after tasting! Surely that says, hmmmm, not tasty enough, better flavour it up! Seasoning it beforehand is probably automatic

Are you so very insecure that you see someone adding salt and pepper as a criticism of your cooking ? What has their preferences got to do with what you are serving ? Do you have a similar reaction to someone adding sugar to tea or coffee? Or asking for more/less milk? Get over yourself.