to hide the flipping condiments?

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Every. Flickin. Meal,
I dish up in the kitchen and before tasting he grinds pepper over whatever I've cooked.
I don't cook every night, but when I do AIBU in expecting him to taste it first?
His parents are the same when they visit. Dish up, straight onto the salt and pepper. AIBU to think it's rude?

I love a fresh sprinkling of Maldon sea salt on pretty much everything I eat. If something I have cooked is very salty I'll warn diners to taste before salting. It's not unhealthy we have no blood pressure issues.

Chefs hate it when people do this.

I like my food salty. Really salty. I have never eaten somewhere where I didn't need to add more salt. I put a bit,taste ,then odds are I'll add loads more.
I even add salt on my own cooking as otherwise it would be too salty for OH and DD.
It's how i like my food, and it's not rude or dissing someone else's cooking not to expect them to put what would more than likely be an unreasonable amount of salt in the food while they cook it.

I like pepper and it's a safe bet that someone won't have out-peppered me before I reach for the pepper grinder. I'm the sod in the pizza restaurant who risks giving the waiter a RSI in their wrist from excessive grinding (actually, I'll take pity on them before that point).

I have relatives that I know won't find my food salted to their satisfaction because it is neither white nor crystalised (because I want to eat my dinner without being preserved like a ham )

I see no reason for offense.

I do see a difference with blanket coverage of ketchup etc as they make food homogenous rather than a seasoning enhancing the flavours.

DH does it with everything.

DD does it with rice. Even though I cook the rice with a ton of salt, it's never enough for her. I think she like the crunch and burst of salt she gets when she puts the raw stuff on, so now I only cook rice with as much salt as I think it needs and let her do her thing.

We all do it when dh makes chips (well, I don't because he sprinkles salt on them when they go into the serving dish, but everyone else does).

I do it when dh does mash. It's vile and tasteless otherwise, but I'd rather he used less butter and milk so it's not so runny and tastes of potato

Seriously? Without tasting first? That's odd.

My dinner, my body, my choice

There's an awful lot of anti choicers on this thread

After all, how does he know I haven't used salt and pepper in the cooking (ok, so I don't but still...)

Because you don't season your food when you cook and its bland as all shite!

Salt and pepper is an integral part of cooking. You don't do it so he has to.

Chefs hate it when people do this

Chefs would never send you out unseasoned food.

Catsize
It's bad manners, and I judge people for doing it tbh. Yanbu.

I judge you for judging me. so ner.

Also, if i'm paying a chef for my dinner, what i do with it when it comes to table is frankly none of his/her chuffing business. so I dgaf what they hate or don't hate.

MrsTP My blood pressure if anything is on the low side. justifies more salt in my life. yay me.

Very true notever! Wouldn't be much of a chef to serve unseasoned food.

It's amazing what people find to get their knickers in a twist about.

To use your tea anology, say you usually add one spoonful of sugar to your tea, you wouldn't just add an extra if the person making the tea had already put one in (or two, or three) etc, would you

That's a bit of a daft analogy though. If someone comes round and I make a hot drink, I ask, "would you like sugar" everyone replies with either no or the amount they take. Why WOULD you add more?!

You don't cook a meal but before cooking ask for the different seasonings each guest would like their dinner cooked with.

I just can't get worked up over someone putting salt etc onto something I've cooked.

The op doesn't have a problem with adding condiments - it's the doing it without even tasting the food that's idiotic

So by the OP's admission, she doesn't add salt and pepper to her cooking and gets annoyed at her DP for adding it and HE'S the idiotic one?!?!

Ok.

The op doesn't have a problem with adding condiments - it's the doing it without even tasting the food that's idiotic

No it isn't. OP's family knows she doesn't season the food when cooking, so it would be idiotic not to do so at the table. They don't need to taste it since they already know it needs it.

I don't think it's rude sou ds like he just like pepper not because he thinks your foods bland

Yeah I mean whatever else it might be, it's not idiotic. It's the exact opposite.

He knows OP doesn't season her food and knows he wants to eat seasoned food. So instead of subjecting himself to the taste of any unseasoned food, he just takes steps to make it suit his palate. One might for whatever batshit reason think that's being rude, but it's also sensible.

Me and a couple of others on here need Salt Bae to live with us...

Can't remember the last time I read a MN thread where opinion seemed so divided!

(Personally I think YANBU, but I see other people's points)

It's incredibly arrogant to think your cooking is perfect!

It's incredibly arrogant to think your cooking is perfect!

Especially when OP doesn't actually add any salt or pepper.

Well, I don't add either salt or pepper to any of my cooking anyway, so I'm not offended by people with destroyed taste buds adding what they want without even tasting it first. The rest of us savor the true flavour of the food.

If you aren't eating any salt, you'd die. Our taste buds are evolved to taste only a very few flavours and there are reasons why. Our brains are evolved to want sweet, umami and salty things. So if you don't at all, you're the one with weird taste buds, not us.

I would never add salt before tasting but pretty much always add black pepper just because I like it. It's not meant as an insult.

Maybe it's a class thing. My dh's family take offence about this and they're quite posh!