to hide the flipping condiments?

[winobaglady]

Every. Flickin. Meal,
I dish up in the kitchen and before tasting he grinds pepper over whatever I've cooked.
I don't cook every night, but when I do AIBU in expecting him to taste it first?
His parents are the same when they visit. Dish up, straight onto the salt and pepper. AIBU to think it's rude?

So many people boasting about their unseasoned food. Bizarre.

I do this ☺️. I do most of the cooking too. I always add some salt to potatoes on the plate and an extra grind of pepper. I tend to under season when cooking as DP is not a fan of salt so I know I'll need to add more. It is somewhat of a habit though and when we went to friends for lunch recently I felt a bit lost without salt and pepper on the table and felt it was inappropriate to request some (and it wasn't really needed if honest, apart from some extra black pepper on the cauli cheese perhaps).

Well, I don't add either salt or pepper to any of my cooking anyway, so I'm not offended by people with destroyed taste buds adding what they want without even tasting it first. The rest of us savor the true flavour of the food

Only people who can't cook say this. The "true flavour" of your food is blandness. Salt and pepper actually open up your tastebuds and let you taste properly. Salt suppresses bitterness and enhances flavour.

The people adding salt and pepper do not have destroyed tastebuds, it is you that has underdeveloped tastebuds. Use some salt!

I don't get the 'rude' part. Surely it would be ruder to taste your foodvdecide it's bland as fuck then add seasoning. Perhaps if you cooked things properly with some seasoning he wouldn't bother. I add salt to cooking but as I like my food salty I will add more before tucking in. What's it got to do with anyone else how I like my meal? It's really controlling to tell people how to eat. I was pissefoff at a colleague who mentioned in front of about 8 other people 'you waited that without tasting!' Yes because I like salt on rice so why not enjoy every mouthful rather than eating a bland bit I won't enjoy then add salt. I shrugged and said ''I find it weird telling people how they should season food!'

just watching salt bae on youtube, he certainly likes his salt.

@Fluffyears my thoughts exactly! Adding salt and pepper before tasting doesn't offend me because it means the person does it for every meal and it's nothing to do with my cooking. If they add it after they're saying wow, this food needs seasoning, which is an insult to the cooking.

Oh and for people who like peppery food, it's very easy to tell if a meal doesn't have enough for your liking, on account of pepper being visible and all.

@winobaglady

Don't get me wrong, I love a good shaking of salt on some chips but I always taste first. After all, how does he know I haven't used salt and pepper in the cooking (ok, so I don't but still...). I confess, I made him an omelette earlier and put a health serving of pepper into it. He did ask, when eating having peppered it, if I put pepper in too. WIBU? (slightly lighthearted, but taught him a lesson)

I'd be doctoring your food right back if you did that to me.

I don't use salt in cooking so I don't care what people do when I've served it up.

Just let them get on with it.

@ClaudiaWankleman

So you don't put salt or pepper in your food? It must be so bland. YABU to expect him to taste unseasoned food before adding. He already knows what to expect!

This!!!

OP: if you are such a good cook, as you claim to be, how can you not possibly use the basic salt and pepper when cooking?
I always put salt and pepper on the table when serving as everyone has their own tastes. I want them to enjoy the dish I have served and if they want more salt or pepper that is fine by me.

YANBU, my DP does this too and it drives me mad!

Rude? Or just misguided/unwise if you don't know if it needs salt. We all like different amount of seasoning, why should it offend you of someone likes a lot of salt and pepper. Or if they are just so habituated to picking it up they don't think about it. Why is that rude?

Taste it then add seasoning. I add more salt than my family and they take the mock out of me but I always taste first

yanbu

but im afraid i do this -and other family members before i serve-

My parents do this.
And my mum will only use white pepper - which is fuckin' lethal for making her sneeze and she already has asthma and allergies.
Shovels on the white pepper, uses way too much, then performance sneezes at the dinner table without covering her mouth - for the next 20 minutes.
Every single meal ever.

I always put ground black pepper on lots of meals, whoever has cooked anything, as it's my personal thing to do.

I can't get in the slightest bit bothered about it.
I cook and when I'm done I'm done.
I couldn't care less if the eaters smothered it in custard.
Actually, if truth be known, some of my cooking would be improved by it.

I don't find it rude at all. I do think we have weird hang ups about manners. If im eating it then I decide whats going on it.

Yanbu it annoys me too. Taste the food first!!!

As long as it only their food they’re doing it too, it up to them what they put on it and I don’t care.

@Fluffyears

I don't get the 'rude' part. Surely it would be ruder to taste your foodvdecide it's bland as fuck then add seasoning. Perhaps if you cooked things properly with some seasoning he wouldn't bother. I add salt to cooking but as I like my food salty I will add more before tucking in. What's it got to do with anyone else how I like my meal? It's really controlling to tell people how to eat. I was pissefoff at a colleague who mentioned in front of about 8 other people 'you waited that without tasting!' Yes because I like salt on rice so why not enjoy every mouthful rather than eating a bland bit I won't enjoy then add salt. I shrugged and said ''I find it weird telling people how they should season food!'

This.

2017 !?

I know that formally it is considered more polite to taste first then season if its not right. I've always thought that was crackers because the logic behind that would go something like this: 'there is a correct level of seasoning for all palates. So I'll taste it to show trust in the chef that it is as it should be, but having found it lacking taste I must add seasoning which now points to the fact you got it wrong'
But in reality people like really different levels of seasoning. So to me seasoning before tasting comes with the logic that goes : 'I really love a lot of seasoning but know that not everyone does, any meal put in front of me, no matter how skilled the chef, would need seasoning to suit my personal taste, so adding seasoning before I've tested a single bite tells you I like my food highly seasoned and it's nothing to do with your cooking skill.

LOL, sometimes I wonder which is worse...to salt and pepper before tasting, implying that you think that the cook doesn't know how to season food, or to do so after, stating that they don't, outright. "Yeah, I tasted it, and it is bland."

I generally add more pepper, although not salt. But I'm still wondering which is worse... If I can't literally see the pepper in the food, it is seldom enough.