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To never have tried / owned a vibrator

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Mumof41987 · 15/08/2017 20:35

What am I missing ?? Never felt the need for one but best friend says I don't know what I'm missing ? Am I weird for never having a vibrator ??

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Mumof41987 · 15/08/2017 21:17

My dh goes wild if I play with myself but I get embarrassed and end up laughing . He is very very attentive to my needs and always makes sure I come either first or during sex .

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Mumof41987 · 15/08/2017 21:17

Iv seen them in Tesco . Are they any good ?

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Angeldt · 15/08/2017 21:17

I've got one ( just the one !) But does anyone else worry that it anything happened to you and someone had to rummage in your wardrobe/cupboard and came across it. Do you worry you'd be judged ?

spaghettiforhair · 15/08/2017 21:18

What is the best vibe to buy to start out ? Some of them look quite frankly "scary" haha

Don't get one that is too big to start with if you've never used one, I quite like one with ears Wink

Jessiecat27 · 15/08/2017 21:19

I'd say try one to see if you like it! I personally am not too fussed, tried a few different ones and they're okay but I prefer erm 'manual' whether it be myself or dp! Didn't change my life but I know some people love them and there are so many different ones! Ann summers staff can recommend if you're not too shy to ask them!

Luciferthethird · 15/08/2017 21:20

My friends made me buy one when I was 20 when I revealed to them drunkenly that I'd never had an orgasm, 28 now have never looked back have 4 rabbits and numerous other toys.
A nice wee cock ring would make it vibrate.

TiramisuQueenoftheFaeries · 15/08/2017 21:20

But does anyone else worry that it anything happened to you and someone had to rummage in your wardrobe/cupboard and came across it. Do you worry you'd be judged ?

Nope. I'm pretty sure they're too common for anyone who might find it to care. I mean, I wouldn't like my mother to find it, because that would be one awkward conversation. But otherwise, judged... For what? Liking orgasms? Wouldn't it be a bit sad NOT to?

Henrythehoover · 15/08/2017 21:22

I always thought I was the only to not have one but then again I would never talk to anyone in rl about sex. They freak me out plus I'd be to embarrassed to even buy one. Then again I'm a complete prude who would never set foot in the likes of an Anne summers etc

BuzzKillington · 15/08/2017 21:22

I have never had one either, but I went to an Ann Summers party and realised I was def in the minority.

I did come away thinking maybe I have been lucky to have always had very attentive partners!

dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2017 21:23

But does anyone else worry that it anything happened to you and someone had to rummage in your wardrobe/cupboard and came across it. Do you worry you'd be judged ?

If something sufficiently terrible happened to me that people had to rummage through my personal stuff for me, I like to think they'd be too busy worrying about the disaster that had befallen me rather than getting snooty about the notion that I might have a wank now and again.

Ilovefraybentos · 15/08/2017 21:25

I did come away thinking maybe I have been lucky to have always had very attentive partners!

See this way of thinking baffles me! It comes across as if people think women can't enjoy a nice shag and also have a nice solo time too. Do people think women only want if their sex machine man isn't up to scratch?! Grin

dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2017 21:25

henrythehoover You don't have to go into a shop and buy them in person! They sell them online, you know. You don't even have to visit a naughty website to buy one. They sell them on flippin' Amazon!

abigailgabble · 15/08/2017 21:26

Eh I don't like. Cold plastic/jelly/whatever is not the same.

StickThatInYourPipe · 15/08/2017 21:26

I've got one ( just the one !) But does anyone else worry that it anything happened to you and someone had to rummage in your wardrobe/cupboard and came across it. Do you worry you'd be judged ?

LOL! No I don't care and I would really massively judged as I always end up buying a new one when the batteries are running out (they are always on offer a t Anne summers) but keep he old ones as 'I must buy some new batteries' so I have a drawer full of them hahaha!

RedStripeLassi · 15/08/2017 21:27

I'm tempted but I've never owned one. I might order one from love honey but I wonder if dh would feel sidelined Grin.

Holliewantstobehot · 15/08/2017 21:27

I found my parents' one when we were cleaning out their house after Dm died. Good for them was my overriding thought.

abigailgabble · 15/08/2017 21:28

I would buy one of those ££ super real ones if I was fussed I nearly did when I was pregnant because I was so hornt the whole time.

Hotheadwheresthecoldbath · 15/08/2017 21:31

I'm single and my wrists are getting a bit arthritic so have been wondering about getting one(or more),what are your recommendations?

BabychamSocialist · 15/08/2017 21:31

They're handy if you want some gratification and your DP is tired/away or also if you just don't fancy sex, where you have to wait for your DP to finish before you can have a shower.

Not that I'm making the Earth move every night or anything - I'm a middle aged woman with a weak pelvic floor! A cup of tea and a biscuit is the way to please me these days!

WizardOfToss · 15/08/2017 21:33

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TinselTwins · 15/08/2017 21:34

But does anyone else worry that it anything happened to you and someone had to rummage in your wardrobe/cupboard and came across it. Do you worry you'd be judged ?
I doubt anyone would care! I assume that most bedside lockers contain some sort of sex related item, if I was clearing a house after someone died I'ld approach the bedside locker with caution anyway!

I tried one once, didn't really like it
I orgasm easily so don't think I'm missing anything, if anything I need to slow it down as I finish too fast Blush so don't think that adding intensity is for me!

I did get a whole heap of shit about NOT using one at an Ann Summers party. One of the other guests kept making digs about it because I was the only one there that didn't use one. Things like saying something pretty mainstream then looking at me and saying "oh sorry! I didn't mean to shock you!" Hmm

I don't not use one because I'm a prude. I LUFF masterbation. I just like it how I like it!

BuzzKillington · 15/08/2017 21:34

The reason I said I was lucky re partners, was because at the Ann Summers party I went to, with lips loosened by wine - the other women all said their partners were rubbish at making them orgasm. In fact, they didn't even expect it! Shock

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Mumof41987 · 15/08/2017 21:37

I don't know if I could walk into Ann summers and buy one ? I know they probably wouldn't bat an eyelid but I'd be cringing . I am such a soft shite . Do people really ask Ann summers staff for advice on vibrators and recommendations ? I mean I guess it's there job but I'd be so embarrassed . I really want to try one but have no clue where to start ? Do you ladies who have them buy big ones ? Are the bigger ones better ?

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hingedspeculum · 15/08/2017 21:37

Hothead, I recommend with my entire soul and being, a hand wand that plugs in to the mains. Yes they look absolutely ridiculous and are a comedy size, but that means they don't require you to have any dexterity.

GinAndSonic · 15/08/2017 21:41

Lots of people haven't used them. I work in Ann summers and often have people in buying their first toy.

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