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Help!! DD forced to share a room with SB

111 replies

ohh · 12/08/2017 21:23

I need help before i drive round to my e and lump him one. Not an easy task as he is an hour away but no the less.

At the best of times DD does not want to go and is having counselling provided by school how to deal with controlling father.

DD says she goes now because she wants to see young SB. He is 2 1/2.

Anyway..due to go to Minehead Butlins for a week with ex and his family and she has told me that she will be sharing a room with him!

DD is 14 years old. At best of times she has to look after him as a free nanny when at her dads. Her SD; my husband; wants her not to go and is very cross at the news. He has an excellent relationship with DD as has looked after her since day 1.

I know there is no law in the UK about sharing rooms but surely you cant ask a 14 year old girl to share with a nearly 3 year old boy? That will keep her awake and wake her early too.

Thanks

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dertyyuoih2 · 12/08/2017 21:25

I wouldn't put my DSS (he's 14) with my 2 year old. Despite my DSS thinking sleepovers in his room would be an immense idea. Is the three year old a good sleeper?

beedybeedybumbum · 12/08/2017 21:25

It's not ideal but, aside from the controlling father, it's not the worst thing in the world.

cricketballs · 12/08/2017 21:27

Can't see a problem with it - many times, many families have to bunk up on holiday

Toomuchocolate · 12/08/2017 21:27

I don't see anything wrong with it unless he is a frequent waker.

FluffyWhiteSlippers · 12/08/2017 21:28

It's only a holiday. It's not ideal but she'll be ok.

Batoutahell · 12/08/2017 21:29

I'd be fine with it to be honest. Unless the toddler wakes and shouts many times a night then I wouldn't think it's fair but if the kid sleeps then I don't see why not. He'll be in bed way before her and when he wakes earlier than her his parents will (should) take him out immediately. I wouldn't be spending loads on an extra room in this case.

MrMessy · 12/08/2017 21:30

Siblings sharing a room on holiday is quite common though. He may not disturb her at all, he may be worn out from his exciting days of holiday. I would not be too worried if I were you.

YouRat · 12/08/2017 21:30

If it's for a week I'm sure it will be fine
( unless he's a fussy sleeper). Also your dd said she likes spending time with SB.

sororitynoise · 12/08/2017 21:30

YABU she isn't 'being forced' because she doesn't have to go, she won't be dragged screaming.

You are over dramatic.

Hercules12 · 12/08/2017 21:30

Can't see anything wrong with this either. Would be ott I think to pay for an extra room for a holiday.

NerrSnerr · 12/08/2017 21:30

Isn't this what most families have to do on holiday?

Haffdonga · 12/08/2017 21:30

This is a holiday for a week not a permanent arrangement. Of course it's OK to have them sharing a room. Many family holidays involve sharing tents, hotel rooms, cabins or sofas with multiple random family members. Presumably allowing her to have her own room would involve considerable more expense and a second chalet. I think you need to let this one go and encourage her to have a lovely holiday.

Original poster

ohh · 12/08/2017 21:31

Ok thank you. Yes my ex is a controlling Tw*t. DD is getting more and more depressed today as going tomorrow. Keep telling her she does not have to go etc...[wine} needed!

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 12/08/2017 21:31

You are being way ott

BertrandRussell · 12/08/2017 21:32

Isn't that just normal family stuff?

AdaColeman · 12/08/2017 21:32

I wouldn't be too happy about this, it's the action of a cheapskate really. If DD wanted to return home, I'd got and get her.

steff13 · 12/08/2017 21:32

Is he her stepbrother, or her half-brother?

Regardless, it's common for kids to share a room on vacation, it wouldn't bother me.

Viviennemary · 12/08/2017 21:32

Well most teenagers would prefer not to share with a two year old. But I don't think it's that bad just for a holiday. Just tell her not to go if she's not happy with the accommodation arrangements.

BuffyFan · 12/08/2017 21:33

I have less of a problem with them sharing than I do with the suggestion that she'd basically be expected to look after him. That's not ok. It should be a holiday for her, she's not an au pair.

Starlighter · 12/08/2017 21:33

I don't see anything wrong with this, sorry!

He's nearly 3 not 13, so I think it's totally fine! Is it because they're step siblings? Would you feel differently if it was your own toddler?! What is it about the situation you don't like?

Most families have to share rooms on holiday. Isn't she just excited about going on holiday?!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 12/08/2017 21:33

Fairly normal aramgements for a holiday.

ZippyCameBack · 12/08/2017 21:35

I'd be more concerned about her getting depressed and not wanting to go, to be honest. She shouldn't have to go on holiday if she doesn't want to, when she could be at home with you and much happier.

Badhairday1001 · 12/08/2017 21:36

I would be fine with that. We go away on Monday and my 12 year old son will have to share with my 3 year old nephew. That's often how holiday accommodation works with families. I don't see the problem.

rightwhine · 12/08/2017 21:37

I think it's ok too. Sorry.

tangledup123 · 12/08/2017 21:37

I know there is no law in the UK about sharing rooms

What, so do you think there should be a law against siblings sharing rooms whilst on holiday?

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