...to want a baby at age 42?

[justcurious40]

I just had a miscarriage at 9 weeks along. I am 41 right now, but if we TT another, I will be 42 when he/she is born.

I am starting to doubt myself now. Is it crazy to try at my age? Apart from the odds of it going wrong, I would be 60 when my baby is 18. Is that too old??

I should add that, thankfully, I already have children. So perhaps I should quit while I'm ahead? On the other hand, my youngest was born when I was 38, so I will be 56 when she is 18. What difference does 4 years make??

Its impossible for anyone except you to know if it's right for you. I'm pregnant at 35 and I think this is my cut off, if I loose this baby I won't try again. I always thought I'd have my kids by 30 but life didn't turn out that way, however there is a difference in my energy levels. I am very unfazed by having a child with Downs Syndrome etc, as know and love people who have it, but if that's a big issue for you it's something worth thinking about, also about multiples etc, I think just an awareness that whenever anyone tries for a baby, there is a range of possible outcomes and knowing what they would mean for us is good at any age.

I think conception, pregnancy and birth is one side of things (and they are all harder when you’re older), but it’s the following 18 years of child raiding that is SO much harder when your older. I had mine late 30s and personally I would not have the energy levels to raise young children in my late forties and early 50s.
I am 40 now and struggle with my very energetic youngsters… I’d hate to be any older and doing it. That is my personal view though