...to want a baby at age 42?

[justcurious40]

I just had a miscarriage at 9 weeks along. I am 41 right now, but if we TT another, I will be 42 when he/she is born.

I am starting to doubt myself now. Is it crazy to try at my age? Apart from the odds of it going wrong, I would be 60 when my baby is 18. Is that too old??

I should add that, thankfully, I already have children. So perhaps I should quit while I'm ahead? On the other hand, my youngest was born when I was 38, so I will be 56 when she is 18. What difference does 4 years make??

Regarding the higher chance of miscarriage, I know that most of that is caused by an increase.in one-off chromosomal abnormalities but I wonder if it would be worth talking to a recurrent miscarriage clinic anyway and getting tested to rule out other problems? And, if it's something that would influence your decision, look into what antenatal testing the NHS would offer and whether there's anything additional that you would want to do privately? Or even book an appointment with a genetic counselor and get them to talk you through the probabilities? I have a chromosomal abnormality so I went through all that when I had my kids. It helps to reduce some of the uncertainty.

I was 41 when I had my daughter...all is well with the world! She is 7 now..I have more time,more patience,more money and security but find I lack energy,,luckily her dad has heaps of energy so its all good!

I wouldn't personally.

Sure, you can be as healthy as you like right now. But aas we age our health can take a drastic U turn. That can happen at any age but obviously more likely.

Then theres the usual - more chances of miscarriages, conditions, etc.

Its clearly doable. Just that me personally, I think I would reach 41 and commit to the idea of not having a children and embrace that different lifestyle. I'm interested in fostering too.

Me: 31, no kids, on the fence anyway.

I got pregnant very easily after a MMC (required ERCP at 11.5 weeks). This was early June & I was pregnant again (despite a lot of bleeding, erratic cycles & not much DTD) by August.

I had DD at 42. She's made our family complete. Just back from a 5K run.

One of my closest friends had her 2nd DS at 43 (nearly 44) - after MC.

It does happen.

Hi all ive just had a miscarriage on xmas day im 40 wasnt planned but very happy after the shock i have three kids already but now after this i do want to try again im abit overweight was drinking alot before i fouund out was pregnant stopped straight away and dont plan to start again im basically stopped bleeding even though wasnt heavy anyway and want to start trying straight away as dont want to leave it 6 months like i keep reading u should am i stupid to try so soon and even try again i lost basically 13lb while pregnant for those 2 months i think to not drinking i plan on exercising everdag while trying just dunno if i should wait till i drop a bit more but also am worried in waiting help

My aunt has just had her second baby at 47 years old.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Congratz to ur aunt and ty for your comment

I had a miscarriage at 40 and a baby at 41

I'm so sorry, KJ1010, I didn't realise that the thread was old or see your post. I hope at least what I have said makes you feel a bit more hopeful.

I am hopeful that ill fall pregnant but just so scared of same thing happening again like was it my weight what made me miscarry or the heavy drinking before i still feel guilty like its my fault i lost the baby also feel so guilty for my kids k owing should never of told them if i fall again i wont be telling no one till i pass the safety marks

I’m 41 and have a 20 year old (from a previous relationship) and hubby and I are planning a baby. No, you are not too old at all. From having my daughter a week after my 22nd birthday, no career, no money, just getting by compared to now, I feel a lot calmer and settled in life. I am young at heart which helps and look younger that what I am (again, that helps)! I was worried at first, especially what people will think but who cares. It’s your life. Some people are better at being young mums and others when they’re older. My hubby and I suffered loses when my daughter was younger including 1 where at 4 months pregnant I was told ‘sorry, no heartbeat’. That deeply upset us both (hubby needed counselling) and we both decided to throw ourselves into our careers. It was last year I decided that I wasn’t done having a family and felt that something was missing. If your heart and body feel the need to have a bubba then do it. If you leave it much longer, you may miss the chance. 1 suggestion though, get a copy of ‘It starts with the egg’ by Rebecca Fett. A valuable book when TTC over 35. Good luck 😉

The fact that you already have children and that you feel that losing another baby would be too much for you to cope with makes me think you should definitely quit while you're ahead OP. I'm sorry for your loss

My daughter was born when I was 42. First pregnancy. Conceived very shortly after trying!!

OP I am in EXACTLY the same position as you - same age, recent miscarriage at 8 weeks, had my youngest at 38. The baby I lost was a happy accident but now I just don’t know whether to try again or not. I don’t want this miscarriage to be my last experience of pregnancy but that can’t be a good enough reason have another. Wishing you all the best

Sorry, just realised this is a zombie thread.

If you already have a child I'd say go for it if you want another - you know what you're getting into

I had my first at 42 after a miscarriage. Go for it!

Oops zombie .

Hi I’ve just found out I’m pregnant at 42 and constantly worried I’ve just registered with a midwife and have to wait for 14 days to see someone to make sure things are okay

Thank you for sharing!! Your story is exactly what I need to hear. I’m TTC at 40.

@MaryShelley1818

Definitely not too old! I'm 22wks pregnant with my first baby and I'm 39yrs old. Haven't ruled out trying for a sibling in a year or 2!

I know this is a Zombie thread but just read my comment from nearly 4yrs ago and had to smile.

My DS is now 3, I'm 43 in 3wks and did go on to have another baby....currently sat feeding my 10wk old DD and couldn't be happier.

Hi all,
I know this is an old thread but I’m in exactly the same position. Currently 42, had a MMC a few months back and terrified about trying again. I do already have three beautiful girls but always dreamt of four kids... just wondering how it turned out for you all. If you did try again? Does the ‘ache’ for one more ease as you move through this age? Thanks and big hugs to everyone ❤️❤️❤️

DH is mid fifties and our youngest is five. He is very very tired and wishes he had DC younger.

Haha sorry didn't realise such an old thread. I wonder how it worked out