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To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

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Joannearobbo · 09/08/2017 09:00

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

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Cheby · 10/08/2017 18:51

I hated it when I was little, but my 4yo loves dressing to match her baby sister. Baby not aware so I buy matching stuff to make the 4yo happy. They look cute.

LadyWithLapdog · 10/08/2017 19:11

DDs (9 and 12) have a few either identical or just different colours. They like it. No biggie.

Lweji · 10/08/2017 19:14

Surely at 9 they have their own opinions on what to dress.
Just as long as the children are happy, whatever.

For younger children it probably avoids fights and having to think of two outfits.
OTOH it must be boring to have two of everything.

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Nomdutilisateur · 10/08/2017 19:39

There is a mum near me who dress all 3 of their girls the same. They are probably 1ish, 3ish and about 7.
I admire her dedication, she matches hairstyles and hair bobbles, socks and shoes and coats.
I am often heard shouting 'if both socks are a similar colour then that does count as a pair . . . now HURRY UP WE ARE LATE'

SEsofty · 10/08/2017 19:46

My eldest sometimes chooses the other children clothes and always tries to get them and me as similar as possible. Sometimes the children like it.

melissasummerfield · 10/08/2017 19:55

i dress my 4yo and 3yo in the same outfits for parties and things, i love it and think they look cute!

However when they get to the age that the don't like it, i wouldn't force them to.

clickhappy · 10/08/2017 20:08

I've dressed mine the same for special occasions, I think it's cute and novel on the odd occasion.

However, I will probably stop as the novelty will soon wear off when the younger starts school and they will be wearing the same every single day lol.

I wonder how many of the judgies will be the first to put up match pictures on the first day of school 😂😂😂😂

2gorgeousboys · 10/08/2017 20:35

A colleague recently commented that his wife always dresses their boys identically - if noticed the outfits on Facebook but hadn't realised they were always dressed to match! They are aged 8, 7 and 5 and everything including hat, clothes, socks and shoes match. They also have a little girl aged 3 whose outfit coordinates with the boys. This is every day and apparently she changes the rest of one gets messy!

I couldn't imagine not passing down clothes from one child to another, what a waste!

poorbuthappy · 10/08/2017 20:47

So I have a 12 year old and 8 year old twins. All girls.
I will say that I've never dressed them all the same....but I have dressed the twins the same until about a year ago because to be quite frank it's bloody easier than arguing over clothes. So sorry if that offends anyone but I don't give a fuck. 😃👍

LapdanceShoeshine · 10/08/2017 22:44

My DDs are 3 years apart - I rarely dressed them alike by my choice, but my MIL often made them matching dresses or cardies & they would choose to wear them together sometimes.

My DSs are 5 years apart & they never dressed the same. Lots of hand-me-downs for both pairs though.

One family we knew with boys 4 years apart always bought them matching clothes from M&S (this was c 20 years ago) - I always thought that was a bit weird, but he was a bank manager, so maybe there was an element of "no hand-me-downs here"!

LapdanceShoeshine · 10/08/2017 22:50

(The bank manager's kids' matching clothes went on for years - up to like 12 & 8. Seemed a bit OTT)

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 10/08/2017 23:56

GrinMy 7 year old, 4 year old and 2 year old have matching rain coats! Only because we were caught out with bad weather while we were out for the day so we bought whatever was in the sale. It's usually older ladies that comment how lovely they look together, my friends tend to laugh if they see them all wearing them together.

JuicyCake · 11/08/2017 00:01

My SIL does it with her two girls aged 8 & 6. Just so she can post endless pics of them posing like prize poodles...

littlepeas · 11/08/2017 00:21

I have 2 boys, 5 and 8 - they have quite a few items that are the same (because it is so difficult to find nice boy's clothes once they are out of the baby/toddler sizes and both my boys are tall and wearing at least a size up), but they have free reign to dress as they please from their wardrobes. They have never conferred and put the same outfit on, which shows at least how my dc feel about it!! They wore the same navy suit for my dad's funeral and I put them in the same blue shirt with different coloured chinos for a wedding, but that's as far as I've gone!

littlepeas · 11/08/2017 00:27

Another point is that my family, on the whole, wear a lot of blue - it's because it suits us (me, dh, dd and 2 ds) and we naturally buy a lot of blue clothing. So, I may on occasion look at my dc, who generally get themselves dressed, and think 'oh, they're all in jeans and a blue t shirt', but it wasn't done on purpose!! Dh and I used to do it a lot when it was just the two of us and felt like dicks when we realised Grin.

robinia · 11/08/2017 00:39

I saw quads once all dressed the same. I do sort of get it for easy spotting though I never felt the need with my four (six years between oldest and youngest).

AndNowItIsSeven · 11/08/2017 00:47

I dress my twin girls the same , they are 3 and cry at the thought of different clothes. They say " no same like twins name" when differed outfits are offered in shops or from the wardrobe.
I have five girls though, and the twins are the only ones who dress the same.

user1472334322 · 11/08/2017 03:31

My ds's (3 and 5) have a few t shirts that are the same. For example, they both like batman so both wanted thr same t shirt. They sometimes wear them on the same day, bit always with different trousers/shorts. Sometimes they wear them on different days. It often happens to be what I take out of the drawer on a given day!
When we go somewhere busy like soft play I do put them in the same t shirt sometimes as it's easier to spot them. They also have the same hat which makes it easier to see them!
I wouldn't do it if it bothered either of them but they don't mind at all.

AnnaT45 · 11/08/2017 04:09

I think it's really cute and just a bit of fun! But I also have two DDs 19 months apart and get a bit bored looking for things I like (.I'm quite fussy - hate slogans, characters etc) so if I find something I like I get two. But I rarely have them in it at the same time as DH hates it!

I think it's a bit weird past the age of 7 though

IroningMountain · 11/08/2017 07:10

I think it's selfish( clearly done for mum's enjoyment), beyond tacky and a pretty damaging thing to do. Often done by people who wish they had twins or mothers of twins who want everybody to know they have them.Both my sister and I have twins( identical and non) neither of us have ever done it as both strive to raise our dc as individuals. How awful for kids to look back and see how little their parents thought of them as individuals choosing instead to play dress up with them. Sad

aquashiv · 11/08/2017 07:18

I have twins wouldn't dream of it. Though they decide what to wear. Getting matching socks would be an achievement let alone an outfit.

Ecureuil · 11/08/2017 07:20

I think it's selfish( clearly done for mum's enjoyment)

Clearly?
Mine are 3 and 2, if anyone buys them matching clothes they refuse to wear them unless the other one is wearing the same outfit! They go through their drawers trying to find clothes that match.
Yes, clearly massively selfish on my part and done for my own enjoyment Grin

IrritatedUser1960 · 11/08/2017 07:23

In the 1960s there was a thing for dressing up identical to your mum so my mum and I would go out wearing the same outfits.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 11/08/2017 07:32

All my friends seem to do this. One has 2 girls 2 years apart. One has 2 girls 5 or 6 years apart. Another has 2 boys 2 or 3 years apart. Its not just special occasions or the odd time, its every picture almost. Matching outfits, coats, shoes, even pyjamas. I dont mind same outfit in different colours (me and sis has same polka dot skirt set as kids but mine was green and hers pink) but exact match i hate. I cant decide if its worse on twins or sibli gs with an age gap tbh.