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To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

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Joannearobbo · 09/08/2017 09:00

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

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Unsureneighbour · 19/05/2018 21:34

I think it looks really cute and not tacky! I also loved wearing matching clothes with my sister when I was a kid and used to beg my parents to dress us the same Smile

Metoodear · 19/05/2018 21:35

ShimmeringIce

Really you have no clue why it’s more expensive
so dd 1 needs a coat because it’s ripped you then need to go and buy dd2 the same coat even though hers is fine because other wise it won’t match or you see two pairs of shoes in the sale one red pair and one blue but you don’t then buy them because they don’t match instead buy 2 full prices pairs

Very simple to see how it can easily be more pricey
How it’s more price than just to buy 6

Muddlingalongalone · 19/05/2018 21:56

My friend used to do this. Her argument was that when she saw something nice she felt like she was playing favourites if she chose which child to buy it for!
Mine are 3.5 years apart & occasionally ask for the same dress but even then rarely wear them at the same time and are never head to toe identical

cliffdiver · 19/05/2018 22:57

Christ on a bike.

Is this threat STILL going on Hmm

PrettyLovely · 20/05/2018 09:00

To be honest I dont pass alot of clothing down only things they dont wear often because unfortunately it gets ruined stained or some cheaper clothing just doesnt go that far, In regards to coats I buy both of my boys coats at the same time they dont all go the full distance either wearing them day in day out but I would pass it on if it did still look in good condition after wards. I dont dress mine the same every day probably a few times a month because it makes them laugh and they like it.
Cant believe some people are so judgmental about this, People can dress their kids how they like and you will probably find if they match them anything worn is given to the charity shop which isn't a bad thing.

MumofBoysx2 · 20/05/2018 21:29

I think it's a bit sad really, it shows that the parents think of them as a pair rather than two individuals. I doubt they would dress a 5 and 8 year old the same (or maybe they would). Also more disturbing is that in this case the 9 year olds are obviously not getting the opportunity to choose their own clothes. My 7 year old firmly decides what he wants to buy and wear, why wouldn't they? On the other hand, some twins might actually want to wear the same thing against their parents ideas, simply because they like doing things together.

LokiBear · 20/05/2018 21:39

Ive just bought my dds (6 and 1) dresses made from the same material. The cut is different though. The 6yo dress has shoe string straps and is an older childs style. The baby's dress has a button up front and cap sleeves. They look adorable! My dad told me it was tacky to be honest but i dont care. I loved the dresses so bought them. Grin

hotmessmom82 · 20/05/2018 22:14

I must be extremely tacky then. My boys (6 and 3) love dressing the same.

chinesechicken · 20/05/2018 22:18

I have identical twins, I sometimes dress them the same. Why is it tacky? It's more tacky to bitch online about friends.

CaptainCabinets · 20/05/2018 22:36

My Mum went through a phase of this with my sister and I! We’re 6 years apart so it probably looked all kinds of batshit. We Grin at the photos now!

MrsMarigold · 20/05/2018 23:22

I've never dressed mine the same. They chose their own, they pick what I buy and sort their own things everyday and have done since they were about two and a half. I wouldn't dream of trying to control them, they both talk about having their own style. They are five and six and we might discuss the appropriateness of an outfit based on the weather forecast but that's it. DD has quite a few hand me downs but she edits them and what she doesn't like goes to the charity shop. They are both very independent and also chose their breakfast/snacks.

MinorRSole · 21/05/2018 00:05

I have twins, boy and girl but before I knew this I was asked would I dress them the same. My simple answer was no, I'm not organised enough/bothered enough to do that. I don't care what other people do but I know myself well enough to know that I wouldn't have the same things cleaned and ironed at the same time!
My dm used to dress me and my sister the same - I'm the younger one and it didn't bother me at all but my sister loathed it.

2gorgeousboys · 21/05/2018 07:12

I think on occasion or children's choice is fine but always matching head to toe is strange.

My colleagues wife dresses their 3 boys aged 8 - 5 identically including shoes, socks, coats. They always look immaculate and she spends a fortune as nothing is passed down to younger brothers. They also have a 3 year old girl and she coordinates either with the boys or with her mum.

gingerbeardlove · 21/05/2018 09:12

i have a boy and a girl 2 years apart, I've dressed them in matching stuff before, like for a party, my ds had the same colour shirt as my dds dress, or at Xmas he had the same pattern on shirt as her dress. They looked bloody gawgus!
Also my Dd loves to wear similar clothes to D's as in if he's got a football t-shirt on she'll want her sporty clothes etc. D's doesn't mind because they're not the exact same clothes

ShimmeringIce · 21/05/2018 20:10

Ha MeToo I forgot the OP said every day! I don’t think most people would match every outfit... I was trying to figure out why buying two red dresses would be more expensive than one red/one blue.
The bigger size is absolutely being handed down, too!

Worldweary · 06/06/2018 10:35

I used to dress my sons the same, on occasions. They were very close in age. Like GettingMarried17 it was a reassurance on a day trip in the event of one of them wandering off. On one occasion, one did, and the "He's dressed like this!" saved the day.

sockunicorn · 06/06/2018 12:09

haha i love doing it!! My nephews are 8 and 7 and I dress them the same when they stay with me and always buy the same clothes. Their mum doesnt care what I do but she doesnt usually dress them the same :). The boys also dont care (i do give them options) and come shopping with me. I find (to me) it looks scruffy when theyre dressed different - i dont know why. each to their own :).

Doesitfit88 · 06/06/2018 19:49

I have boys 6&5 they love to dress the same, I buy them a lot of the same outfits but they rarely wear them together on the same day. Some times they will have matching shorts on but never the whole outfit.

I have no problems with it TBH I can imagine they won't want to do it for ever.

I also got them matching suits for a wedding last year, we were happily tacky that day haha

moira123io · 02/07/2018 03:05

If I tried that on with my kids even when they were five, they wouldn't have it. They're individuals and at 9 they should be able to express who they are through their own choices in clothes!

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 02/07/2018 03:09

People of all classes do this. This is NOT a class issue. This is not an issue of tackiness. Some people like to do this, some people do not.

BarbaraofSevillle · 02/07/2018 06:04

How come this thread keeps getting bumped? Is it the new carpet thread?

Ginandjuice11 · 02/07/2018 06:26

I occasionally do it, but mainly because if I'm buying a special event outfit it's so that they feel they're being treated the same. They are a lot younger though and no doubt will have their own styles as they get older.

Lethaldrizzle · 02/07/2018 07:38

Im amazed that people are that organised in the morning to find 2 matching outfits

Mousefunky · 02/07/2018 07:55

My DD’s are 14 months apart and now at almost 6 and 7, they choose their own outfits. Sometimes they choose the same outfit, most often they don’t. Depends on their mood. Not tacky to let them decide for themselves. I buy two of the same dress/tshirt sometimes if it’s particularly nice and I want them both to have one.

FlybirdFly · 02/07/2018 08:00

Nowhere near as bad as mummy & me outfits which make my insides curl up with cringing

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