To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

[Joannearobbo]

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

When my boys were small, up to the eldest being 9 and the youngest 7, I dressed them the same.
They didn't look tacky.
I feel very uncomfortable that an adult should judge children on the way they dress and deem them as looking cheap and tasteless.

How is it easier to locate them?

Unless you have upwards of 6 children how can be hard remembering what they're wearing?

The 'if one goes missing' argument: unless they're identical, surely you'd show a picture of the child? No a child (potentially) several years older/younger who doesn't look like them.

I think holiday matching is a thing... I notice matching children a lot more on holiday.

DDs have some clothes the same, but very seldom wear them at the same time.

I follow a blogger who dresses her three kids in really old fashioned stuff. I've never seen her daughters in jeans / leggings always skirts and dresses. Her son looks like a Victorian urchin. I'm amazed they put up with it.

I do it occasionally with my two and four year old ds. It looks cute and makes for a good photo! Ive never bought things the same for then but we get lots of nice hand me downs and often there are matching things in each size so occasionally I think 'ah lll put them both in that'. Can't see why that suddenly makes me a tacky person when 90% the time they're in completely different things.

@wipsglitter can you say who? I would like to see that.
Interesting my twin sister had her hair cut short because she was bored of people getting us confused. Cue my mum constantly being asked "which one is it with the short hair?"

Mine are 3 and 2 (girls) and generally choose their own clothes (they're very stubborn!). They actively choose to wear the same clothes and try to find outfits as close to each other's as possible.

Like you said, each to their own

Apart from the thing of bitching about your "friends@ online for very minor things that are none of your business. That's ALWAYS tacky.

I try to dress my 2 year old non identical twins in co ordinated outfits, so if the one is in a Tigger t-shirt, the other will be in Winnie the Pooh. Or they will have the same top on, but different style leggings or jeans.

Sometimes I do dress them in the same outfits when I can't find something to match. I think it's because I don't want one to be in a nicer outfit than the other! And I have to admit they do look really cute.

I don't really like it when everything is identical though, down to socks, shoes and hair style. But it's all just personal preference, I don't think it's tacky.

I have 3dds. If they choose the same dress to buy should I create a rota as to when they wear it? Alternatively I could traipse round shops finding 3 dresses they like but who has time for that? Dds are 5 and 9 and 5yos love to copy their big sister. As bridesmaids they wore the same - is that tacky too? It's such a non issue and bizarre thing to judge people on but having twins I've been told various opinions on this. They wear the same most days with school uniform 😂

Posted too soon but agree with serfterf.

Really can't get that worked up about how my friends dress their children.

I've often inadvertently matched my two without even thinking until someone has pointed it out to me. DS once wore his new purple polo shirt out to somewhere and DD had chosen to wear her purple dress as it's her favourite colour. Took me a few minutes to work out what they meant!

Not so keen on the mum&daughter twinning though. Mainly because I believe in your child having their own identity. Even if that does mean walking to the docs in your shark swimming shorts and gruffalo PJ shirt complete with star wars wellies.

My dh and his sisters have a lovely photo of them in matching hand knitted jumpers (made by grandma). Dh was the youngest in a frugal family - he wore those jumpers ome by one for half his childhood.

Kickthewall and mother

Did your kids mind being dressed the same though? (M0ther, I see your 5 year old loved it but did the oIder one get a say?) I think that's all that really matters.

It is not something I get so worked up about that I need to write about it on a forum. Each to their own I say!

I know of a family of four boys that dress either identically or the older two the same and younger two the same (but all similar colours) The youngest is about 6.

I reckon she must find it easier to sort washing loads out. All in the wash in one load at the end of the day like the school uniforms! Sorted!

My dm used to do this to ds and I. I hated it! Now I have 2 girls I never do it. We have received some matching outfits from family but I never dress them in them at the same time.

im a twin and there is nothing i hated more than being in matching outfits.... x

Mine are 2 & 4 and they love dressing the same. If we go to soft play or something it's great as easy to spot them both. I'm sure it won't last - I imagine by that time they'll be choosing their own clothes? Maybe your friends children like wearing the same?

Am sure my sister and I wore same dresses etc not a lot but when we were little.

I have 4 boys and my youngest 2 are just over a year a part in age. I've never dressed them the same or my older boys I gave birth to children not clones. They are all quite different looking and I wouldn't have bought identical outfits either

Each to their own I guess, she obviously has more time on her hands than I did when mine were small to have everything matching and clean at the same time! My twin girls are now 17 and have never been dressed the same as we always thought of them as individuals, in the early years I may have bought the same outfit x2 but they would of definitely have worn it on separate days.

16week old & 23 month old & I love dressing them the same for special occasions. Most days they wear non identical. What I do find 'tacky' is grown women judging other women's children on their clothes.

I couldn't be doing with it - my laundry is just not that organised! The hassle of finding matching everything - I have trouble finding pairs of my own socks let alone whole outfits.
My girls would lynch me if I tried

I dress the boys similarily for going out - dinners etc. 5 yo chooses the clothes and gets disappointed if they don't match. He gets free reign to pick his day clothes and will pick from a selection of going out stuff.

At the age of those children, I'd say that they don't care, or they choose to wear the same stuff. If they've always done it then it won't seem weird to them.

IMHO It's up to her.

But I have 9y/o non-ID boys twins and they hate to be dressed alike. If we are going to a wedding I will try to put them in like wise clothes - e.g shorts and shirt or jeans and a polo, or if we are going to the zoo I will put the same colour top on them so we can see them from a distance. A nice bright orange does the trick and looks great on their Mediterranean colouring.