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To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

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Joannearobbo · 09/08/2017 09:00

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

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hiphopcat · 09/08/2017 13:47

Yeah it's ok when they're baby/toddler/infant age, (So up to 7.) After that, no.

Mamabear4180 · 09/08/2017 13:48

I dress my 2 and 1 year old girls the same with slight variations. I think they look adorable. I was given a big bag of clothes from a friend for my youngest and I'm currently in the process of finding similar matchy clothes for the eldest to go with them.

Mumsnet is always interesting because in real life I get compliments on them matching all the time, I don't really care what people think though. If it's tacky then I'm wondering what isn't judged these days! You can't win anyway..I do find it an odd thing to care about tbh

PolarBearGoingSomewhere · 09/08/2017 13:49

We have 3 girls aged 1, 3 and 5. We don't dress them the same apart from for soft play! It's soooo much easier to keep track of them all if they're all in the same brightly coloured t shirt. Plus if you lose anyone you can grab the nearest one of yours, hold it aloft and say "We're looking for one of these!" Grin

Hotdognoketchup · 09/08/2017 13:54

I confess I did his and her matching outfits for my pair when they were born, pink/blue hats in same pattern. It was both naff and cute. Now they are 9 and I stopped telling them what to wear years ago.

Augustwashout · 09/08/2017 15:08

I rememeber being in spain and seeing 4 beautfiul girls all dressed same, diff ages I thought it was so unusual and they looked gorgeous in the their marie chantal sunday best.

I occasionally dress dd's the same, sometimes its easier as 4 year old will go through millions of outfits but if she has same as big sister - she will just wear it Grin

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 09/08/2017 15:44

I like to dress mine the same when I can, so shoot me!

It looks cute
it means I don't lose them, this is KEY as they disappear from sight and its easier to locate when they wear the same

However after threads in here I have decided the give them some individuality, and I might dress them in a similar look but mix up the colours a bit

this wont last for long I can see

kel1234 · 09/08/2017 15:52

I don't like it. It's cute if it's twins, up to a certain age, after that just no. I know someone who has 2 daughters and a son. There are about 5 years between the 2 girls, and her and he husband buy them matching outfits. I don't like it personally, but how they dress their children is none of my business.

AmyGardner · 09/08/2017 15:55

A friend of mine does this.

Her girls are 9 and 6 and always matching. But then again, the whole family tends to sort of 'theme' themselves. Like, they'll all have matching nails, for example.

I find it odd that a 9 year old is happy to wear what can be quite 'young' clothing. But I guess it's just what they're used to.

AmyGardner · 09/08/2017 15:57

I'm confused by 'what if they get lost' as an argument.

My children not being dressed alike has no bearing on my being able to recognise them in a crowded place. Confused

KatharinaRosalie · 09/08/2017 15:58

We have one boy and one girl so are thankfully saved from even contemplating this

I have a boy and girl and it's entirely possible to dress them in same or matching outfits. I haven't done identical, but I do dress them in the same style quite often. So far have only heard how cute it is, but I guess people who find it naff keep their opinions to themselves.

I do expect that they make their own decisions by the time they are 9 though, never mind 12.

Toofat2BtheFly · 09/08/2017 16:02

Mine were dressed head to toe identical up until they rebelled just recently .

2 girls 16 months apart ...now aged 6&7.

I still buy them the same (I can't be arsed to look twice) they just wear them at different times now .Both have very different personalities and prefer different styles but if there was a occasion to go to they would both be happy to wear matching dresses/outfits wouldn't give them the choice !

I am not ashamed of myself in the slightest and would still be doing it now if they would let me Grin

BlurryFace · 09/08/2017 16:04

I don't usually dress the boys identically, though my mother buys me many matching outfits hoping I will. What I sometimes do is put them in the same tops so when I go to soft play/toddler group I can glance round, count two dinosaur hoodies and relax.

If I were to judge any clothes choices in kids, it would be parents putting their girls in giant froofy dresses that make it harder for them to play and then fussing because the little girl flashed her knickers on the slide. Not my business though, just reminds me of my mother.

Mittens1969 · 09/08/2017 16:18

I remember that growing up my DSIS used to absolutely hate any kind of 'sister act', meaning the two of us wearing identical outfits lol. We didn't look alike, I'm 5 inches taller than she is, but it really was a pet hate of hers!

Our DDs used to like this, they each had a pair of frozen themed leggings given to them by their Granny at one time, but I got a bit sick of that myself.

TheNaze73 · 09/08/2017 16:27

YANBU. It's a bit shit

Urubu · 09/08/2017 16:29

I dressed my b/g twins in matching outfits when they were babies, onviously they didn't have a clue so it was only for my own entertainment (honestly, having 2 newborns and no help, you do whatever will put a smile on your face!).
Now they are 3.5, I make sure their outfits don't clash but that's it. Once a month or so they randomly end up in the same PJ and find it hilarious but with them being b/g it doesn't happen with daytime clothes.

PolarBearGoingSomewhere · 09/08/2017 16:32

AmyGardner childminders / nurseries round here dress their kids in fluorescent jackets in order to pick them out easily over eg a playpark. Similar for me - that's why I only use it at softplay as it's useless in the park etc they have coats on. They have a certain (Primark, so cheap) top and leggings combo that is distinctive which helps me remember what they're wearing if I just want to keep an eye on them belting past rather than go into the play area.

Whatever makes life easier imo.

Overworrier · 09/08/2017 16:34

A friend of mine dresses her 2 girls aged 2 & 4 in the same outfits on the basis that if she is out & about and loses a child, she can easily describe what needs to be searched for Shock

FoodologistGirl · 09/08/2017 22:49

Very naff, As a twin myself I would have hated this. We got to choose our own clothes. You are not one person.

DaemonPantalaemon · 09/08/2017 23:07

This thread made me smile. My sisters and I were dressed in matching frilly dresses when we were kids, and my brothers too, in suits with open shirts. My mother thought it was cute. In reality, we looked like The Children of the Corn, or those freaky tricycling twins on The Shining.

REDRUM! REDRUM! REDRUM!

TakeMe2Insanity · 09/08/2017 23:57

Only child so not my problem. But had younger cousin who always wanted to wear what I was wearing so on occasion we would be dressed the same through her insistence.

I can imagine it stops arguing though - I want to wear what he is wearing.

DustyCropHopper · 10/08/2017 00:04

I don't think it is tacky but am very surprised a 12 year old still does it! I used to dress my boys the same on occasion when they were small, not everyday but the odd outfit, special occasion etc but since ds1 was about 9ish he wouldn't wear the same outfit on the same day as his younger brother. Now, at 11 he even moans that his brother gets his hand me downs lol!

Allthewaves · 10/08/2017 00:06

Mine have matching t shirts and jumpers because they all wanted the bloomin minecraft shirt. Tend to use them when we r out somewhere with crowds or travelling

thefuryroad · 10/08/2017 00:11

I hate matching kids, I have twins (under 1) and would never dress them the same; the annoying thing is that my 8 and 4 year old daughters have started choosing matching clothes- I took them shopping for our holiday and they chose matching swimsuits, jelly shoes and now matching trainers...it looks so naff but it's what they want. I think it's Chris Rock who says 'don't hate anything because it will end up in your family', how right he was.

Coffeetasteslikeshit · 10/08/2017 04:54

I don't think it's tacky but I don't like it and would never do it. It's different if the kids themselves decide to do it.

I once met a couple in their 50s who dressed the same, even down to turning up their pullover sleeves with the shirt sleeves inside also rolled up to the exact same place on their arms. I judged them heavily I'm afraid, although it did provide much mirth and we still refer to 'Howard and Hilda' now- they're a family legend!

I don't get the making it easier to find them excuse either. My friend is registered blind but still manages to look out for her 3 without dressing them the same.

LittleJesse · 10/08/2017 06:49

My mum used to dress me and my twin sister identically and if one of us got dirty she would change both of us! Talk about a rod for your own back!

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