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AIBU?

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Original poster

Babies on the tube at 11.30

270 replies

CoughLaughFart · 08/08/2017 23:53

I've just spent 20 minutes on the tube listening to not one, but two babies screaming at top volume. It's nearly midnight! Who is that irresponsible?

OP posts:
Theycalledmethewildrose · 09/08/2017 01:49

Young primary kids in supermarkets after 9pm on a school night has me eye rolling!

Why?

Surely it depends on what time the children have to get up at?
School starts at approx 9am. If the kids live a ten minute walk from the school, they get up at e.g. 8.15am?

If they live near the supermarket, they could be home in their beds by 9.30pm.

That is a sleep period of more than ten hours. More if they have a short nap during the day.

Woopzies · 09/08/2017 01:57

You posted here to ask if you were being unreasonable. Answer is yes.

So what if someone takes a baby on a tube at 11:30? What is it to you? It’s not as if they’ve stolen your baby and taken them on a tube...

You don’t give two shits about the child’s “routine,” just the fact that you wanted a peaceful tube ride.

Butt out! YWBVU

harrypotternerd · 09/08/2017 02:01

I had to catch public transport late at night with a baby and toddler.
I got a call from the hospital my dad was in at 1030pm. The nurses told me it looked like my dad had only hours to live and he was asking for me. I could not get a baby sitter on such short notice and I don't drive so yes I did take my kids on public transport and the hospital kindly gave me some pillows for my kids and offered juice and jelly to them and I was with my dad when he passed.
Am I irresponsible OP?

SprinklesandIcecream · 09/08/2017 02:06

Baby on the tube with career = domestic abuse???

You are entitled to an opinion OP, even if it's a flawed one.

Oh and YABU.

BlueStockingUK · 09/08/2017 02:12

Now very normally would only ever post on hilarious OP's humour or very emotive subject.
This is neither
I sense hostility and anger. Over LOUD babies travelling late.
When other's have commented, it's then become a panicked, generic and complete nonsensical thread including;
well then, what if ....
We're not then having a debate on a hypothesis of varying situations including trolls, reporting, D V , older children and if the month was different, then parenting in general

You posted on MNetter's - thoughts about irresponsibilty.
No-one has agreed on your thoughts.

If you're bored, read a book love...

Cheekyfuckerneighbour · 09/08/2017 02:17

It's not one random person thinking you're a twat though op.

It's actually pretty unanimous. Grin

DelphiniumBlue · 09/08/2017 02:34

Would be nice to think they were on their way back from a party, where they'd all had a good time. The great thing about babies is that they are very portable, much more so than older children.

1forAll74 · 09/08/2017 02:56

oh, I think of this as a quite sad situation, like babies out late and the tube etc. its because I am an oldie I think. where babies and children should go to bed at 6pm or 7 pm, I am not making a bad comment re this,, just have to get real with the modern world now, all people , children,families, are going all over the place day and night now. trains, motorways,, aircraft flights, etc .
It makes me realise how small my life is now, in my quiet village, I don't really like going out after about 9pm

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 09/08/2017 03:06

1forAll, don't forget that babies growing up in other countries are up much later as the norm. It's not about being an "oldie".

fluffywhitecarpet · 09/08/2017 03:27

Is it that hard to understand that not everyone has the same routine as you?

Who said babies have to be in the house from a certain time in the evening?

Maybe it's the parents shift work that dictates when they collect the baby from somewhere

Maybe it was a one off emergency situation

Maybe they have been out for tea for some kind of celebration, a one off

Who knows

It sure as hell isn't your business

Evangeline3 · 09/08/2017 04:34

Irresponsible? Confused Because a baby is communicating? What on earth?

missperegrinespeculiar · 09/08/2017 04:41

posters are also right to point out that this idea (for some people, obsession!) with children's early bedtimes is very specific to Britain, maybe to all English speaking countries? My DH and I were abused once in Australia for having our toddler and baby with us on a bus at 10pm on a summer night, it was barely dark yet and we were on holidays! I must say I much prefer the more relaxed attitude of having the whole family out for dinners and parties that you see in other parts of the world (Southern Europe, Latin America and the Middle East being the ones I have experienced)

mathanxiety · 09/08/2017 05:38

Scrowy Sad

Genghi · 09/08/2017 05:41

Not all cultures need their kids in bed by 4pm you know.

Ifailed · 09/08/2017 06:21

Slightly missing the point but London must be very different from where I live as most childminders here finish at about 6pm

I doubt if it's a London thing, presumably people work shifts across the whole country and therefore have to make childcare arrangements?

Maybe they are more visible in London because it didn't suffer from the disastrous public transport privatisation that everywhere else did?

bloodymaria · 09/08/2017 06:22

You seem pretty wound up OP, let it go.

londonrach · 09/08/2017 06:54

I miss baby stage as you could go out. Yabu

RhubardGin · 09/08/2017 06:55

Ok I'll bite.

Whilst I agree it's unusual for a baby to be on the tube at that time there might have been a perfectly reasonably explanation as to why.

Family emergency perhaps?

So yes, while I would maybe think, "oh, that's odd" I would forget within 5 minutes and get on with my life.

Your anger and downright shitty attitude towards posters is disproportionate to the situation.

Go have a cup of tea and a deep breath, the summer holidays are obviously stressing you out!

Justnowthisone · 09/08/2017 06:56

You seem pretty wound up OP

Or perhaps the winding up is being done by her/him

Amanduh · 09/08/2017 06:56

Yabu. And a twat.

heron98 · 09/08/2017 07:00

I work in a bowling alley which shuts at midnight in the week.

We regularly have primary age kids bowling at 10, 11pm at night.

I always wonder how they get up for school the next day (and they do go to school as they wear their uniform)

Original poster
CoughLaughFart · 09/08/2017 07:05

Baby on the tube with career = domestic abuse???

It worries me that you would take my comment that literally. My point was that those rushing to say what other people do is none of your business' are being simplistic.

OP posts:
AztecHero · 09/08/2017 07:10

People do things differently because they have to; they want to; or it suits them to.

Although if everyone accepted that we would probably not even have AIBU.

Grin
thegirlupnorth · 09/08/2017 07:13

Op you sound very judgemental. They could be fleeing from domestic abuse, going home after visiting a sick relative, or after being at a friends house, on their way home after a visit to A and E or a walk in centre. A single parent who has had to get out of the house with their screaming baby as being at home listening to it scream was driving them crazy.

What about all the drivers who take their children out in a car at a similar time?

Should there be a curfew to children travelling after a certain time of night, if so why?

blueskyinmarch · 09/08/2017 07:13

Stop being so goady OP. You asked were YBU and the answer was yes you were. Take it on the chin.

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