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Toddzilla Thread 2 - No Toddlers at the hen do please!

650 replies

whyhastherumgone · 08/08/2017 09:33

Second thread set up as demanded by the Mumsnet hen do menagerie :)

Original thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2998359-AIBU-You-dont-bring-a-toddler-to-a-hen-do?

Quick summary:
Organising friend's hen do. All booked and paid for, sorted. Two weeks prior a friend attending, hereby known as Demanding Woman, tells me she will be bringing her toddler and DP along as toddler has tantrums that DP can't handle and won't sleep without her there. She will also require a private room now in the converted barn we are staying in, despite everyone agreeing to share etc.

A whatsapp exchange ensues with myself declaring that no this will no be happening and Demanding Woman getting very shirty. Demanding Woman takes it to bride who also shuts it down. So far Demanding Woman is still attending hen do in less than two weeks but is now trying to take control of hen do in terms of games/food/drink etc.

We now have a whole minibus of Mumsnetters, Toddlers, Toddler-eating-dogs, Elephants, hamsters, moody teenagers all planning to attend with boxes of popcorn to take over barn and avidly watch my first meeting with Demanding Woman which I'm definitely not completely and utterly dreading

I'm not sure I will have any further updates for a bit but I promise if there are any further mad details to be had, you will be the first to know.

As you were, Mumsnetters.

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QuietNinjaTardis · 19/08/2017 16:58

Best henzilla thread ever!

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 19/08/2017 16:58

Oh. My. God.

Thank you op for coming back. It is the mother of all updates! She sounds bonkers

Hope bride and you all have a lovely rest of the weekend and hopefully see it as a hilarious anecdote to be used in one of the speeches!
Enjoy the prosecco Wine

ItsNachoCheese · 19/08/2017 16:59

Holy mother of jebus what an update Shock

happypoobum · 19/08/2017 17:00

I can't believe bride still gave her the keys to the barn!!!???

I bet she still comes to the wedding. Please say it is child-free Grin

MummytoCSJH · 19/08/2017 17:00

Is she actually insane or just completely obtuse?

milliemolliemou · 19/08/2017 17:02

Good Lord! that is sheerly amazing. She didn't text anyone? having missed the bus (in so many senses of the word) she turned up despite with DH and clingy DC? And OP is the fall-guy?

Glad everyone recovered including the Bride.

@miss. My fleas are Superior Fleas. They had an intimation of what was going down so couldn't be bothered since they didn't want to bite the wrong person. The toad was only too happy in the rain here. I gather most other MNs who were coming couldn't get their horses/dogs into the surprisingly small bus provided.

gunsandbanjos · 19/08/2017 17:04

Holy crap!!! What an entitled loon she is. Glad you didn't all kow tow to her even if she did get to stay the night.

I'm actually gobsmacked at her!!

5BlueHydrangea · 19/08/2017 17:05

Excellent! Worth the wait. When is the wedding - next mad update awaited !!

GrannyD57 · 19/08/2017 17:05

Does DW have a job? I would love to know how she behaves at work. So pleased bride is ok, the situation could have ruined what should have been a pleasant occasion. I just can't get over the selfishness and complete disregard for the comfort of others, especially the bride.

SingaSong12 · 19/08/2017 17:08
Shock
Jg1 · 19/08/2017 17:09

happypoobum

Yes, the wedding IS childfree BUT because of DW's previous demand that her DP & DC would be attending hen-do, OP had to inform BTB. BTB then learnt that DW was intending to bring DC to wedding as 'she's just a baby' !!!!
BTB told DW that that would NOT be happening.

And now this!

UN-FUCKING-BELIEVABLE!

OP, thank you soooooo much for this update. You've made my night GrinGrinGrin

MrsHandles · 19/08/2017 17:11

Sweet baby Jesus and the orphans, what a self-important, insane woman she is! I truly cannot believe the front of her and then to blame you! Good god!
Well done to the bride for standing up to her, not taking her shit and for not letting it ruin her party.
Finally, thank you so much for the update, I'm currently camping and it has been raining most of the day - this has entertained me enormously (sorry my glee is at the cost of your enjoyment)
Have a brilliant rest of the weekend Grin

Siwdmae · 19/08/2017 17:11

I am absolutely gomacked t the sheer idiocy of this woman! You and the bride told her in no uncertain terms! Did she really think that everyone would just coo over the toddler and allow them to stay? Good on the bride, I'm just sorry she didn't forcibly kick her out last night, taking the bride's room, what the actual fuck?! Stupid cow.

I hope the bride tells her not to come to the wedding.

Wattonearth · 19/08/2017 17:11

I really feel for the bride but this is the best update ever!!! Worth the wait Grin Demanding woman is batshit crazy!!!!

Ginburee · 19/08/2017 17:12

Brilliant update, OP you have been great at keeping us in the loop- have you fessed up to the other hens about the thread?.
As for demanding woman, what a bloody cheek. Am assuming everyone had earmarked rooms and there would be clothes/makeup etc left from when you were getting ready to go out. She just wanted the nice room, how up her own derriere that woman is. Also the being late thing was planned as she hadn't told DH he and toddler were not invited, so rude.
I bet she does go to the wedding, please let us know when it is and if anything else happens.

IheartCaptainHolt · 19/08/2017 17:13

Best.thread.ever!

YouTheCat · 19/08/2017 17:15

It's probably just as well this has all kicked off on the hen do. Bride would be well within her rights to now uninvite the CF from the actual wedding because I'm damn sure she'd try this again. How could she possibly think she was going to get away with it?

GeekyWombat · 19/08/2017 17:17

I think you have won all henzilla threads ever!

FrogsSitonLogs · 19/08/2017 17:25

Will this go in to Classics please?

SauvignonBlanche · 19/08/2017 17:27

Unbelievable! Shock

Hollyhop17 · 19/08/2017 17:31

I am completely gobsmaked! So glad you're all seeing the funny side of it. Good on the bride! When is the wedding? Please update us then too!

GinAndToast · 19/08/2017 17:32

Wow, just wow 🙄

GreenTulips · 19/08/2017 17:33

Madness!!

Please send the Bride my best wishes.... surely is plain sailing now?

fairgame84 · 19/08/2017 17:36

So DW turned up with uninvited guests in tow then commandeered the bride's room and did not participate in any of the hen do?
WTF?? She is batshit.
What was the point in her bothering? Did she seriously think that nobody would notice a full grown man and a toddler?

ZeroFuchsGiven · 19/08/2017 17:37

Shocking! Shock

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