Toddzilla Thread 2 - No Toddlers at the hen do please!

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Second thread set up as demanded by the Mumsnet hen do menagerie :)

Original thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2998359-AIBU-You-dont-bring-a-toddler-to-a-hen-do?

Quick summary:
Organising friend's hen do. All booked and paid for, sorted. Two weeks prior a friend attending, hereby known as Demanding Woman, tells me she will be bringing her toddler and DP along as toddler has tantrums that DP can't handle and won't sleep without her there. She will also require a private room now in the converted barn we are staying in, despite everyone agreeing to share etc.

A whatsapp exchange ensues with myself declaring that no this will no be happening and Demanding Woman getting very shirty. Demanding Woman takes it to bride who also shuts it down. So far Demanding Woman is still attending hen do in less than two weeks but is now trying to take control of hen do in terms of games/food/drink etc.

We now have a whole minibus of Mumsnetters, Toddlers, Toddler-eating-dogs, Elephants, hamsters, moody teenagers all planning to attend with boxes of popcorn to take over barn and avidly watch my first meeting with Demanding Woman which I'm definitely not completely and utterly dreading

I'm not sure I will have any further updates for a bit but I promise if there are any further mad details to be had, you will be the first to know.

As you were, Mumsnetters.

My stuff isn't packed, can you hold the bus for a few hours whilst I do it? I won't keep you more than 8? That's got to be fair

Sorry to drop this on you but I've decided to bring my son's year one class. They love a sleepover. Hope it's not too short notice but I've promised them all (30 of) them now and they're super excited! See you guys tomorrow xx

I am going to be glued to this thread this weekend!

I will try to update as much as I can, although can't promise that there will be much to update about!

I'm all ready, waiting for bride and another of the hens to arrive at mine before we head off. See you there!

You never said whether it was okay to bring my fleas or not. So I'll presume that's a 'yes' and bring them anyway. They're no bother and don't eat much.

Place marking for updates

This thread 😂 😂 😂

Still half expecting their to turn up with child in tow!

Eeeek its hen do day!!! I am excited

Can I just say OP you are my favourite kind of mumsnet poster. The threads were you never find out what happened drive me mad. You have been fab updating us all the way through

why thank you @partypolitics99 - I've felt a bit like I haven't had a huge amount of post since the initial demand and resolution, but didn't want to leave you all hanging!

I'm torn between really hoping for a quiet one on the Demanding Woman front but also hoping for some tiny drama so I can tell you all about it as you've hung on for so long haha!

to* post not of post.

The drama may well carry on to the wedding OP.

Looks like I'm in it for the longhaul then!

Right we're off - I'm feeling slightly apprehensive about my first meeting with Demanding Woman now, I think I've built her up too much in my head. But I shall be unfailing polite and bright even if the face of hostility.

Ddoggo is coming with his frisbee and will be rounding up the cats. He can't wait!

on a side note to all this OP, I hope the bride and the other hens have a fab time and DW doesn't make it miserable for everyone because she didn't get her way

Good luck OP hope it goes smoothly or has at least some drama concerning Demanding Woman

Good luck OP! Hope it all goes well and I agree with the above, don't let her (possible) moodiness drag the rest of the group down.

Have only lurked on this but just wanted to say good luck with the wagon

I agree, you have been great with your updates. I also wish you a fab weekend but maybe with a sprinkle of drama thrown in 😂

Looking forward to the updates but hope you and bride to be have lots of fun with or without the drama!

Thanks everyone :) I've found some excellent alcohol free prosecco that almost tastes like the real thing too, so being pregnant on a hen do isn't going to be too bad!

Well I Already have an update. We don't think she's going to turn up.

She didn't show up at the woman's house who was driving some of the group, as previously arranged. No messages or anything. They tried to get hold of her but had to leave without her when she didn't pick up or reply.

We are all now at the barn about to have our alfresco lunch in the beautiful garden - everybody is a bit nonplussed.

Wondering if something has actually happened as it seems really off to just not answer or reply and not show up.

Anyways probably going to disappear for a bit now but if there are any developments I will try and post!

I bet this was her aim all along. When her demands were not met, she decided to string everyone along then piss about and not turn up. Of course her 'excuse' will be that she tried to leave but her toddler/baby was too distraught and she couldn't do it.

Yup. But one better will a message in a bit saying she could come later on, but only if toddler comes too.

Que many tears and much drama and how toddler won't let her leave but she really doesn't want to miss it.