To want to book a flight home

[BasicBitch123]

Hey everyone
I am on holiday at the moment and I am 4 nights into a two week break at a villa in Italy. This is the second holiday we have had a way as a family as a complete blended family (we have been together for 4 years. I have my two children ds 17 and DD 16 and my Stepsons 16 and 14.

My eldest step son is making the trip hell for me, he has been difficult in the flight by refusing to sit next to me and wanting to sit next to his dad despite that meaning me and dh couldn't sit together and I am a nervous flyer.

He has had frequent rows with his younger brother and my son and he is reluctant to go out with us for meals in the evenings or on family activities. He is putting a downer on the holiday. I am constantly having to deal with the arguments and I shouted at him and got combative with him (I know it's wrong). This caused a rift between me and dh. I just want to get away from this holiday hell.

Wow. Why is everyone laying into the OP?
She has presented a very poor case and shown herself up?

OP, the problem is clear. It's a combination of him being a PITA teenager and the fact that he resents your presence in his family.

You have no idea that he resents her being in his family, what is far more likely is that he is sad that his dad is no longer in family household. Completely different perspective

Unfortunately it's for your DH to step up and tell him that whatever his feelings it's not ok to call you names and be nasty to you like that. They also need to have some serious conversations about the marriage breakup so the kid can come to terms with it. It sounds tough for both of you but only your DH has the power to solve it.

Disagree very strongly, I am a stepmother of 2O+ years to two grown adults. I own the relationship between us . Not their dad.
When they were children I made huge effort and sacrifice to ensure I didn't encroach on their time with their dad. When they were difficult teenagers I was the adult. I tried to understand, I took their side sometimes and I stood against them when they were wrong but I did it all with caring and love.
Now they are adults and my relationship with them is between us. If me and they dad split I would still have a relationship with those people.
When you marry a person with children then should become your family and if can't be a loving parent to them, don't takemon their mum or dad.
I despise the attitude of people who want a partner but want their kids to stay with the former partner and out of their lives.

I am usually the first person to jump to a step parents defence but you are not coming across as easy to defend.

He's sixteen. A sixteen year old boy is literally just a dickhead half the time.

Your being very unfair to him. Why shouldn't he sit with his dad and not alone? It's his holiday too and why should he have to take into account your fear of flying? Did you not have the option to book seats together?

Not wanting to clear the air with him is pathetic. No one has to say sorry especially if they are not but you as the adult should clear the air.

If he doesn't want to go out don't make him. It's his holiday too not just yours.

You seem very resentful of their presence.

I don't think people are being mean to the op.
We are trying to understand why someone who is nervous of flying and doesnt want to sit alone didnt pre book their fight seat.