To think family should have shown concern?

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Out for afternoon tea and somehow spilled hot tea on my hand.

I squealed and jumped up. A waitress came over as I was still crying out and took me to a sink where I could put cold water on my hand. I screamed several more times as it hurt.

When I got back my family were all just eating cake and chatting!

I sat down and said "I'm fine."

AIBU or could they have shown some concern?

I' m with you op....some of us are just more empathetic

Not sure how you know how empathetic the OP is

Squealing and jumping up is fine. It’s a reaction to the moment. That would get you sympathy. If you’d walked off saying “I’m going to run cold water on it”, I’m sure when you got back you’d have had a couple of “are you okay” enquiries.
However, crying and screaming after that sounds like an overreaction. Generally I’ve found that if someone (yes even my overdramatic dd2) is genuinely hurt then they make relatively little of it. I’m much more concerned if they initially react then go quiet. If they continue to scream they’re definitely fine.

If you’re generally overdramatic then they also will be used to you.
If dd1 says something is a little bit painful, I’m worried. If she asks for a painkiller then I’m wondering whether it’s wait for an emergency GP appointment or go straight to A&E. She has taken painkiller exactly twice in the last 6 years (she’s 16yo). Once for toothache and once when her ear drum burst. Even then she was taking minimal dose, although clearly in pain.
If dd2 comes to me and says that she is in absolute agony and can hardly stand, in the absence of any other symptoms I tell her something along the lines of “oh dear, can you make sure you’re dressed as we need to leave for school shortly.”
Ds says something hurts, I distract him and if he’s still complaining half an hour later (unless it’s his ears which are a known problem) then I’ll give him calpol. If he’s still complaining an hour after that then I’ll look to making an non-urgent GP appointment (depending on what it is).

That’s not because I am more sympathetic to dd1, it’s simply experience of how they play down, or exaggerate things.

Do you know what empathetic means, Jayfee?

some of us are just more empathetic.

The word that you're looking for is in there somewhere.

Why did you continue to scream? That's a very strange thing to do. A squeal and jumping when it happened is normal enough but to actually scream several times?

Did you mean sympathetic jaysee?

Witchend DS is the same as your dd2. I often tell him he would be asking for morphine if he got a period pain.

My poor 3 year old didn't scream when I accidentally did the same thing to him. Only the hot tea went all over his legs. Cafe staff ran a sink of cold water for him and we sat him in it for 10 mins. He was fine and doesn't even remember it now, 11 years on.
I know it's painful but I think you were being very dramatic.

I think Jayfee is meaning some of us posters are more empathetic, of the OP's incident. Jayfee?

Is this one of those threads written from the POV of a six year old?

My mother behaves like this, too. She's in her 60s and, quite frankly, it's embarrassing to be around her when she does. She also does the huffing, and the complaining, and passive-aggressive remarks (usually snide ones quickly follow, muttered under her breath so that the person they're aimed at doesn't hear... except they mostly do, because she has no concept of being quiet), because she can't stand the attention not being on her.

We ignore her, mostly (although I've spent a lifetime apologising to sales assistants, waiting staff, workmen...).

My daughter retaliates - but they're of a similar personality type, so...

I expect your family are embarrassed by your immaturity. And yes; I'm sure it did hurt. I've burned myself in a similar vein (what is it with leaky teapot spouts in cafes?!), sucked in a sharp breath, blown on it, carried on with conversing, without expecting anyone else to show/display/be concerned. I'm not brave, or impervious to pain... I'm simply not a drama llama.

If you have children, OP, please think of the example you're setting to them.

You didn't really scream and squeal did you?

I'm cringing a bit about the screams, though, OP, and wondering how loud they were. Apologies if you were in any real pain.

My ds had an accident yesterday and needs plastic surgery on Monday. .
Makes your hand seems very trivial. . .

all just eating cake and chatting - what did you want them to be doing??? Rushing around looking for ways to save you?

They could have said "everything ok?" Though. I would have, even if I thought you were being a wimp.

I have all over chronic body pain. My system is very inflamed so I feel pain far more intensely than I should. I am a highly sensitive person. HSP's apparently feel emotions and pain more intensely. I have a very specialised Myofascial release specialist give me 1.5 hours of massage. It hurts so much sometimes I have to give a sign as I'm starting to lose consciousness. I used to take some hard core drugs prescribed by the pain clinic and stopped. I could go on but suffice to say I know A LOT about pain.

I don't think your post is about physical pain.

I don't know what you're trying to achieve from your post. And I'm struggling to understand how getting burnt could have hurt that much. I think the secondary crying and squealing was symptomatic of how you think you are ignored by your family. So perhaps you should look at ways of boosting your self esteem.

Crying and screaming? I think you have your answer.

Blimey, not much sympathy on here eh? The OP didn't say how much was spilled onto her hand, but FWIW, I had a similar accident with a cafetière, pressed the plunger down and boiling water splashed up the inside of my arm. It was bloody painful and yes I cried a little too! I was also left with a scar!

I could understand crying a little at the shock of the initial burn but continuing to scream and squeal for several minutes afterwards is OTT.

Mrscropley (((hug))) you poor thing, and your ds! Is he ok?

I had similar a few years ago with my ds, accident caused burns to 13% of his body. 2 ops and thankfully 3 years on he's fine.

The water that burned him was probably cooler than the water that burned op.

It hurts. A lot! And IS very dangerous!

There are a lot of really unpleasant people here and in your family. If that were me it'd change MY reactions to responding to their needs etc.

Op, hope you're ok.

I'm sorry, but I'm peeing myself laughing here!

I got a cup of boiling coffee over my stomach in the uni refectory and had to go into the ladies and take off my jeans and splash cold water on my belly for quite a few minutes. ( I still have a colloidaldal scar.)

I made less fuss than you. (In retrospect I should have gone to Accident and Emergency, but I just put a lint thingy slathered with zinc and castor oil cream on it when I got home).

As one learns in First Aid the noisiest casualty is rarely the worst injured, it's the quiet one lying on the floor!

Indeed SirGawain indeed.

Perhaps they should put hazard tape around the tea set next time you're out. Sounds massively over dramatic imo