AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

[PhyllisNights]

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

Oh Phyllis ...... don't ever change

What happened with the baby shower?

How did you convince your friends to throw one for you? Was it good enough?

Was it good enough?

I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange),

Ugh

Gosh, I was hoping this was a wind up but I don't get the sense that it is! I'm sorry you're feeling upset OP on a basic compassionate level, equally I struggle to empathise with you as I personally hate the whole baby shower craze, hate the idea of expecting gifts for what is an individual decision to have a child and would never ever dream of actively asking for someone to organise one for me! I myself left work last week for maternity leave (first child) and didn't even get a card, never mind a meal or the expectation of gifts! Just a normal working day and then I was off. But it honestly doesn't bother me (and I get on really well with my colleagues). Maybe accept that they did mark and celebrate your maternity leave, (just not in the way that you wanted them to) and focus now on the run up to your little one arriving?

Man are you going to be shocked when the baby gets here, I can see the threads now "why is my baby not letting me get my 8 hrs sleep"

Sorry for being a prick about it but u need chill out there is more important things going on for you, presumably in the next few weeks!

Well, yeah. See you in a year. You're going on mat leave, and what? A meal and card is perfectly reasonable.

What are you going to be like with your friends and family when PFB actually arrives?!?

Was about to say UABU until I realised Phyllis was the OP. An exception can be made ....

Just look for a star in the east is my new favourite mumsnet quote EVER.

Love Phyllis

Sounds like they've had enough of you and it's time to look in the mirror?

Read the whole thing thinking maybe there was some epic drip freed fest but nope you're a right old up your own chuff cunty pants. You're having a baby not curing a disease. We've all had them you're not special, chicken.

Phyllis, I get you. I can see why you're disappointed. When people go on mat leave where I work, there's a huge company beano, a dinner out, party, presents, inflatable helter skelter/sumo wrestling, all paid for by the business. My team went out at lunchtime and bought me lots of pizza topped with birthday candles, just to make a fuss. We're all important, though, and there's no particular hierarchy, so that could have something to do with it. Maybe you should send a card to say thanks but setting out your expectations for presents, cards and flowers when the baby is born. Hugz.

Read the whole thing thinking maybe there was some epic drip freed fest but nope you're a right old up your own chuff cunty pants. You're having a baby not curing a disease. We've all had them you're not special, chicken

Harsh man, real harsh.

Oh this can't be real..

It's hard to take when things don't go as one hoped, don't let it get you down.

Phyllis , maybe you're not as well liked as you thought, might that be the case here.

Phyllis I am sure I recall you mentioning your sister in law on your last popular thread, I wonder if you often compare your life to her life and that's what is making you feel a bit neglected and hard done by- the comparison? If you hadn't known about her fancy send off, hadn't been anxious about having to report back to her, wouldn't you have been pleased with a joint card and lunch out? Try not to feel insecure, or let it make you competitive: enjoy your life that you lead

Well said Muss Daisy

Oh Phyllis - ignore the nasties - you're a gem and you've made my sides hurt - please, please, please make a mammy blog once PFB is born

HardPiper Fri 04-Aug-17 23:17:29
Read the whole thing thinking maybe there was some epic drip freed fest but nope you're a right old up your own chuff cunty pants. You're having a baby not curing a disease. We've all had them you're not special, chicken

Classy

(Haven't read the other threads, yet to work that one out)
It's the norm to receive a bag of nowt when you pop off to have a child, unless you happen to work with a ceremonious bunch or are particularly friendly with them.
Enjoy your maternity and don't fret about non-problems

Yabu. These are your work colleagues not a fan club. I think it's nice you all went out for lunch.

Ah! Perhaps they didn't realise that you've chosen to have a child?

You're totally right - your colleagues should definitely give a shit about your lifestyle choices and shower you with gifts for making decisions that are irrelevant to your work! Why wouldnn't they!?!

What arseholes!

Maybe they don't care about your choice to have a baby (can't imagine why.... You're a delight). Whenever my colleagues have gone on Mat leave I've wished them luck and said bye as I'll see them in a few months. Most sane people wouldn't expected a work baby shower.