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Wedding First Dance

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TheCatOfAthenry · 04/08/2017 18:31

Getting married to DP next July.

I feel doing a choreographed YMCA, Macarena or ShaddapaYaFace would be spectacular. He disagrees.

We have discussed the possibility of omitting it entirely, but are still looking for common ground.

AIBU or is he BU? Any alternative suggestions?

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TheCatOfAthenry · 08/08/2017 00:48

@viques I had also considered the Haka!

We could incorporate Shakespeare too. "Macca Haka" anyone? Grin

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1forAll74 · 08/08/2017 01:24

Do some Irish dancing, Michael Flatley style. everyone usually likes Irish music and dance, especially after 6 pints of Guinness.

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TheCatOfAthenry · 08/08/2017 01:32

Although I am Irish, I have all the grace (but thankfully not the body) of an elephant on night time cough syrup.

I'd genuinely worry that my more timid guests would scurry away in fright.

The Maori Haka would frankly be more soothing...

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Hassled · 08/08/2017 07:26

I think you need to learn and perform Beyonce's routine in Run the World - it's really dead simple and I'm sure could be learnt in 5 minutes or so. All your DH would need to do is watch while looking a bit baffled. .

PoppyPopcorn · 08/08/2017 11:06

Choreographed anything is just cringeworthy. Please dont.

DownstairsMixUp · 08/08/2017 14:27

I didn't even have a dance, couldn't bear it. I would be in the cringing crowd if i had to watch a dance routine.

BabychamSocialist · 08/08/2017 17:49

I'm walking down the aisle to this so I might not be the person to ask, but after much deliberation our first 'dance' (more like two middle-aged people with back people shuffling) is going to be 'Happy Hour' by the Housemartins, because we're pretty sure we both went to one of their concerts as our first gig when we were teens (in different areas of the country).

Mummyandthemermaids · 08/08/2017 20:26

I've suggested doing the Hokey Cokey for ours. DP less than impressed - desperately trying to avoid dancing on our own in front of everyone but can't quite bring myself to leave it entirely Confused

Purple52 · 08/08/2017 21:54

We learnt to dance - but didn't choreography- but reacted to the audience and the space and the music for swirls and twirls!!
... that way it couldn't go wrong! Because it wasn't that planned!

Purple52 · 08/08/2017 21:55

PS highly recommended dance classes .... it's like foreplay ... but in public so not putting your hands when they aren't seen!!!

honeyharris · 09/08/2017 00:01

Don't think there is a common ground. You can't make a solo journey to ridiculous island.

glitterlips1 · 21/08/2017 11:40

I think those sorts of dances are naff now, so many people have done them that they are more cringe than wow.

SamanthaUnkim · 13/10/2017 20:45

danza kuduro

Easy to learn, fun & every one can join in :-)

SockUnicorn · 14/11/2017 16:03

Big no here as well, hate the idea of watching the bride and groom do a big routine. cringe

Ttbb · 14/11/2017 16:06

Trust your husband on this one...and most things going forward Confused

user1471596238 · 14/11/2017 16:14

Adam Ant: Prince Charming

3nonblondedd78 · 14/11/2017 16:17

My sister had Zorba the Greek. Almost everyone joined in. But she was a more mature bride.

glitterlips1 · 20/11/2017 08:55

Been done a zillion times at weddings so people won't think it is something out of the ordinary.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 20/11/2017 09:06

Sorry, but every single choreographed wedding dance I have seen has been utter cringe worthy shite. Even when done in an 'ironic' manner they have just come across as bad with half the guests looking through their hands with embarrassment. Most of the time it is clearly the bride who had instigated the dance with a clearly mortified groom going through the motions. Just don't.

heron98 · 20/11/2017 09:37

I think all first dances are cringey. I hate watching them, and would never do one if I ever get married. Choreographed dancing is even worse. Don't do it!

Blondephantom · 20/11/2017 10:08

Clearly there is only one option. A mash up. Start with something you can have a twirl and slow shuffle to and quickly go into short bursts of all the cheesy classics.

Frazzled2207 · 20/11/2017 10:16

We had lessons and choreography for our first dance, I was so worried about people looking at me shuffling incompetently!

It was totally unflashy, just a case of both of us (vaguely) knowing what we were doing.
I hope it wasn’t cringeyBlush

Birdshitbridgegotme · 20/11/2017 10:28

How about doing a bit of both? So a nice slow lovey dovwy dance then music cuts to YMCA? Just as the slow one is gwtting boring for people bam thwy get a surprise and reel the interest back

mermaidinmycoffeecup · 04/12/2017 12:20

I used to think choreographed wedding dances were cringe until will Sil did one at her wedding.It was brilliant and really made the party memorable.Yes it was a bit funny but it got everyone smiling. At first we were wtf? then awww it was sweet.

wasonthelist · 04/12/2017 12:34

but I'm a flash kind of lady who needs to strut her stuff.

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